cant get along with patient, need advice

Without specifics, it's hard to advise you. One thing to keep in mind though is that there are going to be many patients you don't get along with and have to take care of. The pt won't be at your facility forever and you still have to make a living.

Do you work in a nursing home? If so, I wouldn't let one patient drive you away from your job. The same thing will happen at other facilities. There will always be patients that dislike particular nurses.

I am sorry you are so discouraged! It is very difficult to be around someone like that knowing that they aren't going anywhere anytime soon. Acute care people come and go, LTC they are around longer.

I had the same situation happen to me many years ago. A female resident I took care of went out of her way to be very hateful to me. She even would say..."I don't want that schoolgirl taking care of me tonight." I was like 16 years old then...a CNA. She put me in tears after work on more than one occasion.

Later after I thought about it, I was not the only one she was hateful to. She had her favorites and I was not one of them. I think it was maybe her way of having a sense of control over the situation. She had both of her legs amputated and all of her children had disowned her. Her assets were gone, her health was nothing to write home about....the list goes on and on. Eventually, I felt pity for her. I stuck it out and when she saw I wasn't going anywhere...she gave up. She found someone else to take her problems out on. Maybe I reminded her of someone she disliked I don't know but at the time it was awful.

I feel for you...please take care!

I wouldn't let the situation embarrass you. There will be times patients do not like you. There will also be times that you are not going to like your patient. We are all different and some personalities get along better than others (then there are those who just don't get along with anyone!). I would first evaluate the situation. Is it possible that you unintentionally said something that could have offended her? If not, then chalk it up to a fault she has and make arrangements with another nurse to take care of her in exchange for one of her patients if that is a possibility. I would discuss the situation with my supervisor. I do agree with Beary...sometimes we need to look at the "big picture" that influences our residents to behave as they do and not take their actions personally.

First thing I would do is knock on her door and ask if she had a minute or two to chat and get it out and find out if it was something you said or did to offend her and go from there you cannot continue to avoid each other.

Don't let this one woman take away a career that means something to you. She is a sad individual. Another poster wrote on this board that it might be her way of taking control, and it very well may be. Don't take anything too personally. There are many many reasons why a patient might not like a particular nurse (or CNA or doctor even). Don't be embarrassed to give up her care to someone else. This is no reflection on you. Not everyone will like us all of the time. Do the best you can and when you hit the wall, walk around and move on. Good luck to you in your career...

Kill her with kindness...well, not *literally*

Seriously, though...all thru NS my instructors would give me the "difficult" patients knowing by the end of the day I'd have them purring like pussycats.

I'd just kill them with kindness....most sincerely.

perhaps you could get transfered to another hall/floor

document what is going on if she is rude to you she might be complaining to superiors about a bunch of things and you need to have your side of things on paper