A month or so ago, maybe a little more, I took care of a child who was the victim of an accidental strangulation. Despite massive resuscitative efforts, the best estimates were that he had been without oxygen for over 65 minutes, and he was eventually declared brain dead. His family chose to donate his organs. I was their nurse from their second day in the hospital up through the organ retrieval, and I felt very close to them. They were such a nice family, and they were absolutely devestated with grief.
I was unable to attend the funeral because I was working, and they did it so quickly that I couldn't get anyone to cover for me.
With the holidays approaching, this family has been on my mind, and I had thought about sending them a card. I'm afraid, however, that doing so will cross boundaries, be inappropriate, and perhaps even refresh their grief.
I would like some opinions, especially from other people who have been in similar situations.