I agree that there are instructors out there who have some kind of mental/emotional instability. When I was in LPN school over 28 years ago, we had one instructor that was very up front about her intentions. Three of us girls were a different race and financial status (we were poor as church mice and she flashed her money/jewels/cars) than this teacher. She said in front of the other students that she was going to weed us three out, and make sure the male student of her race was going to graduate if it killed her, that no male of her race had graduated the program before and he was going to do it if it killed her. And she said it more than once, I mean every week it was said to us.
In the end, the other two girls AND the male student all dropped/flunked out. I made it out and graduated the program, no thanks to her. She was not only our clinical instructor but also lectured in class the first quarter. I did not get a good grade, it was passing, but not great in her lecture class.
We told our DON and the other teachers what she had said, and all they said was to prove her wrong, do well and get past it. Well, that was d*mned hard to do. She SHOULD have been counseled, fired, what have you.
And the fact that this is allowed to keep going on, nearly 30 years later shows that nursing schools are still stuck in this "take abuse and suck it up" mentality. My question is WHY? We wouldn't, as nurses or just people in general, counsel others to stay in an abusive situation and just 'take it, that's the way it is.'
Speaking of unstable instructors, in that same program, I had our mental health instructor ask me if I would be a surrogate mother for her. We, the students, had been discussing our pregnancies, and I stated how I had relatively comfortable pregnancies and how I enjoyed being pregnant. A day or two later, she came and sat with me at lunch and asked me right out if I would be interested in carrying a baby for her. My answer was, and still would be, no, I would be afraid I would get attached to the child. Later on, it struck me just HOW inappropriate it was for her to ask me this while I was her student. She was a very nice lady and I ddin't fear any retribution from her, and there was none, but it just wasn't correct.