Working as a stripper AND a nurse

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Hello everyone. I was wondering, is it detrimental to my job as an RN if I am also stripping on the side for additional money? Can I be fired for this? I know there are morality issues (for some) and such with this, but is it legally wrong? I live in southern California by the way. The salary as I make as a stripper is far greater than any nursing job out there. The reason I'm also working as a nurse is for the benefits, retirement, and job security when I'm older and can no longer strip.

Specializes in Psych ICU, addictions.

Wasn't there a thread like this around AN not too long ago?

Anyhow...OP: if what you are doing on the side is legal, if your state's BON doesn't forbid it, and most importantly, if YOU are 100% fine with doing it and dealing with any and all ramifications that come along with being a stripper (social stigmas, the environments you are exposed to, what your employer may think if it gets out, etc.), then go ahead and do it.

Regardless of whether it's legal, if you're not comfortable with stripping and its accompanying baggage, then you're better off not doing it. And whether you're comfortable with it is a decision only you can make. I didn't read all the posts so I don't know what additional info you have added, but good luck in making your decision.

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Specializes in NICU, Post-partum.
I do not recognize stripping as Media so this website and correlation is IMO largely irrelevant.

While a huge number of prostitutes may start out as strippers- one can't make the leap that most, or even necessarily many, strippers become prostitutes.

I don't disagree that there are alot of women who have been sexually violated or abused who do go into sexually oriented trades. What I disagree with is that these are the majority- or a universal fact that holds true for all. My experience, having friends who dance, just doesn't support it.

Of course documentaries, stories etc. are going to focus on women who have been abused and violated and have turned to dancing to make a buck- because the sensationalism and sympathy (or revulsion) it evokes *sells*. They aren't going to spotlight the women who have found it to be an empowering and fun experience because the conservative majority doesn't want to hear that. It threatens their status quo.

The link between sexual abuse and working in the sex/adult industry, is well documented.

Here is a link to an organization dedicted to helping survivors of sexual abuse leave the adult industry.

http://www.thepinkcross.org/pinkcross-articles/october-2008/sex-industry-abuse-recovery

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The link between sexual abuse and working in the sex/adult industry, is well documented.

Here is a link to an organization dedicted to helping survivors of sexual abuse leave the adult industry.

http://www.thepinkcross.org/pinkcross-articles/october-2008/sex-industry-abuse-recovery

This is a heavily biased, faith based site. ("Faith based" generally tends to mean Christian, and we all know how Christianity feels about sexuality.) So I don't find this particularly relevant or credible.

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This is a heavily biased, faith based site. ("Faith based" generally tends to mean Christian, and we all know how Christianity feels about sexuality.) So I don't find this particularly relevant or credible.

Ok...I've posted 2 sources...both with references.

Show me a source where it says there is NO link.

Just because you say there isn't, or dismiss what I have posted, doesn't make it so.

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ok...i've posted 2 sources...both with references.

show me a source where it says there is no link.

just because you say there isn't, or dismiss what i have posted, doesn't make it so.

i'm not sure how many more times i have to say it- but here we go again- "i don't disagree that there are alot of women who have been sexually violated or abused who do go into sexually oriented trades. what i disagree with is that these are the majority- or a universal fact that holds true for all. my experience, having friends who dance, just doesn't support it."

i'm saying- sure- there are reasons why abused women go into adult industries. however- they aren't the only ones who do so. not every woman finds it demeaning. not every woman is a stripper because someone molested them. not every woman feels that it is detrimental to her psychological wellbeing. some women find it empowering. some women enjoy it. some women find it a positive and enjoyable job.

i'm really not sure how else to phrase that- so i hope that clarifies it this time :)

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Ok...I've posted 2 sources...both with references.

Show me a source where it says there is NO link.

Just because you say there isn't, or dismiss what I have posted, doesn't make it so.

Here is another one...

http://www.darkness2light.org/KnowAbout/statistics_2.asp

And 96 references to professional journals to go with it.

http://www.darkness2light.org/KnowAbout/statistics_references.asp

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... Again- see above post. Lather, rinse, repeat :)

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Some years ago there was a nurse and her husband who also worked at the same hospital who had a Media site and the hospital found out and fired them. They sued and got their jobs back!

If you are going to do it I wouldn't talk about it at work because it would be quite uncomfortable when you have all the docs and nurses coming to see you naked and get lap dances from you (I heard that's what they do in strip clubs....lol).

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i'm not sure how many more times i have to say it- but here we go again- "i don't disagree that there are alot of women who have been sexually violated or abused who do go into sexually oriented trades. what i disagree with is that these are the majority- or a universal fact that holds true for all. my experience, having friends who dance, just doesn't support it."

i'm saying- sure- there are reasons why abused women go into adult industries. however- they aren't the only ones who do so. not every woman finds it demeaning. not every woman is a stripper because someone molested them. not every woman feels that it is detrimental to her psychological wellbeing. some women find it empowering. some women enjoy it. some women find it a positive and enjoyable job.

i'm really not sure how else to phrase that- so i hope that clarifies it this time :)

can't help it, but whenever you reference your friends, i automatically think of the "girls gone wild" mob.

and yes, they are a subculture and do not reflect the values of mainstream society.

leslie

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can't help it, but whenever you reference your friends, i automatically think of the "girls gone wild" mob.

and yes, they are a subculture and do not reflect the values of mainstream society.

leslie

There are a lot of things that are accepted by mainstream society that make little sense, so it's not exactly a valid argument to say that something isn't right simply because a majority of people disapprove for no just cause.

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can't help it, but whenever you reference your friends, i automatically think of the "girls gone wild" mob.

and yes, they are a subculture and do not reflect the values of mainstream society.

leslie

Well- first of all, no- they aren't the "girls gone wild" mob LOL You'd probably be surprised to know that one is going to school to be a botanist. Another is a computer programmer in addition to her dancing and views it as a sort of fun money making on the job workout LOL (Hey- Carmen Electra's stripper aerobics video is a big seller LOL) Secondly- everyone belongs to a "subculture" of some sort. there is no "American culture". There are local subcultures, religious subcultures, subcultures of economic status, subcultures related to eating habits (vegetarians, etc.) etc. etc. etc. So- sure- they're a subculture- but so is everyone else. :)

As to "the values of mainstream society"... Our society dresses 7yr olds like exotic dancers, hands out condoms in schools, thinks that single parenting by choice is just great and yet frowns on those who dance for money.... Sorry- but I don't think that there is one set of "values" for "modern society". I think some subcultures- including the one you are a part of- embrace certain conservative values and have certain aversions to things and some of those are more common than others. That's OK- but that doesn't necessarily reflect some overall "Societal Value System". Not in the US- the melting pot of cultures and subcultures.

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ah, so you winced at that visual too, yes? (girls gone wild)

heh.

yes and admittedly, i am somewhat conservative but not puritanical.

moreover, i do know women who dance to pay their way through grad school.

they view this extra income as "i've got the goods and they're in demand".

a no-nonsense, economic and business standpoint.

and yes, about all of us belonging to subcultures.

agreed.

but while i do believe in live and let live, i will protest raunchy, exploitative sex/Media...

or any standard of living that is corruptive and ultimately hurtful to others.

as to the op's question, yes, chances are dancing will come back to bite her and her career in nsg.

leslie

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