Anyone working BUT dosen't have to? - page 3

I was so impressed by this nurse I met, she works at the hospital next door to the clinic I work at. I recently found out shes married to an NBA player, I asked her why shes working if shes married... Read More

  1. by   BrandonLPN
    Yeah, right, I'd still go into work at the nursing home after winning the lottery or landing some rich cougar. And then the universe would implode.
  2. by   hiddencatRN
    I'd work per diem. I get really bored with two much free time so I'd need to have something going on. I'd be pretty picky about where I worked tho. Definitely would not stay at a job unless it was a 100% great fit.
  3. by   Ntheboat2
    I don't consider being married to someone who is rich to be a reason not to work. That's for ME personally. I wouldn't be too happy if my husband decided he was going to quit his job and live off my income so why would it be okay for me to do the same? Even if I was told that I didn't have to, it would make me uncomfortable.

    Besides, life isn't a fairy tale, and marriages don't always last forever. I like knowing that I can support myself and my children without a man or his money. That's just me though. I've always thought it was kind of funny when a woman would buy her husband some lavish gift and boast about it. It's bought it with his money so why so much pride?

    I've never been a fan of the "traditional roles" either though. I know that some people enjoy staying at home with their children or whatever, but even then, I think the person who stays at home should have an education at LEAST so they have a means to support themselves if the situation arises. When things are good, they're really good, but when things are bad you'd be surprised at how quickly things become "MY house, MY car, MY money."

    I would have to work even if I became rich though. I hate staying at home. I about went crazy just during the short time I was on maternity leave long ago.
  4. by   lindseyhardenstine
    I have been very fortunate, but I don't have to work, I WANT to. My husband and I aren't rich but I don't have to work. I had always wanted to be a nurse so I decided to go back to school and got into an accelerated RN program. I finished the program in September and I'm soooo excited to start working...but I haven't had any luck in the job department because I am a new grad I am only 28 and I work part time in the Air National Guard, because I love helping people and serving my country. My husband keeps telling me not to worry about getting a job, we can completely manage without me having an income, I just want to work! I'm getting bored at home, and I worked so hard to get through school that I can't wait to start seeing new fun things and helping others!!!
  5. by   ChristopherB
    I worked with a RN who didn't have to work. Her husband was very successful and even if he lost his job tomorrow, they had enough money saved to live comfortably for the rest of their lives. Eventually, she quit working as a RN because of the possible risk to her personal safety(Not just combative patients, but needle sticks and exposure to diseases) and also any personal liability if someone sued her and the hospital for a mistake.

    I have two other friends who work in mental health and due to their grandfather passing away and leaving them, and his other grandchildren, money they don't have to work ever again, but they choose to work. They enjoy their jobs and get bored when they aren't working.

    If I won a large sum of money in the lottery and didn't have to work as an RN, I wouldn't. I'd probably travel for a while, then go back to college and take classes about topics I found fun and interesting.
  6. by   Despareux
    I don't have to work. My husband supports our family. I went back to school and worked because I believe it's important for everyone to have something to fall back on just in case something happens in your life and your resources are no longer there. Even if life came with guarantees, I would still work as an RN.
  7. by   Kooky Korky
    Quote from MedChica
    My man makes more than enough to support the household. He told me that I didn't have to work.
    I do, anyway.
    Right now, it's about building my career. I'd still work as a nurse in some capacity no matter how well off I was. Of course, income potential lies in nursing...but in the beginning? You have to pay some dues and have the right amt of exp to command the major salaries. Of course, income potential is on the side of nursing...but I took a paycut to become a nurse.
    If it were all about money, I would've stayed on the business track. I decided to 'Go Nursing', for a reason.
    It's me. It's me...actualized. No matter how hard my day just appeals to my personality. I give. I teach. I care. I contribute to society. I help. I love it. My work is meaningful. I wear my little LVN letters with pride.

    Other than that? It's nice to be self-reliant. What if he got laid off? What if we break up? What if he gets hurt and CAN'T work? What would I do? What would WE do? What if we married and divorced? How would I support myself...our children? Where would that leave me?

    Say what you will but it's a stupid woman, indeed, who doesn't cover her bets. ...who doesn't think ahead.
    'She' deserves all that she has coming to her and...I never feel sorry for formerly rich exes who feel as though they have to drive their exes to court for aid. I don't. These women have seemingly approached their relationships/marriage as though they've nothing to offer to any man but their uterus. It's pathetic.
    Now, the chickens have come home to roost... They've broken up.
    She's sitting about 'without a pot to p/ss in or a winda to throw it outta'. Pride on the floor, having to beg for scrabs from the table...and, presumably, looking for another 'sponsor'. I don't feel sorry for the spouses of these women, either. They deserve to be taken to the cleaners. That's what happens when you choose form over substance. Next time, hitch your wagon to a female that has the potential to be moree than 'dead weight'.

    Also? A person needs something to do with themselves. I couldn't care less how much money that anyone has. Just because you're 'rich'/'wealthy' doesn't mean that you can't also be a loser.
    Look at these 'reality shows', for instance. Now why would anyone envy people who sit around with nothing to do but their hair (and nails)? What a bunch of useless individuals.
    Get a life.

    Offer the uterus? I think it's the little stop along the way that most men are interested in, LOL. I don't mean to be vulgar, it just struck me kinda funny.
  8. by   merrywhiterose
    My husband makes enough to live on, but we want to put money away for retirement & take vacations while we can. Besides, I'd go nuts staying at home all of the time since my kids are grown & out of the house. Also, like others commented, you never know how long marriages will last. I want to be able to support myself.
  9. by   rubato
    Well, besides a couple of comments about stay-at-home wives/moms, I've really enjoyed this thread.

    I am a stay-at-home mom/NS student. I have been at home for 13 years. Obviously I don't need to work. But, now that my son is off in middle school, I'm bored out of my mind. There's only so much volunteer work, exercise, cleaning and baking a person can do. I started back to school 2 years ago to give my life some fulfillment besides being a mom. I can't wait to become a nurse. I love every second of clinicals and want to be productive and help people.

    I am going to make my hubby be a stay-at-home husband/cabana boy though. It's my turn.
  10. by   Miiki
    My dad made my mom work. He was getting teased by his friends about his SAHM wife.
  11. by   Born_2BRN
    I don't need to work either. My husband earns enough pay check for us to live comfortably but it's my own investment an investment I have gained for myself not through my husband. I work part-time and no desire for full-time at this moment. I agreed with others who knows what tomorrow brings! It's better safe than sorry. I save as much as possible every paycheck in case we need it in the future.
  12. by   Dalzac
    I retired about 7 yrs ago. HATED IT! But my body was a broken after 38 yrs of nursing. I just hated staying home and between my hubby and my retirement we did okay, nothing great but comfy.
    I looked over my career and made points about the things I loved doing in nursing. My all time favorite was Coronary Care Unit. I loved all things heart. Esp arrhythmias. I liked watching heart monitors, in fact, I watched monitors going thru nursing school. I am also pretty disabled and have to use a cane. But watching monitors doesn't require patient or visitor contact. I am in a little dark room with 3 other people all cozy and warm, doing something I am very good at. I only work 9 shifts a month. 3 weekends a month Fridays saturdays and sundays.and always have a little vacation for 12 days a month. I love the people I work with and the hospital that gave me a chance even though I am older and disabled. I just cannot complain at all.
  13. by   NurseCard
    I believe that I would love to work as a volunteer nurse; I'm not sure where I would be able to do that in my area. Sometimes I think my job would actually be more satisfying to me if I were doing it on a voluntary basis; I know that sounds strange. I guess it would be nice to COMPLETELY be doing the job only because I want to.