When coworkers make prejudiced statements

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Yesterday I had two nurses make anti-Mexican statements. The first was a new nurse who moved from Montana and made these statements in the medroom. She's having trouble adjusting to the hospital, which does have a considerable Mexican population, but I haven't noticed the Mexicans being particularly difficult patients, they seem to come in all stripes. I made some soothing comments and changed the subject.

The second statement was made during report, I was telling the story of a patient who was a real psychosocial disaster, very difficult, a total drain on society type, we had to move her roomate the woman was so loud, obnoxious and off the wall. She had a Spanish last name so the nurse I reported to made a derogatory remark. I told him that I didn't think this woman was Mexican but was married to one, thus nipping that one in the bud. He made this comment at the nurses station within earshot of everyone! :eek:

Meanwhile, we have Hispanic coworkers galore, most of whom are awesome people! I suppose a few Hispanic workers might also resent non-Hispanics, but I find the whole thing appalling. It always blindsides me! I need to practice a witty comeback, like the fact that my husband's half sisters are half Mexican (true).

How do you guys handle this type of situation?

Specializes in EMS, ER, GI, PCU/Telemetry.
Do you work in the deep south? (of the US?) Because that sounds EXACTLY like where I live and about 200 miles in any direction.

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i sure do! and boy do these girls get a kick out of me. we're quite friendly, otherwise, but cannot divulge in more than small talk.

they told me once that catholics (i'm catholic) are going to hell for having "faulty doctrine". so when i said "atleast i'll be there with all my friends!"... they got even madder.

so when they refused to acknowledge obama as their president, because he is black, and he is just "another one of them", i went outside and brought them back in a bunch of rocks. when they said what for.... i said because we all live in a glass house ladies... but you guys obviously get to throw the first stone.

people with closed-minds exist. you cannot argue with them. they do not know anything forward of the perfect bubble they live in.

Specializes in Rehab, Infection, LTC.
i sure do! and boy do these girls get a kick out of me. we're quite friendly, otherwise, but cannot divulge in more than small talk.

they told me once that catholics (i'm catholic) are going to hell for having "faulty doctrine". so when i said "atleast i'll be there with all my friends!"... they got even madder.

so when they refused to acknowledge obama as their president, because he is black, and he is just "another one of them", i went outside and brought them back in a bunch of rocks. when they said what for.... i said because we all live in a glass house ladies... but you guys obviously get to throw the first stone.

people with closed-minds exist. you cannot argue with them. they do not know anything forward of the perfect bubble they live in.

Deep south here!

do you know that until i was 32 yrs old (im 41 now) that i prayed for the Pope cuz i thought he was going to hell. i swear it's true!

when i was 13, my grandfather and the pastor told me that everyone but the baptists are going to hell. (sure bet they both were suprised when they got up there, huh? lol) so i grew up and believed it. i mean, who doubts your grandfather AND the preacher?

it wasnt until i met a pagan at a new job and came to become best friends with her that i found out differently. i learned more about religion from her, the heathern (as i lovingly call her) than my grandfather, preacher and sunday school my whole life!

now when i see the pope on tv...i dont worry about him anymore:p

Specializes in ICU/Critical Care.

I stare at the person with a "Shut the F--- up" look.

Specializes in CTICU.

I say "I'd rather be black/hispanic/poor/etc than racist and judgmental like you...!".

Specializes in ICU/Critical Care.
Specializes in Rehab, Infection, LTC.
I stare at the person with a "Shut the F--- up" look.

I like the way you think :D

Specializes in LTC, Med/Surg, Peds, ICU, Tele.

Maybe I should be more confrontational when this happens, but I'm not too gifted at thinking on my feet quickly in these situations, since they catch me by surprise. They don't actually happen too often, thankfully.

You know what really bugs me is that people think that they are safe to assume that I'll agree with them! How dare they! It's so presumptuous and ignorant to think that someone you barely know shares your prejudices! I mean, I don't think I look like a bigot. I actually look like a middle aged granola girl, tomboy type.

Specializes in Rehab, Infection, LTC.
Maybe I should be more confrontational when this happens, but I'm not too gifted at thinking on my feet quickly in these situations, since they catch me by surprise. They don't actually happen too often, thankfully.

You know what really bugs me is that people think that they are safe to assume that I'll agree with them! How dare they! It's so presumptuous and ignorant to think that someone you barely know shares your prejudices! I mean, I don't think I look like a bigot. I actually look like a middle aged granola girl, tomboy type.

you cracked me right up! lol, what the heck does a bigot look like anyways? :p

Specializes in LTC, Med/Surg, Peds, ICU, Tele.
you cracked me right up! lol, what the heck does a bigot look like anyways? :p

Heh heh, well guess they come in all shapes and sizes, ha!

The first woman who was from Montana actually looks plain and benign, with a mild manner. She seems to be having trouble adjusting to living around Mexicans. She was really dumb, she told me that she's claiming 8 dependents on her tax return even though it's not true, because she doesn't agree with how the government spends the tax money. I told her that no one agrees with how the tax money is spent but that she'll get in big trouble when they catch up with her. I even polled everyone at the nurses station, asking who disagrees with how the tax money is spent and everyone raised their hand.

That woman was living in the back woods too long, me thinks. :rolleyes:

Specializes in Rehab, Infection, LTC.
Heh heh, well guess they come in all shapes and sizes, ha!

The first woman who was from Montana actually looks plain and benign, with a mild manner. She seems to be having trouble adjusting to living around Mexicans. She was really dumb, she told me that she's claiming 8 dependents on her tax return even though it's not true, because she doesn't agree with how the government spends the tax money. I told her that no one agrees with how the tax money is spent but that she'll get in big trouble when they catch up with her. I even polled everyone at the nurses station, asking who disagrees with how the tax money is spent and everyone raised their hand.

That woman was living in the back woods too long, me thinks. :rolleyes:

she's gonna get one big whopping tax bill in a few weeks!

sure she didnt come from one of "those" places in montana? you know...the compound type places?

Specializes in LTC, Med/Surg, Peds, ICU, Tele.

No, she didn't seem like that type. She's 62 and lived in Montana and came here to care for her aged mother. She's not the hardcore racist type, but is probably having a culture shock. I think she was a former back to the land type who moved to Montana years ago and is anti-government, and maybe smoked too much weed at one time.

Specializes in CTICU.

Now, you're not prejudiced against crazy militia people, are you? :D

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