Why are some people on here so rude?

[Upward_Bound]

I'm a pre nursing student and I asked like 7 questions and people have been on my back.

Now what is the point of that?

I even asked a question about being depressed and being in school and someone told me to quit complaining (we're going to assume that this person is in the field and not some troll)

But why?

Why bring down someone who is just trying to make better of their life?

[NcPCT]

Allnurses is a place where opinions, ideas, and questions are shared freely. It is not a place to go for hugs only. Of course there are some people who are supportive all the time and some who are supportive only when it warrants it. A public forum is simply not a place to go to if you want to dictate the type of responses you want.

And in an adult and professional world, someone who disagrees with you is not necessarily being rude. If my colleague says it's fine to hang heparin as a piggy back and I tell them that it is not then I am disagreeing with them. I am not being rude. Rude is when i go " no you moron, don't you have brains". Very frequently people take criticism, despite being constructive and delivered in a polite manner, to be rude. That is simply not the case.

And honey, calling someone a drama queen? That's rude.

Loved your post. But in the real world women, kids, teens who continue to bully, or bash In MY own opinion are indeed called drama queens aka bullies. If my own opinion offends you that's ok it's not going to ruin my day but thank you for your opinion.

I did try to go look up some.of her other posts to see why so many people are putting such wasted energy, and time into this lol?

Btw, my name is Sammy! I hope your evening gets better.

[Honey Clover]

It's easier to be rude and to say whatever you want when you're anonymous. Trust me, this happens on all forums. In real life, you'll want to discuss your issues and ask questions to people you trust or advisors, both are much more supportive and accepting of your feelings. But on an anonymous forum, never expect people to always be kind and nice. I'm not saying that it is okay to be rude on a forum; I'm just saying it's human psychology. We spill our thoughts out more easily when we know there's some distance between the people we talk with. Messaging via a screen makes it much easier to say whatever the heck we want, disregarding the emotions (the real person) behind the words on the screen. They don't see your tears, hear the sadness or frustrations in your voice or observe the emotions on your face so the response you get back is not always empathy, especially from people who tend to be more critical towards others. Well that being said, don't take it to heart too much. No matter what anyone says, if you feel some hurt from it, take some time off the internet. Go out and talk to your real friends, family, mentors or whoever you trust. They are worth much more than random people's opinions on a forum.

[NcPCT]

This is quite possible the result of English being your second language but you are seriously reading too much into this. In no way or form did the previous poster call you stupid for incorrect use of punctuation or grammar. She was simply stating the fact that those things matter and that one is taken more seriously if proper usage is employed. This is a fact and as such was stated. Also more power to you for learning English as a non native speaker.

This is an example of the constructive criticism that I am speaking about. Prior poster informed you the importance of grammar and punctuation. Clearly you got offended when it was not presented in a rude manner. Are there more gentle ways to present it? Yes but she is not obligated to, nor was her approach rude. It wasn't a gentle way but that doesn't make it rude, rather I would consider it a direct approach.

And here comes the last part, one loses credibility when they start saying people have mental issues when it is completely unfounded. Please enlighten us on what experience and training you have that would allow you to diagnose someone with mental issues in this context. I mean that must be some impressive assessment skills for you to be able to do that over the Internet, especially as you didn't even need to refer to the dsm for it.

Crazy people do & say crazy things when "sick". If you came into Ed acting the way you do here my first question would be & are you on any Rx's? Just calm down and take some deep breathes so we can try to help you relax! Something isn't right with you? Go find another thread to embarase yourself on.

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[%D#2]

It's hard to tell what people's intentions are when it's through the Internet, through typing, with no tone of voice. Sometimes people aren't trying to be rude but it can be interpreted that way. I'm sorry if you feel you have been treated unfairly. Maybe just ignore whoever you think is being rude and interact with those who do not come off as rude. You can't control other people but you can control how you let it affect you.

[Dacatster, ADN]

It's life. Just wait until you get into nursing. I am not saying it it is right. It does suck.

[RescueNinjaKy]

Crazy people do & say crazy things when "sick". If you came into Ed acting the way you do here my first question would be & are you on any Rx's? Just calm down and take some deep breathes so we can try to help you relax! Something isn't right with you? Go find another thread to embarase yourself on.

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Things that make one suspect that there is a psychiatric issue would be more delusions of grandeur and statements of persecutions/psychosis. And the prior poster pointed out the fact that proper punctuation and grammar gets you to be taken more seriously. This fulfills none of the above in regards to "disturbing" statements. And even if the prior poster was rude (not that she was), that doesn't necessarily mean that she has psychiatric issues. There's a difference between having psych issues and just being a jerk. Please make this distinction clearly as this leads to doubts of your credibility in the healthcare field.

I have nothing to be embarrassed about on this thread. I am not perfect nor have I made any statements so flawed that I would be embarrassed about on this thread so far. Honestly, at the very least could you provide a stronger rebuttal. I enjoy the occasional sparring of wits but you're giving me nothing here to work with. As such, I can't help but feel that you are trolling.

[MissBigApple]

I've noticed the same thing. A lot of snark but I'm certainly used to that. It just makes me reluctant to ask a genuine question on here.

I didn't just join either. I made a new account because I didn't like my other user name.

[NcPCT]

Trolling? My 14 yr old uses that term how interesting.

[NcPCT]

I've noticed the same thing. A lot of snark but I'm certainly used to that. It just makes me reluctant to ask a genuine question on here.

I didn't just join either. I made a new account because I didn't like my other user name.

Unprofessional nurses are everywhere & isn't it such a pattern that their always the same ones who defend it or themselves. I can't imagine going through life walking around thinking I'm just so much better to be putting others down in what many claim they see nothing wrong when someone is insulting someones puntutation, spelling. Calling people trolls. Very, high school. These very types are the "drama" in work settings. Nothing you say is right because their always right no mater what lol. It's sad.

[windsurfer8, BSN, RN]

Maybe "quit complaining" is what you need to do? There is a time and place for everything. There is a point where complaining is simply going to make your life more difficult or is a waste of your time. Viewing comments as "negative" or "positive" is less important than reading them and gleaming what you can from them. How is telling someone not to complain "bringing them down"?

[Hoosier_RN, MSN]

Loved your post. But in the real world women, kids, teens who continue to bully, or bash In MY own opinion are indeed called drama queens aka bullies. If my own opinion offends you that's ok it's not going to ruin my day but thank you for your opinion.

I did try to go look up some.of her other posts to see why so many people are putting such wasted energy, and time into this lol?

Btw, my name is Sammy! I hope your evening gets better.

I didn't see anyone bullying you. Chill...

[NcPCT]

Lol, who said they were? My siggestion to you is to calm down and go back to the OP and learn how to speak like a professional vs a teenage child.