So many of you are amazing people and nurses. The time you put in responding to posts on Allnurses really does make a difference.
BUT.
When people come here asking for advice on a situation, they are not looking for your opinion of them as a person or their behavior. You all know what threads I'm talking about.
It's one thing to point out that their behavior could potentially be dangerous to patients.
It's one thing to be honest and tell them that their future doesn't look too bright.
It's one thing to suggest they may find seeing a therapist very helpful.
It's another to tell them they are mentally ill, mock them RELENTLESSLY, or judge them. When you do this to your fellow nurses (that have just come to you for advice), you're worse than that poor, scared soul you FLAMED for thinking a drug abuser may have a bloodborne illness.
These posters are often simply desperate, scared, or just plain curious!
I know it's important to have a thick skin when you work in healthcare, and I sure as heck am not busting out the trigger-words bully†or NETY.†It's just that even in my CNA class, it was emphasized over and over that it's not our place to judge patients. Can't you afford the same courtesy to other nurses?
I'm generally a pretty quiet person, but I believe in standing up for other people. So I just had to put this out there.
Specializes in Geriatrics, Mental Health, Community.
Really? It's the first sentence, where it is implied that the poster is too dumb to know which site she is on and is so childish as to need handholding.
And I didn't complain, I specifically said I thought it was funny.
You have made an incorrect assumption about what I implied. I was in no way intending to imply that the poster was too dumb to know which site she was on and I didn't refer to the poster as the one who needed hand holding. I was making a point. I was not making fun of anyone. I was not acting superior. If I want to be mean...believe me, you would not have to rely on me implying anything. I would be forthright about it. I was referring to the swarm of posters that ask for opinions and advice and then become very upset/surprised/hurt/offended etc when other posters give their feedback (whether sugar coated or harsh) I don't believe that most of the readers took my comment as condescending...although I am not surprised that there will be a few that will...regardless of my intention... It was only my opinion... I had read all the posts from the beginning and then added my opinion and comments on the topics discussed...the original poster's first post was followed by many many other comments...and those were the ones I was adding to. I believe that the original poster said what she meant...which I agree to some parts; I disagree with others. I think that's okay... I wasn't being rude or nasty...patronizing (condescending) etc. You have stated your opinion via commenting and quoting in your response...many times. I had only written one comment and you jumped on it.
How is my post condescending? It was 100% my own opinion. Condescending would mean that I am conveying a feeling of superiority...I can say as the poster of this that I did not write to show a feeling of superiority... although, you are entitled to your own opinion... I don't agree with yours any more than you agree with mine.... interesting how things are perceived. Can't please everybody...and that's okay because it's impossible.
Look back a few posts and you'll see what I meant. I have no problem with you, I thought your post was funny. But you did reply to missnurse1989 like she was stupid and childish.
It's interesting to see what some posters see as condescending and what others see as blunt.
Reeeeaaaaallllyyy. Are you friends with the other cam girl?
I'll bite.
I just watched this stupid Dr. Phil where these girls were sugar babies for rich men. Maybe you should do that instead. Your cam girl experience will come in handy and you will make more money. The website they used was something like MakingArrangements, or maybe ArrangementMaker, I can't remember.
Canigraduate
I'm confused...is this you making fun of a poster's thread that albeit was most likely a troll but you jumped on her to make fun ...and that was only on June 3rd. >>???
From what I understand, it's not a requirement to be a nurse to use this forum, so a few bad eggs may be ruining it for the people here who actually care to help. I'm sorry that you're experiencing that.
Specializes in Geriatrics, Mental Health, Community.
anyways, Canigraduate, I apologize if you took my first comment to be condescending. Wish you well... I'm off this thread after this. I'll most likely see you around AN at another point.... We're all just people behind these keyboards and computer or phone screens... I don't set out in any of my comments/posts to be condescending or patronizing. I'm disappointed that it was interpreted that way.
I always say I couldn't agree more,†even if I wholeheartedly disagree, because whether I completely agree or completely disagree, I couldn't agree more.â€
Reeeeaaaaallllyyy. Are you friends with the other cam girl?
I'll bite.
I just watched this stupid Dr. Phil where these girls were sugar babies for rich men. Maybe you should do that instead. Your cam girl experience will come in handy and you will make more money. The website they used was something like MakingArrangements, or maybe ArrangementMaker, I can't remember.
Canigraduate
I'm confused...is this you making fun of a poster's thread that albeit was most likely a troll but you jumped on her to make fun ...and that was only on June 3rd. >>???
Yes, this was one of the posts I was referring to that my mama would be ashamed of.
OP, just popping in to say your post is food for thought, and we don't have to completely agree for it to be so. It never hurts to temper ourselves a bit.
Specializes in Geriatrics, Mental Health, Community.
I have taken note that most of the comments/posts on AN are encouraging or constructive. Of course there are the obvious mean replies but for the most part I like to assume the best instead of assume everyone is out to get people. Maybe it depends on the day..that poster's mood..circumstances...experiences...values etc. I won't lie and say that it didn't bother me that my post was singled out as condescending etc but it's okay. We all see things differently. It is just a good reminder that my words can be misinterpreted.
AJayG3310
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You have made an incorrect assumption about what I implied. I was in no way intending to imply that the poster was too dumb to know which site she was on and I didn't refer to the poster as the one who needed hand holding. I was making a point. I was not making fun of anyone. I was not acting superior. If I want to be mean...believe me, you would not have to rely on me implying anything. I would be forthright about it. I was referring to the swarm of posters that ask for opinions and advice and then become very upset/surprised/hurt/offended etc when other posters give their feedback (whether sugar coated or harsh) I don't believe that most of the readers took my comment as condescending...although I am not surprised that there will be a few that will...regardless of my intention... It was only my opinion... I had read all the posts from the beginning and then added my opinion and comments on the topics discussed...the original poster's first post was followed by many many other comments...and those were the ones I was adding to. I believe that the original poster said what she meant...which I agree to some parts; I disagree with others. I think that's okay... I wasn't being rude or nasty...patronizing (condescending) etc. You have stated your opinion via commenting and quoting in your response...many times. I had only written one comment and you jumped on it.