Would you feel comfortable with putting your loved ones in a nursing home?

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  1. Would you feel comfortable with putting your loved ones in a nursing home?

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It is an inevitable course we are on. One day, most of our parents will wind up in a nursing home. Their care just becomes too demanding for their children who have jobs and families and simply not enough time to handle it all. I have seen a lot of guilt from family members over the years for doing this, yet the decisions they made are no fault of their own. Would you feel comfortable with putting your loved ones in a nursing home?

It is an inevitable course we are on. One day, most of our parents will wind up in a nursing home. Their care just becomes too demanding for their children who have jobs and families and simply not enough time to handle it all. I have seen a lot of guilt from family members over the years for doing this, yet the decisions they made are no fault of their own. Would you feel comfortable with putting your loved ones in a nursing home?

I dont like to keep my loved ones in a nursing home because even if we are busy we must find time to care for them because when we were kids they were also busy but they found the time to care for us. I myself would not want to be placed in a nursing home...just my opinion

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Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
i dont like to keep my loved ones in a nursing home because even if we are busy we must find time to care for them because when we were kids they were also busy but they found the time to care for us. i myself would not want to be placed in a nursing home...just my opinion

not everyone has had the experience of loving parents who had time (or took the time) to take good care of us.

no one wants to go to a nursing home, but sometimes it's necessary.

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Specializes in Med-surg, tele, hospice, rehab.

Whether or not I feel comfortable with putting a family member in a nursing home depends on the quality of the nursing home.;)

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Specializes in long term care, alzheimer's, ltc rehab.
My father and mother passed away when they were still comparatively young (59 and 66 respectively), so I was never faced with this issue. But knowing what I do about nursing homes, I'd have to say NO WAY would I have put either of them in one. Nor will my sister or my husband ever go to an ICF if there's any possible way I can provide for them at home. I might consider assisted living or a memory care home if their needs were to become such that they would pose a danger to themselves or others in the house, but not a nursing home.

I hope no one who works in a nursing home is insulted by my saying this; but believe me, I've worked in both "good" facilities and poor ones, and with the tremendous hassles of paperwork, chronic understaffing, and lockstep routines, they all are pretty much the same. The only nursing home I would EVER consider for a loved one or myself would be one that uses an Eden Alternative/Culture Change approach to care; unfortunately, these are few and far between.

I work in an eden alternative facility and don't plan on changing jobs any time soon...this is the ONLY place i would consider for my family members should the need arise.

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Specializes in ICU, School Nurse, Med/Surg, Psych.

My children are 21 and 18. My father is 67 and has parkenson's; he lives in a nursing home. My mother is 65 and lives at home and still works full time in an auto plant. My oldest sister sees him once a week- I live 600 miles away and only see him every 4 months. My other sister has no contact with him. I do what I can to help but it is my oldest sister who gets the phone calls at night when he falls and has to talk with the nursing staff when he throws things at them. It's hard but none of us can deal with the day to day 24/7/365 needs of someone who is often angry because he can no longer speak, walk, write....

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now that I've spent some hands on time in a nursing home, I can say, without a doubt, that short of somewhere that I worked and logged MAJOR hours at, and felt 200% had the residents' best interest at heart, I would NEVER NEVER put someone I loved there. There is just no way to know if they are a quality place by a tour and a brochure and I feel terrible for the families that put their loved one somewhere thinking they get quality care and dont realize what the place is really like

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Absolutely not. I'm only 5 months in to my career and have already seen several patients on my floor due to complications experienced in a nursing home. I received a patient this week from a nursing home - was getting Heparin 5000 units every day, Aspirin BID and 5mg Coumadin every day. Poor guys INR was 11.8!! Vomiting blood, pooping out blood all night long. I felt so bad. They weren't even checking his INR at the nursing home. The family had no idea he was on so many blood thinners.

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i have the skills to take care of my parents so 99 percent there would be no way i would put them in a home. i have worked in one, also.

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A traditional nursing home, no.

But if one of my parents had Alzheimers and I wasn't able to be with them enough, I'd consider sending them to the facility I work at.

it is a memory enhancement center for people in the early to mid stages of Alzheimer's. It is beautiful, clean, and well-staffed. The rooms are large and private with private bathrooms. There are lots of activities and memory enhancement exercises, and it doesn't feel like a facility. It is the only place I would consider letting any loved one go if they were in the right condition to go there.

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No way, definetely not with all the stories on the news about people being dead for 2 days with noone noticing. For most of us our parents have given us enough oppertunities in life that we really owe them this last kindness no matter how inconvenient. Obviously sometimes it's neccesary because not everyone posseses the skills to care for a sick older loved one.:cry:

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Specializes in Rehab, Med Surg, Home Care.

I voted "yes" but I would make damn sure I was a frequent presence. I would get to know the nurses and aides, and help my family member myself whenever it wouldn't interfere with the staff. And I would bring goodies for the staff-lots of goodies! Devious? Maybe-but effective. From the perspective of as a staff member, I try to care for each patient as if they were my only patient. I appreciate involved families if they are involved in a positive way ( and I can't honestly say I'm immune to cookies...).

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I would feel more comfortable having my loved-one in my home, with the help of a private nurse.

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