When coworkers make prejudiced statements

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Yesterday I had two nurses make anti-Mexican statements. The first was a new nurse who moved from Montana and made these statements in the medroom. She's having trouble adjusting to the hospital, which does have a considerable Mexican population, but I haven't noticed the Mexicans being particularly difficult patients, they seem to come in all stripes. I made some soothing comments and changed the subject.

The second statement was made during report, I was telling the story of a patient who was a real psychosocial disaster, very difficult, a total drain on society type, we had to move her roomate the woman was so loud, obnoxious and off the wall. She had a Spanish last name so the nurse I reported to made a derogatory remark. I told him that I didn't think this woman was Mexican but was married to one, thus nipping that one in the bud. He made this comment at the nurses station within earshot of everyone! :eek:

Meanwhile, we have Hispanic coworkers galore, most of whom are awesome people! I suppose a few Hispanic workers might also resent non-Hispanics, but I find the whole thing appalling. It always blindsides me! I need to practice a witty comeback, like the fact that my husband's half sisters are half Mexican (true).

How do you guys handle this type of situation?

Specializes in Rehab, Infection, LTC.
Now, you're not prejudiced against crazy militia people, are you? :D

the very second i posted that reply i just KNEW somebody was gonna say that:p

Specializes in Cardiac Nursing.
i sure do! and boy do these girls get a kick out of me. we're quite friendly, otherwise, but cannot divulge in more than small talk.

they told me once that catholics (i'm catholic) are going to hell for having "faulty doctrine". so when i said "atleast i'll be there with all my friends!"... they got even madder.

so when they refused to acknowledge obama as their president, because he is black, and he is just "another one of them", i went outside and brought them back in a bunch of rocks. when they said what for.... i said because we all live in a glass house ladies... but you guys obviously get to throw the first stone.

people with closed-minds exist. you cannot argue with them. they do not know anything forward of the perfect bubble they live in.

Which is why my BF told me point blank not to apply for a job in the deep south. He didn't want to get lynched as he's dating will soon marry a black woman (me). I had to tell him that unfortunately its not just the south anymore, its just more open in the south. Its quiet in the north, which I find worse.

Specializes in Rehab, Infection, LTC.
No, she didn't seem like that type. She's 62 and lived in Montana and came here to care for her aged mother. She's not the hardcore racist type, but is probably having a culture shock. I think she was a former back to the land type who moved to Montana years ago and is anti-government, and maybe smoked too much weed at one time.

ahhhhh that explains it! no brain cells left! :smokin:

Which is why my BF told me point blank not to apply for a job in the deep south. He didn't want to get lynched as he's dating will soon marry a black woman (me). I had to tell him that unfortunately its not just the south anymore, its just more open in the south. Its quiet in the north, which I find worse.

Yeah but african-american men also dont like to see a black women with a white man..just to add this has been my observation,and I'm not racists just to make things clear...well I cant be a hypocrite cause I used to date a latin american guy.

Specializes in LTC, Med/Surg, Peds, ICU, Tele.
ahhhhh that explains it! no brain cells left! :smokin:

Ha, well people ARE interesting.

This woman was in orientation with me, that's why I know a little bit about her. I floated to her floor and got to work with her a bit.

The whole tax evasion thing clued me in that something was missing upstairs. She actually thinks you can get away with claiming 8 dependents and they won't catch up with you for years and years. Pretty dumb. :no:

Specializes in Cardiac Nursing.

Boy, is she going to surprised by the audit that's going to hit her.

Specializes in ICU/Critical Care.
Ha, well people ARE interesting.

This woman was in orientation with me, that's why I know a little bit about her. I floated to her floor and got to work with her a bit.

The whole tax evasion thing clued me in that something was missing upstairs. She actually thinks you can get away with claiming 8 dependents and they won't catch up with you for years and years. Pretty dumb. :no:

My friend does the same thing except all year round. The IRS is going to have a field day getting money out of her since she has none. Its ok to claim 8 if you are working a lot of overtime and want the good check, not all the time.

Specializes in LTC, Med/Surg, Peds, ICU, Tele.

Don't you have to provide SS#s for people you claim as dependents on your tax return? I don't remember, I have a tax preparer.

Specializes in ICU/Critical Care.

I'm not sure. Never claimed dependants before.

Don't you have to provide SS#s for people you claim as dependents on your tax return? I don't remember, I have a tax preparer.

yes you do.

leslie

Specializes in EMS, ER, GI, PCU/Telemetry.
Maybe I should be more confrontational when this happens, but I'm not too gifted at thinking on my feet quickly in these situations, since they catch me by surprise. They don't actually happen too often, thankfully.

You know what really bugs me is that people think that they are safe to assume that I'll agree with them! How dare they! It's so presumptuous and ignorant to think that someone you barely know shares your prejudices! I mean, I don't think I look like a bigot. I actually look like a middle aged granola girl, tomboy type.

i've always been quick with the comebacks, lol. i think that's why the constantly engage me. it's these same two nurses. you'd think if i was such an offensive person they'd go away. they really spare no one with their judgement, either.... blacks, hispanics, gays, irish, italian, catholics, jews... whoever...

i got a kick out of the day i told them i was 1/2 sicilian and 1/2 italian after she cracked a spaghetti bender joke. i've got all the recessive genes, blonde hair, greenish blue eyes... my skin is a light olive.. so you'd never know. the one nurse looked at me and said "isn't that country in africa? wait a minute! does that mean you are part black??"

i couldn't take offense. i actually had to laugh.

does that mean you are part black??"

i couldn't take offense. i actually had to laugh.

Sicilians and Italians ARE part black. :D

Wassup Sista!!!!

ROFL!!!!!!!!!!!

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