Will it be hard for me to get a Girlfriend during this Pandemic since I am dealing with sick people?

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I am 22 and I used to be the infection control Nurse at our Hospital, but now since Covid 19 has engulfed everything, I am put on the front lines.

I am just saying that I never had a girlfriend before, and now since the virus is out and about, will it prevent girls from liking me or wanting to be with me? I want to have a partner, but its like they might think I am contagious and I may not ever have a partner cause of it. I remember on the news a girl told her now ex-boyfriend who is a Nurse "stay away from me you sick freak you're going to infect my family". I am just shocked the way these people react.

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Magic Johnson told the world he had HIV back in a time when there were no antiretroviral therapies (much less PrEP), getting the HIV diagnosis was largely considered a death sentence, and the stigma around HIV/AIDS was widespread and devastating.

Do you think Magic Johnson, who got HIV from sexual transmission, ended up celibate afterwards?

Here's a great life lesson: Women who wouldn't want to be with you for your job/career/profession are doing YOU a favor by rejecting you.

There are women out there who hate our soldiers, because they consider such people to be either murderers, tools for foreign interventionism, or just plain unstable providers because they move from base to base. And there are women out there who love soldiers, consider a man in uniform sexy, and consider his sacrifices for our country noble.

There are women out there who hate investment bankers and hedge fund managers because they consider these men to be exploiting the working classes and smarmy children of elitist privilege. There are other women out there who are attracted to such men because they see them as capable of giving them a luxurious high-social class lifestyle.

The serial killer Ted Bundy had women obsessing over him at his murder trial in Florida. He even got one pregnant during the trial! And Charles Manson even got married to a woman half his age while incarcerated.

You do you. If a woman is too snobby or prejudiced against you for what you do for your keep, then you dodged a bullet and should be grateful for it. Have some self-respect! Even men who flip burgers and work as janitors for a living have stable marriages and families, with happy and respectable children and home lives. A woman who loves you for your character rather than for your occupation is a better catch, imho.

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7 hours ago, DribbleKing97 said:

So I am 22, and I have been talking to this girl she is my cousins friend, I HAVE BEEN talking to her through text and I like her and my cousin said that she likes me too we just haven't said anything about it.

She is an Accountant so she works from home, and the problem is she does not know what I do for a living. She doesn't know I work in a Dialysis Unit specifically for Covid patients, and I feel like if she asks me what I do for a living and I tell her "Yeah I deal with infectious diseases from a day-to-day basis" she will be disgusted and not want to be with me and be with someone else who is not dealing with sick people everyday.

I am just insecure because I never had a girlfriend before and feel like this is the only opportunity that I have. I am just scared to tell her that I am a Nurse.

I am pretty sure that, in the course of normal communication, the issue of your profession will come up. This will give you the opportunity of being honest or dishonest.

Also- If she does not want to date a nurse, she is not an ideal candidate for girlfriend. Because you are a nurse.

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I think you're super overthinking it... I highly doubt that she would see that and think that... just tell her that you work in healthcare and yes you're being safe. You are being safe aren't you??? ?

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I am not an expert on women, so maybe an expert could chime in.

But- as far as I know, insecurity is not a trait women seek out in men.

Being unwilling to share your profession demonstrates insecurity.

Are you good at what you do? Are you committed and constantly looking to get better? If so, broadcast it. If not, find a better way to spend 36 hours a week.

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Bless your heart! I found this endearing. You'll be out there back in the dating pool before you know it. Rest assured. It is a weird time to be single I guess---- like video dates? No thanks. But you'll be OK! Just you asking the question shows how cute you are!!

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Aww that is sweet! I have lots of single female friends who would be happy to date a male nurse... someone with a job, stable income, desire to care for others?! Be yourself, be confident and be proud of what you do. As much as you are lucky to have a girl interested in you, she is equally lucky that you are interested in her. As long as you treat her with respect and care, it shouldn't matter what your profession is. Hopefully you can keep the interest up while being socially distant and hope it goes well when you can meet in person ?

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I have nothing to add, but I hope your username is based on your love for basketball.

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51 minutes ago, ThatChickOmi said:

I have nothing to add, but I hope your username is based on your love for basketball.

Thanks. I left that one alone.

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On 4/14/2020 at 1:58 AM, DribbleKing97 said:

I am 22 and I used to be the infection control Nurse at our Hospital, but now since Covid 19 has engulfed everything, I am put on the front lines.

I am just saying that I never had a girlfriend before, and now since the virus is out and about, will it prevent girls from liking me or wanting to be with me? I want to have a partner, but its like they might think I am contagious and I may not ever have a partner cause of it. I remember on the news a girl told her now ex-boyfriend who is a Nurse "stay away from me you sick freak you're going to infect my family". I am just shocked the way these people react.

Well ... yeah. It's going to be hard to meet new people too. After this is over, you'll be lauded as a hero and can have your pick. Hang in there.

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On 4/19/2020 at 1:20 PM, LibraNurse27 said:

Aww that is sweet! I have lots of single female friends who would be happy to date a male nurse... someone with a job, stable income, desire to care for others?! Be yourself, be confident and be proud of what you do. As much as you are lucky to have a girl interested in you, she is equally lucky that you are interested in her. As long as you treat her with respect and care, it shouldn't matter what your profession is. Hopefully you can keep the interest up while being socially distant and hope it goes well when you can meet in person ?

I am just feeling blue

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I work at a Community Hospital, and specifically in my Unit we have 23 cases. I am just worried now that everyone will be careful what they touch or who they talk too, that if I try to talk to a girl and we get into a conversation and find out about our careers they may not like me. I am 22, and my sister is trying to set me up with her friend who is a Lawyer. She is working from home, but I am afraid that if she finds out that I am a Nurse and asks what I do she will not like me. Like if I tell her, "Yeah I work with infectious disease patients on a day to day basis" she might grossed out or any girl for that matter, and might just want to avoid me cause of that. I am really worried about that I may never find someone all because I deal with sick people everyday. Like if it was another Nurse its fine, but she is a Lawyer I would not expect her to understand.

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