Would you marry a doctor?

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I thought being a nurse would be an excellent way to meet doctors to marry...but after a few weeks as a young nurse...I change my mind.

They work too much, they're arrogant, and they think they're God's gift to man kind.

Yea, the young ones are nice...but the older ones...forget it.

With the experiences you had working with doctors, would you marry one?

Specializes in psychiatric nursing, med/surg adult care.
I found it very surprising how judgmental and insulting folks are being in their responses...and we are NURSES! WE have been trained to be THERAPEUTIC, to be NON-JUDGMENTAL, to ASSESS a situation before taking action.

Here's my assessment: OP seems quite young/immature, is new in nursing, and from her user ID was probably born in 1986 making her about 23. She's honest enough to post her beliefs even if they're unpopular. She mentioned in a previous thread that some doc was hitting on her or something like that. Come on people, do we really want to bash a young girl for being just that: young/immature?

Based on all this I would guess OP is probably infatuated with the whole idea of nursing and being with a doc (and there are so many girls like that), she probably was seeking input from other nurses on what they thought about the idea. I know how young girls get when they may be interested in some guy/situation, they ask around, "hey you think dating a guy that goes here would be cool?" and depending on what others say ("ew! no way" or "cool") they go for it or do not.

Folks need to chill out, one girl going to nursing school to marry an MD isn't going to end the world of nursing. Frankly, anyone who would make it through nursing school just for that goal deserves some respect, talk about dedication to a cause (jk).

I don't think folks should judge other people's reasons for making life choices. We all have our reason for getting into nursing and not everyone did it for the honor: "to save lives." Folks do it: "To pay the bills," "to go to CRNA school," "to get my parents off my back" (got that from Philippino friend) , "I couldn't hack med school,"... the list goes on.

NOW to answer OP's question: I don't know that I can marry one. My dad's one and we had our good and bad days. If I fall in love with one and he is a good man then we could make it work. One just never knows but I doubt if I would go out and pick one if I had a choice between an MD and some other profession.

In a less popular place in Southeast Asia where I grew up, it is a common dream for young girls to be a nurse and hope to marry a doctor. There is that notion that nurses are meant for doctors (if not engineers). Male dominance in a community like ours somehow lead mothers to unknowingly influence their daughters to seek refuge to the nursing profession. Being a nurse is one of the best ways to uplift the "status" of women as they get respected and admired with what they do. Same as how it was during the earlier days of nursing history.

I didn't dream of marrying a doctor because when I was younger, I never dream of marrying anyone :D. But at age 23, my first boyfriend was a medical resident 5 years my senior. By age 26, after 3 years in quite smooth-sailing relationship, I became his fiancee. Now his ex :D. 3 months prior to the big day, I turned him down. Reason: 3rd party. No regrets because we are friends now.

If I would marry a doctor? Why not? Beyond his title, a doctor is a person too, and I would want to marry that person in him with all his strengths and flaws; yes, that awful man who loves to display his stethoscope because he thinks he's cute with his Littmann. ;)

But until I say "I do", I can never be sure if I really would. Besides, I realized now that a Navy officer is way sexier in white! :D

:redbeatheTatara

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Specializes in LTC, med-surg..

Regarding the doctors and affairs deal, I just have to chime in. Several years ago I met this cardiologist who was married with two sons and a nice looking wife (a lot nicer looking than I was, at least I think so). And though I was a nurse and he was a doctor we did not meet because of our professions. We started talking and it lead to more. Before anyone wants to burn me at the stake just know the whole situation was a lot more complicated than a woman and a married man just having an affair. We both had the same sense of humor and we got a long so well. He wanted a daughter really bad but his wife was in her 40's and didn't want anymore children. I wanted more children. He made more money in a day than I make in two weeks and he could afford "side projects." She was kind of spoiled and selfish and according to him didn't care about anything as long as she was kept in funds. and I guess he was kind of selfish and spoiled, too. He used me for some good times but before I ended up doing something I really regretted I just let it go. Looking back, I see this was a train crash waiting to happen and it could have wound up a really big mess. And it wouldn't have been any kind of fantasy. He was a domineering person and in the long run I would have rebelled and things would have been scary. Come to find out, I wasn't the first and only, he had several side projects going on.

The point I'm making is, from what I've seen a lot of doctors seem to have too many opportunities to indulge in trouble. They can and do cheat, just as any other human can. People who think their lives will be a bowl of cherries because they can marry a doctor are very delusional.

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Specializes in ED, ICU, lifetime Diabetes Education.

If the MD was Dr. Andy Yablonski (played by Alex O'Loughlin) on Three Rivers I'd marry him this instant in Vegas-style wedding!

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Specializes in ED, ICU, lifetime Diabetes Education.
You really posted this again!?? *cough* *snicker* Ook.

Yeah I'd marry a doctor if he looked like Alex O'Loughlin and was sweet and kinda and was JUST Like the fake doctors on tv..suuure!! *bobs ponytail*

I just can't believe this is round two...*giggles* So yah basically...No it ain't gonna happen cause real doctors hours and lives suck.

Docs are real men...they don't want soemone who just wants them for their degree..soo...good luck with that..*snort*

Sorry but Alex is mine! :loveya::redpinkhe:redbeathe

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Specializes in ortho, hospice volunteer, psych,.
hell, i'm 45 and still an old maid. i'll marry anything that's male and breathing!

45 certainly is not beyond hope. i didn't marry my husband until i was 37 and he was 39. and, anyway, you aren't an old maid. as a beloved family friend used to refer to herself, you're an "unclaimed treasure."

hmm - i just described my cat. i'll let you all know when the wedding is so you can send me gifts! lol

send us a picture of him in his little kitty tux... i just know any of our kitty boys would love being dressed up in a kat tux!! there isn't enough catnip in the universe to make that one possible. plus which, their kitty sister and doggie brother would be laughing too hard on the sidelines.

kathy

sharpeimom:paw::paw:

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Hey, I'm 48 and haven't given up yet :specs:

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Specializes in Med/Surg, Home Health.

I wouldnt want the OP as my nurse, if thats the sole reason he/she became one. Ive noticed that all the posts by this poster relates to nurses/doctors relationships and how she is after a doctor. its a shame actually. I worked with a nurse with this attitude and watching her on the floor made me sick.

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pardon me but I have no respect for a gold-digger..no this is not a post about some young girl's dreaming about a prince on a white horse....I could definitely understand if ineed this was the case but c'mon this girl even admits that she is not into a hot young residents (who are just starting their career and their bank account is negative for golden coins!!) but she proudly admits she would definitely give it a go with an older established doctor as long as she could smell the bennies!!! Yuck!!!!!!

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I dated a doctor for a year. Yes the finanical security, steak dinners, and trips were fun, but the relationship was horrible. I would never see him, nurses stirred the pot and talked trash on me, nurses threw themselves at him, he never felt engerized (romance was out of the question), he was condesending etc... Yes, I have met nice physcians, but be careful. I think every woman wants a man with security, confidence etc. But becoming a nurse for only that reason??! That makes me sad for you.

Now I am dating a police officer, who is loving and attentive. I have a less glamourous life style, but life is much more rewarding:yeah:

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Update: I am now in a relationship with one of the doctors at my hospital...

As for the older ones, I can't stand their bull*** attitude

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Specializes in CV/CTICU.

what kind of thread is that?? really feel sorry for those nurses joined nursing in the purpose of meeting the doctors.. seriously!!

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Update: I am now in a relationship with one of the doctors at my hospital...

As for the older ones, I can't stand their bull*** attitude

Yeah right........

*side eye*

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