Wheres God?

luvschoolnursing, LPN · Aug 13, 2007

derngrad06,

I'm so sorry for the way you are feeling. I don't know what to tell you as far as the NCLEX, but I can say, there are many times in life where God has seemed like he was far away. He promised to get us through the tough times, but did not promise there would not be tough times. If I can help in any way by discussing this further, PLEASE PM me. I'd rather email you privately than get into another theological debate on this forum. (yeah-I was in on the Jesus Factor one a few weeks ago!!) In the meantime, I'll pray, not that you will pass, but that things will work out for the best, whatever that is.

emy912 · Aug 13, 2007

One of my instructors in my LVN program took the NCLEX 7 times and she went on to get her master's degree. So try not to be discouraged. Do you think you have test anxiety? I use to have test anxiety and despite knowing the materials inside and out, I couldn't remember anything as I sit there trying to take the test. I decided to go to a hypnotherapist and she's helped me retain informations I've been studying and helped me eliminate my anxiety.

I will be taking my NLCEX tomorrow and I went back for another hypnotherapy to help me with studying for the NCLEX and with taking the test.

Please try not to be hard on yourself. I believe that God will not give us more than we can handle. Believe in yourself and believe that you will pass. Maybe the 4th try is the charm. Good luck.

StarMatrix17 · Aug 13, 2007

Before you set off to conquer the world, set out to improve yourself. Build character and discipline on the inside, and you'll be able to handle any goal or challenge on the outside.

When you set for yourself an outer goal, be sure to also create an inner goal. Fully become, within yourself, the person who can reach that goal in the outside world, and you will.

When you feel the need to change others, seek instead to change yourself. Meet people where they are, with true understanding and acceptance, and the relationships you build will bear sweet fruit.

The person you are on the inside determines all the things you become on the outside. Nurture your inner life, and your whole world will prosper.

The solid physical reality of your life is built upon the quality of your innermost thoughts and feelings. Use every opportunity to give power and positive purpose to those thoughts, and every corner of your life will benefit.

In each moment, in every situation, seek to build lasting, genuine value on the inside. And that value will quickly spread outward from you, as far as you can see.

derngrad06 · Aug 13, 2007

I appreciate your response. Its not that I do not believe in god and He has the power over all things. Its just that it took me a long time and a lot of money, sweat, and tears to finally graduate and obtain my ADN. I graduated on 12/12/06. It is quite possible that I might pass the exam this year or maybe not. I would not bet the farm on it. BTW, all of my classmates are practicing RNs and they passed the first time. And most of them did not take Kaplan, ATI, or other prep courses. And I was a good student and I take my education very seriously. And I considered myself a good test taker. My school pretty much do not want anything to do with me since I did not represent them well with the first-time NCLEX-RN exam takers. And, it appears to everybody even though they may not say it to my face that something is wrong with me. If everybody else passed what is wrong with me. We were all taught by the same instuctors, took the same classes, have the same clinical experiences. So, I say again where is god? I can accept failure and take it like a man, but enough is enough.

StarMatrix17 · Aug 13, 2007

Welcome this moment and all that is. The more fully you accept what is, the more positive value you will surely find in it.

Fighting against what already is will bring you nothing but unnecessary pain. Instead of fighting against what is, put your energy into creating the best of what can be.

The energy you put into maintaining resentment can quickly and easily be put to much more valuable use. Accept that you are where you are and you'll immediately begin moving forward.

What has already come to be is now here for you to live. Choose to take the best of all that's available to you.

Everything you could ever desire is connected to you right now. When you fully accept what is, you gain access to all those magnificent possibilities.

Welcome this moment. And right now, life is truly yours to fulfill.

derngrad06 · Aug 13, 2007

I am already focusing on my next retake on the nclex. I just needed to vent. Its my problem and no one else is affected by it. I have put so much into getting my ADN and am willing to persue a BSN in the future. I have went through many of lifes adversities fairly well throughout my life and I am a much better person for it. I am my own support system. I will just go back to basics and review my school notes and textbooks since nclex testing is about application of nursing content. I have done enough practice questions and reading rationales to write my own book. And I will not give up. Because, if I did I should have never went back to school in the first place. And, that is just not me.

deeDawntee, RN · Aug 13, 2007

The NCLEX is a crappy test. How awful is it that everybody walks out of there feeling like they failed? You just graduated from an acredited RN program, you have passed exams and clinicals for years, probably about half of the people who started out in your class didn't make it. The REAL accomplishment is graduating from Nursing School!! Nobody gives a damn how many times you have to take that stupid test to pass, they just consider themselves very LUCKY if they only had to do it once. I don't understand this 75-265 question bullcrap! What is that all about??? Don't let it defeat you!!! You are not the failure, the test is. Above all the NCLEX will never define you or the nurse that you are or will be.

Where was God in all this? I believe lessons are repeated in our life until we learn what we need to learn. I also believe it is OK to be angry with God.

I applaud you your tenacity and commitment in hanging in there.

Take the freakin thing again and nail it this time. Do you have someone who can help you with some drilling? I think asking for help may be the piece that is missing for you. I do recommend changing strategies this time around. Get a coach or two!! It will make it less painful to study the material again.

Good luck!

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You can do it!!!

miss_cy · Aug 13, 2007

hi there! my coleague,as a human being i know that most of the things that we are really longing for matters in us the most but in the end what truly matters is if what we are longing for is the one that would really make our lives complete..i, myself took the exam and failed it the first time, as a normal reaction..it felt so painful and i came to the point of asking god why he let that happen?...months after that i realize that god didnt want to hurt me but what he wants is for me to learn how to handle problems in a mature way. patience is what he wants me to have.

i admit that before, the reason why i wanted so bad to pass the nclex is because i wanted to start in becoming a usrn and be in the states and live the oh so wonderful life of nurses!..u may ask me..so wats wrong with that?but whats wrong with it was that im wanting it, i prioritized it only for my own pleasure.i simply didnt ask god 1st..wat is his plans for me, but rather i prayed and asking him straight to make me pass the nclex! its always about me, me, me, me...i realized it isnt about me but its about god and his purpose for me, for us. nclex isnt the one that will fulfill our true desires in life.

he loves you and he knows whats best for u.let me share to you my favorite bible verses in jeremiah 29:11,it says .."for i know that plans i have for you." declares the lord..plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and the future"...

we may think that passing nclex is the most important thing that a nurse can ever achieve but never it can complete our beings. im now reviewing again and before i started to review back for nclex, i prayed but this time i didnt just ask god to make me pass the nclex cus he already knows that thats what i want...jesus said in the book of matthew 6:8

"your father knows what things you need before you ask him."instead,what i prayed for is for him to tell me exactly what he wants me to do. what is his plans for me and i prayed for him to lead me to that plan. things in me fell into the right place..i just kept on praying for his guidance because after failing the nclex the 1st time, god made me realize that i cant be at my best apart from him. he is god and we are just human beings..

john 15:5 jesus is spoke and said.."i am the vine; you are the branches. if a man remains in me and i in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing"...

come on! arent we so lucky that someone who knows and can see the big picture of our lives is willingly wants to take full control of it? we would rather trust someone who knows whats best and knows the details of what is in our future. oh my..whats is nclex to god?for us it may seem like that is the thing that will put me on the peak of success! but for god, its just a piece of cake.

praying isnt just asking god for what we want..its our communication with him, just like normal conversation.. communication is a two way process remember..god also answers back and for us.

i appreciate your response. its not that i do not believe in god and he has the power over all things. its just that it took me a long time and a lot of money, sweat, and tears to finally graduate and obtain my adn. i graduated on 12/12/06. it is quite possible that i might pass the exam this year or maybe not. i would not bet the farm on it. btw, all of my classmates are practicing rns and they passed the first time. and most of them did not take kaplan, ati, or other prep courses. and i was a good student and i take my education very seriously. and i considered myself a good test taker. my school pretty much do not want anything to do with me since i did not represent them well with the first-time nclex-rn exam takers. and, it appears to everybody even though they may not say it to my face that something is wrong with me. if everybody else passed what is wrong with me. we were all taught by the same instuctors, took the same classes, have the same clinical experiences. so, i say again where is god? i can accept failure and take it like a man, but enough is enough.

Daytonite, BSN, RN · Aug 14, 2007

I would like to suggest that at this point you take the NCLEX-PN and get an LPN license. Most states have some kind of provision to allow for this by equivalency education. You should be able to find the instructions on how to do this on the application to test for NCLEX-PN on your state board website. With an LPN license in hand and some more seasoning in clinical practice by working as an LPN, some of the RN concepts may start to gel in your mind for you so you can attempt the NCLEX later. In this way, your education won't be wasted and you can put what you know into nursing practice now.

It would also be helpful if you see your glass as being half full rather than half empty. Positive attracts positive and negative attracts negative. "The plan", not necessarily your plan, may be for you to achieve your RN by a different route than the one you expected. I am a big believer that everything happens for a reason. For some reason, your route to getting into healthcare is going to be different. I would trust that there is some purpose for that. I think a question that you have to ask yourself at this point is what direction to take at this point? As an LPN there are many, many contributions you can make to the care of patients as well as gain some more nursing knowledge for yourself. When my back died and I could no longer do clinical nursing I looked into other healthcare careers. No education is ever wasted. I can't think of any profession that is more spiritually grounded than nursing whether you perform it as a mother, CNA, LPN, RN or online as I do now. It ultimately involves giving of the self in a selfless way, one of the most highest spiritual ideals guaranteed to get you a pass through the gates of heaven. Meditate on this.

derngrad06 · Aug 14, 2007

I appreciate the advice but you see I was a nursing assistant for 13 years and have been an LPN for 4 years in a psychiatric facility. I graduated from an accredited ADN nursing program from a community college on 12/12/06. I was just venting my true feelings regarding NCLEX. I know there are people out there who failed the exam more times than me and they eventually passed. I am hopeful that I will pass someday. Its just so painful to sacrifice so much to get that ADN and can not get pass this exam. What works for one person does not work for everybody. I answered so many questions I can write my own NCLEX review book. Taking the NCLEX is like driving without a map. You know where you want to go but you are on your own on how to get there. In the meantime, take these expensive review courses like Kaplan, ATI, Feuer, and others because we have a high pass rate on NCLEX. My school boasted a high pass rate so much for my school. Just giving me a printout of what categories I was near or below the passing standard don't mean a thing to me. What do they expect a entry-level RN to know. I know we have to be safe in making nursing judgements. Who does not know that? You learn from experience the last time I've checked. As an LPN the safety of my patients always comes first. Maybe I will hit the NCLEX lottery someday before I go bankrupt. :uhoh21:

miss_cy · Aug 14, 2007

I appreciate the advice but you see I was a nursing assistant for 13 years and have been an LPN for 4 years in a psychiatric facility. I graduated from an accredited ADN nursing program from a community college on 12/12/06. I was just venting my true feelings regarding NCLEX. I know there are people out there who failed the exam more times than me and they eventually passed. I am hopeful that I will pass someday. Its just so painful to sacrifice so much to get that ADN and can not get pass this exam. What works for one person does not work for everybody. I answered so many questions I can write my own NCLEX review book. Taking the NCLEX is like driving without a map. You know where you want to go but you are on your own on how to get there. In the meantime, take these expensive review courses like Kaplan, ATI, Feuer, and others because we have a high pass rate on NCLEX. My school boasted a high pass rate so much for my school. Just giving me a printout of what categories I was near or below the passing standard don't mean a thing to me. What do they expect a entry-level RN to know. I know we have to be safe in making nursing judgements. Who does not know that? You learn from experience the last time I've checked. As an LPN the safety of my patients always comes first. Maybe I will hit the NCLEX lottery someday before I go bankrupt. :uhoh21:

soon you will just look back to what had happened to you and wat u felt about failing the nclex when you already learn to accept that things happens for a reason. when youre frm a good school and ur schoolmates passed the nclex in the easiest way they can describe it,that doesnt mean you will surely nail the nclex the first time taking it. your life isnt the same as theirs...their success stories arent the same exact story u can tell and will tell in the future. when u pass the nclex in the future to whom will u give your credit to that?