Why are some people on here so rude?

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I'm a pre nursing student and I asked like 7 questions and people have been on my back.

Now what is the point of that?

I even asked a question about being depressed and being in school and someone told me to quit complaining (we're going to assume that this person is in the field and not some troll)

But why?

Why bring down someone who is just trying to make better of their life?

Because those are the one's who cause drama at work. They feed off of drama and THINK their better lol. They have sad lives and bashing, or bullying is their fix. It's pathetically sad because nobody is better. If you are a professional at all. Last time I checked were all on the same TEAM. Oh..I suck at spelling and grammer when I dont care about dotting I's and T's. They just find ANYTHING they can to put you down, talk behind your back, and this will happen in the real world.

Stay to yourself. Talk pt's, updates, issues, never about anyone, or get involved when these losers start. Walk away.

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Specializes in Hospice.
Because those are the one's who cause drama at work. They feed off of drama and THINK their better lol. They have sad lives and bashing, or bullying is their fix. It's pathetically sad because nobody is better. If you are a professional at all. Last time I checked were all on the same TEAM. Oh..I suck at spelling and grammer when I dont care about dotting I's and T's. They just find ANYTHING they can to put you down, talk behind your back, and this will happen in the real world.

Stay to yourself. Talk pt's, updates, issues, never about anyone, or get involved when these losers start. Walk away.

Really think you need to read up a bit more on the dynamic she brought to other threads before you turn all Attitudy Judy and make comments.

She received answers that she didn't like or want, which was then turned into everyone being rude.

Seriously, you became a member yesterday. Please, do some research.

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OP, do what you want in life.. its your life... I feel more at ease when I don't allow other peoples views effect me.. I guess I am an adult now!? .. nothing bothers me I have more important things I should be focused on and no one wants to deal with petty nonsense! The sooner you realize that.. the happier you will be .. so quit moaning and complaining... pick yourself up and work for what you want... and no.. you don't need a pat on your back.. because, your a big girl now... your accomplishments and struggles do not have to be known by everyone you come in contact with.. in fact people who put their focus to achieve and who do end up achieving work through their struggles silently........ make tomorrow a beautiful day- wake up with a smile! :)

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Specializes in Case mgmt., rehab, (CRRN), LTC & psych.
They feed off of drama and THINK their better lol. They have sad lives and bashing, or bullying is their fix. It's pathetically sad because nobody is better.
With all due respect, the crystal ball that magically communicates whether people have sad lives does not exist.

The truth is that we do not know what people are thinking; therefore, it is unfair to accuse them of thinking they are better than others. Making negative assumptions and interpretations about others is so rude, especially when we do not know the whole story.

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Really think you need to read up a bit more on the dynamic she brought to other threads before you turn all Attitudy Judy and make comments.

She received answers that she didn't like or want, which was then turned into everyone being rude.

Seriously, you became a member yesterday. Please, do some research.

As a grown women. I 'm not going to judge her nor how you are attacking someone with emotions that she's entitled to. If it bothers you so much stop stalking her posts lol you make no sense? Move on and go give out some free hugs.

Yup this is a perfect example of a drama queen

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Specializes in Telemetry.
I think black type on a screen can easily be misinterpreted on both ends!

But I see a pattern with you Up..you hold onto negative feelings and offenses..like writing this now when that depression post is a few weeks old, and the other posts you made even older. I would bet, and I don't mean this to hurt your feelings, that if someone was intentionally rude to you, they've long forgotten about you. "No one can make us feel inferior without our consent" the famous Eleanor Roosevelt quote.

I thought your name sounded familiar, so I checked out some of your past posts.

Most tellingly, the "Jealous Friends" thread you started.

I suggest you reread that one, honestly see who was rude, sarcastic and calling names, and you will have the answer to your question.

Frankly, you got off on the wrong foot months ago-don't look for a lot of sympathy unless you tone down the attitude and indignation. Especially when you get answers you don't like or don't want to hear.

Really think you need to read up a bit more on the dynamic she brought to other threads before you turn all Attitudy Judy and make comments.

She received answers that she didn't like or want, which was then turned into everyone being rude.

Seriously, you became a member yesterday. Please, do some research.

I agree - posting history matters. Even in the internet, first impressions matter.

And so do *grammar*, spelling, and punctuation - and btw you are supposed to dot a lowercase i and *cross* a lowercase t.

People who wish to be taken seriously need to take themselves and how they present themselves seriously.

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With all due respect, the crystal ball that magically communicates whether people have sad lives does not exist.

The truth is that we do not know what people are thinking; therefore, it is unfair to accuse them of thinking they are better than others. Making negative assumptions and interpretations about others is so rude, especially when we do not know the whole story.

"IF" people are "putting down, attacking, belittling, or being negative towards others & being immature by saying stop moaning, or big girl panties I mean what is this high school. Some try so hard to "act" so grown up but what comes out of their mouths reminds me of some staff members I see bullying others all the time. It's a "mental issue" imo to bully. There are nicer ways lto talk to people like suggesting couceling, heck why would anyone want to post here wow such nastiness? As a grown up I have always told my child it's ok to feel sorry for the drama patients because it's typically the one's who defend it that are doing it. So sad.

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Specializes in Cath/EP lab, CCU, Cardiac stepdown.
As a grown women. I 'm not going to judge her nor how you are attacking someone with emotions that she's entitled to. If it bothers you so much stop stalking her posts lol you make no sense? Move on and go give out some free hugs.

Yup this is a perfect example of a drama queen

Allnurses is a place where opinions, ideas, and questions are shared freely. It is not a place to go for hugs only. Of course there are some people who are supportive all the time and some who are supportive only when it warrants it. A public forum is simply not a place to go to if you want to dictate the type of responses you want.

And in an adult and professional world, someone who disagrees with you is not necessarily being rude. If my colleague says it's fine to hang heparin as a piggy back and I tell them that it is not then I am disagreeing with them. I am not being rude. Rude is when i go " no you moron, don't you have brains". Very frequently people take criticism, despite being constructive and delivered in a polite manner, to be rude. That is simply not the case.

And honey, calling someone a drama queen? That's rude.

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I agree - posting history matters. Even in the internet, first impressions matter.

And so do *grammar*, spelling, and punctuation - and btw you are supposed to dot a lowercase i and *cross* a lowercase t.

People who wish to be taken seriously need to take themselves and how they present themselves seriously.

It's ok. Get well soon.

Did I happen to mention I'm not from the USA? Should I have to tell anyone my first language isn't English? This is the mentality we see from bullies like "you" who really show signs of mental issues by judging others just that quickly!

As far as how you present yourself. Your post said it all.

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Specializes in progressive care. med surg. tele. LTC. psych..
"IF" people are "putting down, attacking, belittling, or being negative towards others & being immature by saying stop moaning, or big girl panties I mean what is this high school. Some try so hard to "act" so grown up but what comes out of their mouths reminds me of some staff members I see bullying others all the time. It's a "mental issue" imo to bully. There are nicer ways lto talk to people like suggesting couceling, heck why would anyone want to post here wow such nastiness? As a grown up I have always told my child it's ok to feel sorry for the drama patients because it's typically the one's who defend it that are doing it. So sad.

The drama on this forum is crazy. Absolutely insane. It's better to not feed into it. I feel like I'm in middle school and everyone's period's synced.

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Specializes in Telemetry.
It's ok. Get well soon.

Did I happen to mention I'm not from the USA? Should I have to tell anyone my first language isn't English? This is the mentality we see from bullies like "you" who really show signs of mental issues by judging others just that quickly!

Oh boy.

There are a lot of people for whom English is a second language who post here and your posts to which I am referring go far beyond language issues.

Trying to say I have "mental issues" based on my posts is both laughable and against TOS. But thanks for playing!

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Specializes in Cath/EP lab, CCU, Cardiac stepdown.
It's ok. Get well soon.

Did I happen to mention I'm not from the USA? Should I have to tell anyone my first language isn't English? This is the mentality we see from bullies like "you" who really show signs of mental issues by judging others just that quickly!

This is quite possible the result of English being your second language but you are seriously reading too much into this. In no way or form did the previous poster call you stupid for incorrect use of punctuation or grammar. She was simply stating the fact that those things matter and that one is taken more seriously if proper usage is employed. This is a fact and as such was stated. Also more power to you for learning English as a non native speaker.

This is an example of the constructive criticism that I am speaking about. Prior poster informed you the importance of grammar and punctuation. Clearly you got offended when it was not presented in a rude manner. Are there more gentle ways to present it? Yes but she is not obligated to, nor was her approach rude. It wasn't a gentle way but that doesn't make it rude, rather I would consider it a direct approach.

And here comes the last part, one loses credibility when they start saying people have mental issues when it is completely unfounded. Please enlighten us on what experience and training you have that would allow you to diagnose someone with mental issues in this context. I mean that must be some impressive assessment skills for you to be able to do that over the Internet, especially as you didn't even need to refer to the dsm for it.

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