Rejected from dream job - page 3

So I have about a year and a half of med surg nursing under my belt. I made it through two rounds of interviewing and a shadow on my dream unit and got good feedback from everyone until I was told... Read More

  1. by   NurseKait_11
    Quote from KatieMI
    Well...

    I really dislike when people are lying into my face. I understand that's what HR and management are living and breathing with and that nowadays lying became a socially acceptable and even expected behavior but it doesn't make it right.

    Thank you note? Maybe. Goodies? H*** no. And I would really, really evaluate if I want ever work in place where people are lying to each other.
    I think what this poster is trying to say is that she hates when Hiring managers or whomever they interview with tells people that they did a great job and give candidates great feedback, but then turn around and not offer the job... If I am understanding correctly, it feels like lying.

    But there can be so much more going in to hiring process and not everyone is out to get you or managers are always lying to your face. You could be honestly doing a great job and getting good feedback, and yet something goes on that you're not hired. Sometimes, that's just the way it goes. You can't take it personally, as frustrating it may be. Instead, ask what you could have improved on to make you a stand-out candidate next interview.
    Last edit by NurseKait_11 on Sep 13
  2. by   Pixie.RN
    Quote from NurseKait_11
    I think what this poster is trying to say is that she hates when HR tells people that they did a great job and give candidates great feedback, but then turn around and not offer the job... If I am understanding correctly, it feels like lying.

    But there can be so much more going in to hiring process and not everyone is out to get you or HR people are always lying to your face. You could be honestly doing a great job and getting good feedback, and yet something goes on that you're not hired. Sometimes, that's just the way it goes. You can't take it personally, as frustrating it may be. Instead, ask what you could have improved on to make you a stand-out candidate next interview.
    Generally in healthcare and in my experience, HR is not involved in the hiring decision. We tell them who we want to hire, and they extend the offer and go from there.
  3. by   NurseKait_11
    Quote from Pixie.RN
    Generally in healthcare and in my experience, HR is not involved in the hiring decision. We tell them who we want to hire, and they extend the offer and go from there.
    You are so right. I edited my post. I was trying to understand what the other poster was saying when she referenced people lying to her face. But you're right! It's not really HRs decision. I have been interviewed by some HR people and then again by a manger but yes, the managers often make the final decision!
  4. by   DowntheRiver
    At my current (dream) job, I just wanted into this hospital system so I applied to any and every job. I went through 2 HR interviews and 2 manager interviews only to be rejected. I applied to one last position on a whim, got the the HR interview, aced the manager interview, and was offered a new job within a week. I beat out like 4 current employees as well who wanted to transfer within the hospital. So, it does happen! Don't give up. It took me having 3 years total experience to get my dream job so just keep working hard. Also, do send that thank you note to the manager!
  5. by   Ruby Vee
    Quote from Ddestiny
    Okay....inquiring minds "must" know....what kind of job requires 13 interviews? Could they really have that many different things to go over that it required so many? The most I've ever had was 3 interviews per position so I just can't imagine how I'd respond as they were asking me to schedule interview #10, 11, 12.....
    Nurse manager of CCU in a private hospital. Two interviews with HR, one with the current manager and assistant managers, one with a staff committee, one with the stepdown unit's management team, one with the management team of the other ICU in the hospital, one with the helicopter team's management team, one with the CEO of the hospital and the rest with various cardiologists in their offices off site. The interviews were scheduled for my days off, which meant I gave up my days off for interviews for about three to four weeks. In the end, I was so relieved not to get the job -- I went out to celebrate with the other three "losers".
  6. by   ERnurse19
    Same thing happened to me! I applied for my dream job at a different hospital and got the job! Then I actually received a phone call from the job that did not hire me about 6 months after being rejected asking if I was still interested. So anything is possible!
  7. by   jrbl77
    I once got what I thought was my dream job. It turned out that I was placed into a position I never should have never been in. Did management support me, no. Turned out to be a big disaster. Moral of the story, the grass isn't always greener on the other side of the fence!
  8. by   CRCollins515
    There was a better candidate, simple as that. They conducted the interviews, narrowed it down, and chose the more experienced or knowledgeable applicant. You were not "rejected" and they did not "lie to your face". Being a nurse means it is time to grow up, accept you will not always get your way, and show appreciation that you were selected for the interview process. Find your maturity, send that thank you note, and wait for the next opening.
  9. by   T-Bird78
    I worked in a small doctor's office and the manager brought in two nurses, about two weeks apart, for a working interview and to see how they got along with the team. I asked if we were expanding because all the nursing positions were filled, and she said no. That makes you concerned, knowing she's interviewing people for one of your positions!

    I had an interview with a peds office right out of nursing school, my peds/OB teacher had pulled some strings to get me the interview. I interviewed with the manager, the nursing supervisor, the head physician of the practice, and was told to come back Monday to shadow the LPN. They called HR and told them to fast-track me through the orientation process and sent me straight to the corporate HR office to fill out the paperwork and formal application. They had my ID, my W2, my SSN, copy of my BLS card, all the forms filled out, the whole nine yards. On my way home from there they called me and told me they'd given the job to a candidate with peds experience. THAT made me mad because I was essentially hired, then I had to call the corporate HR and tell them I had to cancel my orientation they'd rushed to get me in. Don't give up, just keep working and your dream job will come to you!
  10. by   lashawn04
    I've interviewed for what I thought was my dream job and did not get it. I've also interviewed for positions, got rejected, then got an offer after the first choice didn't work out.

    I have shadowed at a place I thought I would love, and ended the interview process immediately after because I knew I wasn't the right fit.

    I've also accepted a job that was not in my area of expertise, I thought I would hate but took out of desperation, and ended up loving it and cannot see myself anywhere else.
  11. by   Steffy44
    Perhaps they were willing to give you a shot even with limited experience. However, maybe they hired someone with more experience. With shortages, having a lot of experience saves the unit in the long run. Don't give up though. People move all the time. Keep plugging away and get that experience. Next time you'll be the one hired. 😉
  12. by   JT45678
    I interviewed for what I "thought" was my dream job 4 times. While I was waiting to hear back from the 4th time, I got another interview at another facility...I've been there now a year and I'm positive that THIS is where I'm supposed to be. Everything happens for a reason. Best of luck to you.
  13. by   CapeCodMermaid
    Happens all the time. At least they told you you didn't get the job. I've had interviews lasting 2-3 hours after an hour phone interview and had my references called only to not get the job AND never being told one way or the other. When I was interviewing people, I'd always tell them one way or the other.

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