So many of you are amazing people and nurses. The time you put in responding to posts on Allnurses really does make a difference.
BUT.
When people come here asking for advice on a situation, they are not looking for your opinion of them as a person or their behavior. You all know what threads I'm talking about.
It's one thing to point out that their behavior could potentially be dangerous to patients.
It's one thing to be honest and tell them that their future doesn't look too bright.
It's one thing to suggest they may find seeing a therapist very helpful.
It's another to tell them they are mentally ill, mock them RELENTLESSLY, or judge them. When you do this to your fellow nurses (that have just come to you for advice), you're worse than that poor, scared soul you FLAMED for thinking a drug abuser may have a bloodborne illness.
These posters are often simply desperate, scared, or just plain curious!
I know it's important to have a thick skin when you work in healthcare, and I sure as heck am not busting out the trigger-words bully†or NETY.†It's just that even in my CNA class, it was emphasized over and over that it's not our place to judge patients. Can't you afford the same courtesy to other nurses?
I'm generally a pretty quiet person, but I believe in standing up for other people. So I just had to put this out there.
As a person (not just a nurse) My morals tell me that I should treat others with respect. But that's my morals and I understand that others do not share the same morals. It's all ethical.
People should still use common courtesy and politeness. There is no excuse for rudeness (which includes any posts via social media). I understand that people want to justify being rude to certain posters and tell them to grow thick skin and what not. Whatever the situation is, no one deserves to be treated or disrepected by anyone. There is no reason that we as adults can't treat each other with respect. Honestly, what I have found true for ALL social media is that those who post such hateful and negative comments do so and its an excuse for passive aggressive people to act in that manner and feel ok with themselves about the way they treat others.
That is one way to view it, but here is where integrity comes into play.I will agree to disagree and we will just leave it at that.
As a person (not just a nurse) My morals tell me that I should treat others with respect. But that's my morals and I understand that others do not share the same morals. It's all ethical.
Hmmm, so questioning the integrity of those with differing opinions doesn't violate your tenets of using common courtesy and politeness, morality, and treating others with respect... got it.
Integrity is doing the right thing when no one is watching. An example is how you treat people in your everyday encounters. I strongly feel like this very much applies to the topic of discussion.
I respectfully disagree with you. What I am saying is that there is no reason to be hateful. As far as integrity goes, is it ok to for anyone to speak down to or hatefully to others because of a disagreeance? I don't believe it's right. That's my opinion. People can say opinions without treating others so poorly. I have made no assumptions. You can disagree with me, but I have not disrepected anyone.
I respectfully disagree with you. What I am saying is that there is no reason to be hateful. As far as integrity goes, is it ok to for anyone to speak down to or hatefully to others because of a disagreeance? I don't believe it's right. That's my opinion. People can say opinions without treating others so poorly. I have made no assumptions. You can disagree with me, but I have not disrepected anyone.
"Hateful." "Poorly." So many adjectives that have different meanings for different folks.
What is hateful to one is constructive to another.
What is being "treated poorly" to one is "blunt honesty" to another.
Now, "disagreeance"? That's not a word under any scenario.
I agree that it's subjective. I just also find that people know how they want to be treated by others so why is it so much to ask for the same in return?
If you have not lurked on this site long enough to know you are going to get a straight answer to a stupid question then withhold your comment until you have developed a constitution that can take a little constructive criticism and not crumple into a quivering heap of goo whimpering aloud "that nurse was a mean, rude bully that ate me alive".
I, too, am growing weary of being scolded for not being a 24/7/365 little nursey nurse stereotype of Cherry Ames! (who, BTW, is a ficticious character for teen readers)
missnurse89
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As a person (not just a nurse) My morals tell me that I should treat others with respect. But that's my morals and I understand that others do not share the same morals. It's all ethical.