Would you marry your prison pen pal?

smk1, LPN · Apr 10, 2005

Me either - who would want a prison pen pal?????
steph

people with WAY too much time on their hands.

crjnursewarrior · Apr 10, 2005

I have been reading articles about women who marry their "prison pen pals."
The "Night Stalker" married a woman with a bachelors degree in English and an IQ of 152. I read that "Scott Peterson" has received many marriage proposals from women. How about you? Would you marry your prison pen pal? :) Do you know women who married their " prison pen pals? How did it turn out? Thanks :)

I agree with the general consensus....NO WAY!! Would definitely not have a prison pen pal. My experience in working in corrections has taught me that most of what inmates say is pure fabrication! Who needs that trouble? :rotfl:

pmchap · Apr 10, 2005

This question is a little like asking who would marry a drug addict? From friends I have watched it is not those with low self esteem who do it (not only them anyway)... it is also those who think that they can save everyone. One good school friend seems to continually have a trail of excon/addict boyfriends - she just thinks that she can save them. She is a great little nurse but performs only average at work because she is so busy saving her latest.

The trouble with these guys is anyone can pretend/attempt/con (call it what you will) to straighten up but after a month or so - when she thinks that she is making a difference/ and they think that she will never leave them - they start to fall back into their old patterns - usually she tries to support and help them through it... but usually after 6 or so months she has hand her heart/sole /mind broken and they are off doing something/someone/ or more time...There is being a caring person and then there is going to far - she is a good friend but she seems to always just to that little bit to far.

blue chips · Apr 10, 2005

I have been reading articles about women who marry their "prison pen pals."
The "Night Stalker" married a woman with a bachelors degree in English and an IQ of 152. I read that "Scott Peterson" has received many marriage proposals from women. How about you? Would you marry your prison pen pal? :) Do you know women who married their " prison pen pals? How did it turn out? Thanks :)

HELL NO. only despreate and ugly women marry prison pals. :rotfl: :rotfl: :chuckle :chuckle

Blackcat99 · Apr 10, 2005

:chuckle I am wondering about the advantages of being married to a prison inmate? You don't have to share your TV remote with him. He's not around to make a big mess. When I think about my ex and all the problems I sometimes think I would have been better off if I would have married an inmate serving a life sentence with no chance of parole. :rotfl:

LPN1974, LPN · Apr 10, 2005

:chuckle I am wondering about the advantages of being married to a prison inmate? You don't have to share your TV remote with him. He's not around to make a big mess. When I think about my ex and all the problems I sometimes think I would have been better off if I would have married an inmate serving a life sentence with no chance of parole. :rotfl:

Well, what WOULD be the advantage?

He won't be there to work and help make a living and pay the bills.

When you need anything done around the house he won't be there to do it.

He won't be there to give you any physical attention.

He won't be there to take care of you when you get sick.

I think a person would be better off by themselves as opposed to being to married to a prisoner!

I can't think of any advantage that could come out of it. Maybe for HIM, there might be something, but even for HIM I find it hard to find any advantage.

UnewmeB4 · Apr 10, 2005

This question is a little like asking who would marry a drug addict? From friends I have watched it is not those with low self esteem who do it (not only them anyway)... it is also those who think that they can save everyone. One good school friend seems to continually have a trail of excon/addict boyfriends - she just thinks that she can save them. She is a great little nurse but performs only average at work because she is so busy saving her latest.
The trouble with these guys is anyone can pretend/attempt/con (call it what you will) to straighten up but after a month or so - when she thinks that she is making a difference/ and they think that she will never leave them - they start to fall back into their old patterns - usually she tries to support and help them through it... but usually after 6 or so months she has hand her heart/sole /mind broken and they are off doing something/someone/ or more time...There is being a caring person and then there is going to far - she is a good friend but she seems to always just to that little bit to far.

Been there, done that! You can only hope they wake up and smell the roses.

People in the health care field are indeed at risk for unhealthy relationships as they are "hooked on helping people". ..perhaps an addiction in itself? People are people are people. The best we can do for ourSELVES is to care about ourself first, to treat ourselves with respect and love and compassion, and with the knowledge that we create the world we live in, "for better or worse".

BRANDY LPN · Apr 10, 2005

I have a friend who is in prison, he robbed a bank when he was about 23 or so. Now I was friends with this guy all through high school and beyond, he moved away from here for a few years and got into alot of "stuff" he shouldn't have, he comes from a very good family, upper middle class, religious, supportive ect. He made a very huge bad choice and has been in prison for about 5 or 6 yrs and has 6 more to go. He calls me frequently we exchange christmas cards ect. I don't think I am tryign to "save" him but I do think it is important for him to stay connected to his community and his friends, for him to have something to look forward to about coming home to know there are ppl here who care about him even though he made a major mistake. That being said would I marry him? NOPE. but I wouldn't have considered marrying him before he became a convict either. And I wouldn't be penpals with a prisoner just for kicks either.

Marie_LPN, RN, LPN, RN · Apr 10, 2005

I can't think of any advantage that could come out of it. Maybe for HIM, there might be something, but even for HIM I find it hard to find any advantage

Someone to have conjugal (sp?) visits with.

Someone to bring them stuff.

Long Term Care Columnist / Guide · Apr 10, 2005

I have a brother-in-law who has married FIVE TIMES during the 20 years he has been in & out of prison (mostly in). What happens is that when he is out, he gets involved with some lonely woman at whatever church happens to be helping him get back on his feet, they stay in contact after he's busted for parole violation, and while he's in they get married. Then, when he's about to be released again, he files for divorce.......and the whole cycle begins again. :stone

Me, I can't even imagine being so hungry for male attention that I'd 'date' a prisoner, keep up correspondence for years, marry him in OR out of prison......but then, what do I know, I've never been a single woman, except for a brief period between leaving my parents' home and meeting the man who is now my husband.

BELLE0924 · Apr 10, 2005

Never.... It's crazy, and your asking for trouble. Not to mention I would never have a prison pen pal to begin with.

nurseT · Apr 10, 2005

:barf01: Sick!

One of the cooks at the jail I work at, just got fired for that. Turns out she got the hots for this trustee that was 20 yrs younger than her. He left our jail to go to prison, and she started seeing him at DOC. When he got out, she moved him into her home. She got fired because that made her a security risk. I'm sure she was lonley, but Gawd, that's desperate.