I am in tears! (long)

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I never really had the best relationship with my only sister and tis is because we are as different as dya and night but we both know that we love each other. i was so excied to tell er my news about my acceptance to nursing school and also my academic achivements. all se could say was "oh thas nice but arent you already like a nurses, how much more are you gonna do after school" she mbasically said that i was wasting my time and ard work trying to b a nurse. she also had somethnig to say about my school of choice becasue it very expensive. her first reaction was really "how are you gonna afford this" i just held back and said wih scholarships and fin aid and loans if i have to.i was really upset wit her reactions i tried to expain how important and educated nurses are and for what reasons but i dont think i did a good job. i am so upset because i did not agree with her career choice but i would never in a million years tell her she is wasting her time and that her career of choice is just butt wiping that anyone can do.i dont know i am not mad at her though bu i am hurt because i want her to be proud of me and routing for me. At my high shcool graduation she was so proud!!! she threw me a party , bought me a gift,and had the biggest array of ballons out of all the other graduates family. she knew a long that i wanted ot be a nurse but why would she wait until now, almost the happiest time in my life. i guess she wants the best for me and really doesnt understand nursing as a proffession. i dont know, i was so happy to tell her especiaaly since i finished my last final today! i am sure i passed all my classes but i think a may have gotten a couple of c's but i am still proud of myself. i forgive my sister for her ignorance becuase i know she wouldn jus do somehing to hurt me. she didnt know........

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Relax, Take a deep breath. I'm sure your sister has no idea that she has hurt your feelings. I gather from your post she is older then you and works as a NA, perhaps she is a little jealous. Maybe she is worried that you'll get in over your head financially. I'm thinking that at the end of the quarter emotions tend to run high, and you're a little more sensitive then usual.

And I do want to add that being a NA is not just wiping butts and that not just anyone can be a good NA. I'm an RN, and let me tell you my job is alot easier when I have a good NA at my side.

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Sometimes ppl don't take the time to understand. You'll be fine, I know it's nice to hear positive things from the ones you love, but it dosn't always happen this way, believe me, I know!

If it means anything, I'm proud of you for getting into La Salle (I've also looked into it and know it's a good school) Don't worry about your C's, we all have them at some time or another!

Keep your chin up and keep up the good work, you'll make an awesome nurse! You'll be the kind of caring and compasionate, driven nurse that I'll want to work along side when I move out there!!!!!:kiss

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When you calm down in the next day or two. Gently tell her she hurt your feelings and you would appreciate her support and it is unacceptable to drag you down.

With or without her approval and support follow you dreams. Never give up. Don't let anyone bring you down.

When you need the support of those who understand, you know where to go. Here at allnurses.com!!!

Hugs.

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I second Tweety wholeheartedly. :cool:

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Agree with the others.

You did a good thing venting here. What next????

NOW breathe deeply and relax. give it a couple days to put it in perspective. I DOUBT your sister said these things to hurt you ---although there may be subconscious envy and a desire to somehow sabotage your acheivements--- due to a lack of self esteem on her part. I dunno.I have a similarly problematic relationship with an envious sister myself. She envies my work because she thinks "its meaninful unlike hers" (her words). All this despite the fact she makes 4 times what I do. So money is not a be-all, end all, I guess, even among relatively wealthy folks.

But I digress......Trust me in this: Honey, you will come out smelling like a ROSE if you do NOT react emotionally to her words. Take pride in your accomplishments and realize some people are either too small or too clueless to understand our acheivments. Some are outright jealous. Sometimes, we have to pat ourselves on the back to get any recognition at all.

Do just that. GO out and have a nice dinner or to a day spa and pamper yourself. Tell yourself "job well done" and then let go of all this. You won't change Sis one iota. Fret not, we are proud of you here. HUGS!

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Thanks guys, i know she didnt mean to hurt me but i dont understand how she could say something so unacceptable. someone said something like "college is not big i their family" i know the feeling because out of my mom's children and her siblings children i was the first to graduate high school on time and go to college(i am not tooting my own horn) my faily supports me i guess, they are just like oh your in college. i dont think hey really undrstand the value in it. i dont know i know they love me but they just dont i dont know. my biggest supporters are you all, my best friends, and my boyfriend. and i am ok with that i will just accept everything for what it is and live my life. thanks for listening:confused:

Originally posted by SmilingBluEyes

I have a similarly problematic relationship with an envious sister myself.

Me too. They don't call it sibling rivalry for nothing.

I've just had to detach myself emotionally from it, although it's easier said than done.

The fact is, it's hard for some people to celebrate success when it's not theirs. Sometimes I think it's even harder for a sibling, who might feel you're doing better than they are.

JKim first off, congrats on making it through the semeter great job!

Sorry to hear your sister doesn't understand what you've chosen to do but most people don't understand what nurses do or why people become nurses. Seen that movie "Meet the parents"?

Others have made some really good sugestions, all I can add is remember who you doing this for.

Oh, and enjoy the winter break!!!!

:D

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Originally posted by Miss JKm

Thanks guys, i know she didnt mean to hurt me but i dont understand how she could say something so unacceptable. someone said something like "college is not big i their family" i know the feeling because out of my mom's children and her siblings children i was the first to graduate high school on time and go to college(i am not tooting my own horn) my faily supports me i guess, they are just like oh your in college. i dont think hey really undrstand the value in it. i dont know i know they love me but they just dont i dont know. my biggest supporters are you all, my best friends, and my boyfriend. and i am ok with that i will just accept everything for what it is and live my life. thanks for listening:confused:

well I think you spelled out WHY SIS reacted like she did. SHE IS JEALOUS. Hard to deal with that. Just be yourself. AND TOOT YOUR HORN TO ME...you oughta be PROUD hon!

I agree with the other posters. I also whole-heartedly agree with the idea that your sister may be jealous. Yep, wait a few days and then tell her that she hurt your feelings.

Way to go on your accomplishments thus far!! We are all very proud of you. Never give up, and keep plug in' away at school.

I want to pass something on to you. My aunt forwarned me that school gets hard sometimes, and everyone here can vouge for that. But just keep going-NEVER GIVE UP!! Look for support else where if your family isn't giving you what you need. I think you will find some other nursing students that will get together and form you own little support group. GOOD LUCK!!

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