hi all i just wanted to ask everyone what there biggest pet peeve is when it comes to your family or friends when discussing difficulties that you are having with school.
when i try to discuss things with my family they just say .... oh suck it up its not that hard :angryfire .... or come on now its just nursing its not that bad..... but my favorite is .... nursing is nursing isn't that why you wanted to go to school to learn so lean. i might add i really really hate this one
now when ever i have a problem non of my family members like to help me through the difficult times i just get these useless lines and its supposed to make everything better. i hate it even more because none of my family has ever gone through university or better yet most haven't even graduated from high school.
My family has been wonderful through school. My husband has really stepped up. My in-laws have also ben great. I don't know how I would have made it through school without them. My biggest pet peeve about school is seeing the people in my class who really shouldn't be there. We have one girl who cheated all through prereqs - that is the only reason she even made it into the program. She has kissed ass in all of our clinicals, so everyone thinks she is great, but in reality she is lazy. She thinks she knows everything and makes sure that we all know she knows everything, yet she is just barely making the C's she needs to pass. Anyway, I could go on and on about that!!!! She is my pet peeve - glad I won't be working on the same floor with her after graduation!!:yelclap:
one of the toughest things can be to appreciate people's efforts even when they're not what you're hoping for. case in point...if your husband says "of course you got an a" he's not dismissing your accomplishment - he's probably trying to say "i know that you're intelligent, and i see how hard you've been working - that's why your success doesn't surprise me." when you get a b and he asks what the highest grade was, what he was probably trying to say was "wow, if someone as smart as you, who works so hard got a b, it must have been a really tough test. i bet you got close to the highest score."
one of the toughest things in a relationship can be to hear what they're saying, instead of what you're hearing.
no offense i have tried to listen to my family in that way, and there was no real support in their comments. maybe i'm sad and pathetic but just once i would have loved to hear something along the lines of .... you seem really stressed, can i help you with something. actually in truth any response other then just dismissing my concerns would have been nice, and honestly your intelligent comment to me would be dismissing my comments/thoughts.
i'd have to say how some family members fail to understand why i need to study so much, and why i have missed out on so much family stuff these past 3 years. and i'd like to smack my mr.i-graduated-magna-cum-laude-without-cracking-a-book-husband, who has a criminal justice degree and flew through college. he really doesn't get how different nursing school is, and how important it is for me to really understand everything, not just merely get good grades on tests. he won't kill someone if he forgets what statute number speeding is, but if i don't recognize someone has drug incompatibilites--it could happen. so it kinda stinks, i think it's hard for others to understand unless they've been there.
with my ex i use to go through this all the time. he could never understand why i needed to study so much. he actually thought that when i was in school monday-friday that i was like him and missed/skipped a ton of classes (he took a business admin course where he skipped many classes to go play pool or something). i tried to explain that if i missed a class or two the next class i would be so out of the loop and not likely to happen.
we both went to school at the same time, when he needed to study i'd take the kids away so that he could have some quiet time. when i needed to study he wouldn't take the kids away so i was interrupted ever 5 min. to top it off when ever i told him that i really needed to study he would put the loudest blow up movie known to man on with the volume extremely loud:angryfire talk about rude and not understanding anything.
my family has been wonderful through school. my husband has really stepped up. my in-laws have also ben great. i don't know how i would have made it through school without them. my biggest pet peeve about school is seeing the people in my class who really shouldn't be there. we have one girl who cheated all through prereqs - that is the only reason she even made it into the program. she has kissed ass in all of our clinicals, so everyone thinks she is great, but in reality she is lazy. she thinks she knows everything and makes sure that we all know she knows everything, yet she is just barely making the c's she needs to pass. anyway, i could go on and on about that!!!! she is my pet peeve - glad i won't be working on the same floor with her after graduation!!:yelclap:
hummmmmmmmmm i think every nursing class has one of those . i had a girl in my class that never wrote any of her own papers. her reasoning for that was shes going to be a nurse not a writer so why not get her friends to do it. she must have had some good friends cause a lot of our papers were 15+ page papers:uhoh21:
Every one is very supportive. But one time I was at a friends party because she was always complaining that when ever she asked me to do somthing I said "I have to study"....so I decited to go to out just once....but I said I could not stay to late...to make a long story short, this guy at her party was all mad because I would not drink because I did not plan on staying late and did not want a hang over the next morning because I needed to study...and he just kept saying, "Your just trying to hide from a good time, look at you will your pig tails and glasses, trying to hide behind your books and schoolin'...you trying to hide from a good time!" Granted he was a drunk red-neck, I should not have cared but, I wanted to punch his lights out!
My pet peeve is nursing students who think they know everything and will not listen to anyone elses ideas when you are in a group setting! :angryfire I had this happen recently when doing a group discussion regarding a postpartum careplan. I suggested we include PP hemorrhage and she immediately shot it down saying it was not indicated, but the synopsis of the patient included that she was in the immediate PP period and had a 10lb 4oz baby. Now I work on a mother/baby unit and I know that PP hemorrhage is a concern for almost any mother. Fast forward to posting the discussion, many people said we should have included that and how important it was. It made me sooooo mad :angryfire I just wish people like that would just let everyone have their say and include something from everyone's input.
My pet peeve is nursing students who think they know everything and will not listen to anyone elses ideas when you are in a group setting! :angryfire I had this happen recently when doing a group discussion regarding a postpartum careplan. I suggested we include PP hemorrhage and she immediately shot it down saying it was not indicated, but the synopsis of the patient included that she was in the immediate PP period and had a 10lb 4oz baby. Now I work on a mother/baby unit and I know that PP hemorrhage is a concern for almost any mother. Fast forward to posting the discussion, many people said we should have included that and how important it was. It made me sooooo mad :angryfire I just wish people like that would just let everyone have their say and include something from everyone's input.
That exact situation happend to me last week. We had to do a careplan as a group and it was for 40% of our test grade too!!! I told them we needed to be more detailed, but they just wanted to get done fast and they rushed thorugh it. If I had done the careplan on my own I would've gotten an A on that test, but because of their crappy work and know-it-all attitude it brought me down to an 89% (A's are 93% at my school). Uggh!! I hate having my test grade being based on other people. We should not be doing group work for test grades IMO. They just did NOT want to listen to me and shot me down like I was nothing when I tried to suggest anything.
Other pet peeves (and beware I am not in a good mood right now):
1-unsupportive teachers I went in for clinical evaluation and I told the teacher that I was feeling burnt out, in other words I was seeking some emotional support from someone I thought could relate and understand and help-but nope all she said was 'well you have to do the work to pass' I HATE THAT KIND OF ANSWER!!! Yeah I know I have to do the work, I didnt say I wasnt going to do the work, I just said I felt burnt out and frustrated. So she made me go home and do an assignment that no one else has to do just so she'll give me a good eval to the next clincial instructor-what BS!!! They said they were there to support us when we first started, I'm learning quickly that that was a big fat lie.
2-paperwork, paperwork, paperwork!! When was nursing all about paperwork? I thought it was supposed to be about caring and patients. Concept maps, Gordon's functional health patterns, med sheets, abnormal lab explanation, therapeutic communication analysis, blah blah blah. They want to develop our intuition, I dont get my intuition from memorization I get it from experience.
3-students who like the paperwork, they forget that we are there to care for patients, some of them get so obsessed and freak out about getting all the paperwork and reading done, I dont think I've opened my foundations book in more then 2 weeks!!! I just dont read, I dont have time. I get my info from lecture and my resource texts and go on. They have no social life. I have to have something to keep sane. They look at me like I'm crazy when I say that I take every Saturday off from anything nursing related. I was told in one of my clinical rotations by an RN that you are either a book nurse or a real nurse. A real nurse will know you are going to die 5 minutes before you crash and be able to save you, a book nurse will know 5 mintues after you die how to save you because she was looking it up in a book and making a concept map and careplan on how to save you. She said she was a 'real nurse'. Well, I want to be a real nurse. One that really cares about the patients, knows her stuff in her head and doesnt need a book to tell her what to do. She just knows it. I just want my damn degree.
Can you tell I'm pissed off tonight!! It is because of the assignment my teacher is making do that no one else has to do. If that thing is still not good enough for her tomorrow I'm going to be SOOOO mad!!!
my sister is studying paralegal...she works full time and still has a social life. she can't get kicked out of school for screwing up on a case study, but if i make a mistake in clinical it could be over for me. also the grading policy is on a ten point scale for her so even though we may both acheive a 90, its an a for her and a b for me.
soldier's wife..... my first degree was an aas paralegal. i graduated with a 3.89 because i spent most of my next to last quarter on painkillers after 4 surgeries. i don't want to belittle your sisters program in the least. it wasn't basketweaving 101 by any means. however, it's certainly easier than nursing school.
when i got my paralegal degree i was a single mother of 3 and worked part time on top of full time school. now i'm a married mother of 5 who is fortunate not to have to work while i'm finishing my nursing program. i study my butt off all the time and and am managing 3.65 but boy it's taking a lot more time and effort.
my pet peeve in school? the 25-35 year olds in my class that act like 5 year olds...... it's pathetic.
People that find out your in nursing school and bombard you with questions about thier health then get all exasperated when you don't know. Umm...I just started nursing school last week you want to tell them.
People that assume it's a piece of cake and are just amazed at how much RN's make upon graduation (commonly referred to as "the big bucks"). I mean how hard is it to bathe someone and hold a bed pan.
Overly dramatic nursing students. Yes, nursing school is time consuming and draining. I bonded with some of my fellow classmates during study/ griped sessions. But there is always that one/or few people that have it *so* much harder than everyone else. I got so tired of being told how much easier I had it because I lived at home and had no kids. (and no, I was not complaining...I just got told this on a daily basis) I still had to work full time to pay for school (no scholarships or financial aide...I had to pay for every penny), so I did have responsibiitlies. Yes, I do admit I had it easier than many people in my class but am I supposed to feel like I'm any less deserving of my grades. It's not my problem you are 40, single and have 3 kids. There were several woman in that situation that totally kicked butt during school and they had my total admiration, but there were also a few that fell into that "woe is me category"
I am a new user and this is my first post. this topic though is something that I can relate to entirely. I'm 19 years old and a sophmore in college currently going after my BSN. my biggest peeve is when i go to my parents house and they want to talk about school. I live at school for several hours a day and at the hospital for several hours a week. Leave me alone just for a few minutes then we can talk. But when you've had IVs, Meds, Caths, charting, care plans, BP machines, and god only knows what else in your face for that long its nice to just have a little brake. Thats why they get mad when i leave and go to my house and don't see them for several days at a time. I'm like well, if every time i was there you didn't make my relive minute by minute my day I would come. I just want to eat, lay on the couch, and watch the most mind numding thing on tv that i can find and for a brie f few minutes feel as if everything is going to be ooookay. But thats just me.
My pet peeve may sound weird. but Mine is to come to class prepared everyday. I think it is just expected out of all of us. There are people who never read anything or even skim the book before comming to class even. I also hate it when a teacher waits for people to answer (you know that awkard silence). I usually just answer because I hate that silence or when a teacher begs for an answer. Kinda funny today we had a different discussion lecture teacher and she banned me from answering any quesitons:lol2: . I just hate that silence or teachers begging for answers so badly that I would rather look super smart and look like I have no life.
Okay, how about when a family member asks you a question. You explain the procedure or process or whatever to them...and their mouths hit the floor, silence fills the room, then follows the , "Oh my gosh! You are so smart now!!" So, you're telling me I wasn't before. Give me a break. I mean I know I was not the best student in high school (which was a long time ago), but it wasn't because I wasn't smart. I was just lazy!!!
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My family has been wonderful through school. My husband has really stepped up. My in-laws have also ben great. I don't know how I would have made it through school without them. My biggest pet peeve about school is seeing the people in my class who really shouldn't be there. We have one girl who cheated all through prereqs - that is the only reason she even made it into the program. She has kissed ass in all of our clinicals, so everyone thinks she is great, but in reality she is lazy. She thinks she knows everything and makes sure that we all know she knows everything, yet she is just barely making the C's she needs to pass. Anyway, I could go on and on about that!!!! She is my pet peeve - glad I won't be working on the same floor with her after graduation!!:yelclap: