Why can't I train my husband?

[jessiern, BSN, RN]

When I tell him, do not answer the phone if it is the hospital, he conts to do so. He works there too, he knows the numbers that show up on the caller ID when they call begging for help. But yet, I still here "Baby, the house super is on the phone, wants to talk to you" on a daily bases.

Now, I do know I left them in a pickle when I called in Mon and Tues, they can quit rubbing that in. I would have left them in a bigger pickle if I had went in to work and given the staff and all patients strep and the flu. I was sure for 5 days I was going to die, and that made me have little desire to drag myself to work.

Well, yes I am slightly better now. I haven't run fever in 24 hours, and I can swallow without tears. But I still have a severe cough that hurts, and I'd rather not cough on a patient. And my house is filthy because for 5 days I have not felt like cleaning. I plan to clean the house before I go to work.

So, long and simple of this story is: I am scheduled Saturday and Sunday. I will go to work Saturday and Sunday. Not a day before. I just wish I could make those people understand that. And get my husband to stop answering the phone.

Thank you for listening to my little rant.

[DutchgirlRN, ASN, RN]

"why can't i train my husband"?

he's a man isn't he? enough said.

[classicdame, MSN, EdD]

Tell him if he continues to ignore your wishes you will get another line for you alone and give that number to your job as the only number to reach you. It is a waste of money, but sometimes money speaks. Another thing, just tell the HS when they call: I cannot work today. No excuses, just say "no".

[nurserynurse55]

I don't trust my man with that one either (or my daughter). My work only knows my cell phone number for that reason. The two of them don't touch that.

[SDS_RN, RN]

I hear you. This last weekend was my first full weekend off, worked all or part of the last 4 w/e. Then BAM on Sat and Sun they are calling for me to come in. I had plans made previously for this w/e off and I said no. Then on Sat noc my daughter started running a fever took her in on Mon and it was Influ. A. I was supposed to work Tues but had to call off per my daughter was sick and my husbands father was having quad bypass surg that day so I had to stay home w/ her. Then they are calling me to see if I could come in today and work but today is my daughters b-day so I said I will work while she's in school but nothing more. They decided that wasn't good enough and found someone else. It has been hell no day off is a day off because they are constantly calling. I don't mind helping out but when I have sick kids of my own and 2 daughters b-days in the same wk I have to flat out refuse. They really lay the guilt trip on thick though for missing a day and then not picking up extra. My sympathies I'm in the same boat!

[DutchgirlRN, ASN, RN]

when i worked on the floor my family "knew" answering the phone when the caller id said hospital was a serious "no-no". when called id first came out my husband would answer it anyway :angryfire the first time his worked called and he yelled "don't answer it", well i did just that. of course he's home...here he is. he never did it again. the kids just listened to mom.

[chocokitten]

lol, ditto here. My husband has answered the phone before then,when they asked me to come in, stood next to me saying "No!" O_o Don't answer then, silly!

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[leslie :-D]

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good for you, choco!

another worthy aspect of nsg education, they neglected to warn us of.

just say no.

it's really that simple.

we have caller id.

and my family knows not to cross that line.

leslie

[locolorenzo22, BSN, RN]

We have schedules for a reason...when I'm supposed to be at work...I'll be at work. Do I feel bad for the people I work with when it's a nite from heck? Yup....but, I pick up when I feel like it. Recovering because I'm going to a concert tomorrow. Enjoying my days off....and catching up on "sick" sleep from the weekend.

Now, if you tell me JACHO's in the building, there's 14 sx, and only 2 techs...sure, I'll come in. But, just telling me you're desperate for help....doesn't quite do the same thing. Are you desperate cause the techs are gonna have 12-14 a piece? I've done that, and lived, many times over the last 3 months. I can't solve your problem if you aren't aware there is one.....and you need to hire more staff.

Ok, mini-rant done. Enjoy your night off.

[SDS_RN, RN]

i can't solve your problem if you aren't aware there is one.....and you need to hire more staff.

couldn't have said it better myself!!!!!

[nurturing_angel]

My BIL used to answer the phone when work would be calling for my sister and he wouldn't even ask her or call her to the phone. He would just take the message and tell them he would get her up and she would be in!!! Ohhhhhhhhh, the fights the used to have over this.

My hubby still answers the phone but he wouldn't dare tell them I will be in. Thats MY call and I usually choose to say no anymore. The overtime I used to work was literally killing me and now I choose to take care of me at least a few days a week.

[UM Review RN, ASN, RN]

Actually, my DH had to train me. I was always answering the phone and getting talked into working on my days off, to the point that I injured myself and was stuck home for a few months.

Now I never answer the phone if it's the hospital and I'm on my day off. I let them put a message up and then I think about it. If I want to work, I'll call back, but if not, I don't call back because I don't want to chance getting guilted into working.

So print this and show it to him, because if you work when you're not up to it, you're risking injury to yourself or your patients, and that would impact your lives very negatively. Workman's comp is just not a great way to make a living, KWIM?