I just started as a unit sec. on an ICU unit and so far everyone I have met in the unit has told me NOT to go into nursing!
One of the physicians told me that if I do go into nursing, not to stop with my ADN because in order for me to enjoy my future job I will have to have a masters and be working outside a hospital setting.
First of all, I didnt ask for the advice, and secondly, they are undermining my determination. Why are nurses so miserable and why do they disuade students from joining the force? Are things THAT bad? I haven't started to rethink nursing school YET, but all this negativity is wearing me down...(oh, and it's not just the unit I work in that has this attitude, all the nurses I meet-including my own mother who is an RN-are VERY negative about the field!)
Jul 10, '02
we've said this before on these boards; you have to have an inner "something" that makes you care about people and improve their condition. it isn't the money, or the work environment.
you can be as successful as you want to be-it just depends upon how hard you want to work. a master's is not necessary to become a nurse. there are multiple threads here related to the benefits of lpn, adn, bsn, msn, crna, np, etc. just pick one, and read.
there are also threads relative to why some folks take it upon themselves to try to dissuade enthusiastic folks from getting into nursing. our profession needs folks like you, and don't let the naysayers get to you. they tried to dissuade most of the notable people in history from their desired course, too! it is either because they are envious of you, or so burned-out and cynical that they forget that there was once a time they were enthusiastic about becoming a nurse, too!
what these folks are doing is cutting their own throats!
if they continue to discourage new folks from entering the profession, the numbers will continue to dwindle as we age. if you look at it that way, there will be fewer floor nurses to take care of us nurses, as we age!
keep the faith, amy, and best of luck!
Last edit by Cathy Wilson, RN on Jul 10, '02
Jul 11, '02
please do not allow others to keep you from pursuing what you are passionate about doing with your life.....that is...if you are passionate about becoming a nurse. without passion for what one desires in life, what's the point in pursuing something?
some people are well meaning in what they say to others...they think they are doing you a favor...trying to spare you the heartache and disappointment that often times comes with any job you may undertake. the key is in the passion within you to want something bad enough that you will let nothing short of death prevent that goal from being realized.
i have no regrets for becoming a nurse. i have enjoyed nursing completely since my student nursing days way back in the early 1980's. have there been times when i have wanted to scream at the top of my lungs "why on earth did i become a nurse in the first place if this is what it's all about"? you bet!!! i've thought that about many avenues of my life. name me a job where everyone is happy and excited about what they do? there aren't any, amy. none! zip! so, when those "burned out nurses" say to you "don't become a nurse...blah...blah...blah, say to them any...or all...of the following:
(1) "it worked for you didn't it? hasn't nursing been good to you and your family?"
(2) "thank you for sharing your frustrations and personal opinions with me regarding how you are feeling about your occupation of nursing. i'm sure it must be tough for you sometime. would you like to vent...i have the time?"
(3) "i can respect where you may be at in nursing right now. i'm sure in every job there comes a time when one questions why they keep doing what they do, but much of life is like that. perhaps you need to take a break from nursing for awhile...to regroup and destress..rethink your choice of being a nurse? perhaps there is some other yearning within you that you have always wanted to pursue, but you've just not made the time to invest in that other interest or passion in your life. when i become nurse, i am not going to continue nursing if i ever reach a point where i can not give it my all. that's when i will take a sabbatical from it while pursuing the many other talents that i have."
just blow their socks off with those statements. most people who whine a lot about the miseries of their life simply need a "listening ear", "a shoulder to lean on from time to time", a little individual tlc from time to time since they are always giving until it hurts, but not receiving a caring spirit from someone else as much as they would like to. practice being a nurse right now by offering individuals like this your listening ear, your shoulder of compassion, your ability to shed postivity on an otherwise gloomy time in those well-seasoned nurses lives, and see if they aren't calmed by the fact that you care enough to listen...where as no one else seems to be doing much or any of the above.
i wish you well in nursing school, amy....and if by chance you decide to do something other than nursing...make that decision based on what you know is true about yourself...not on what someone else is trying to discourage you from doing based on their own misery with their current situations in their job, lives, or what nots.
Last edit by live4today on Jul 11, '02