What would you do?

luvmy2angels · Feb 4, 2006

Yes, I would bring it someone's attention!!

BrieRN07 · Feb 4, 2006

I would because that is very dishonest....If he isn't absent all of time, it shouldn't be that big of a deal to miss a day.

SarasotaRN2b · Feb 4, 2006

I know it is going against popular decision, but I wouldn't. If this is a one time deal, let it go. Believe me, if it is recurring, the instructor will see. I figure that you've got enough on your plate, why create more stress with your classmates.

You might want to talk to the girlfriend and advise her to be careful. She may actually find herself in more trouble than the boyfriend.

Kris

S.N. Visit, BSN, RN · Feb 4, 2006

I can certainly see why you'd be upset, because it's not fair.

Personally, I would do nothing about it though . I hate confrontation and would always feel like such a narc around him , the girl-friend, and their circle of friends. Also, I'd feel like a hypocrit because I'm always telling my kids "Don't be a tattle tale, unless some-one is actually being harmed or in danger. "

What ever you decide to do, try not to let it stress you out.

SerenityR.N., BSN, RN · Feb 4, 2006

its understandable to be mad because you feel like you couldnt do this. I personally would just mind my business. Its not right, its dishonest, but if we were to tell on everyone who did something wrong, we would miss most of class. We can only worry about ourselves. whats kept in the dark will come to light.

crb613, BSN, RN · Feb 4, 2006

Unless I was asked by the instructor did you see so & so in class......I would keep my mouth shut. Yes its dishonest & no its not fair but, that is between the g-friend, the guy & the instructor. The instructor already noticed he was not there & it was probally noticed he did not return from the b-room. Just my thoughts.

Kathyz · Feb 4, 2006

Of course I'd want to tell, but as I've gotten older I learned to mind my own business. He missed a whole day which is a lot of information. I really believe what goes around comes around and it will eventually catch up with him and his girlfriend. And when that happens, it isn't going to be pretty. Focus on yourself.:wink2:

GooeyRN, ADN, BSN, CNA, LPN, RN · Feb 4, 2006

I would mind my own business. If he keeps doing things like that he will eventually get busted and kicked out. Then you wont have to feel guilty when he is kicked out. If its dont more than one time instructors WILL notice.

DutchgirlRN, ASN, RN · Feb 4, 2006

I wouldn't either. I would definately want to and definately think it's dishonest but this student will eventually hang himself if he continues on this path and if it ends up being a one time event then it's not worth reporting. If it's not affecting you in anyway don't worry.

Daytonite, BSN, RN · Feb 4, 2006

A real ethical dilemma, isn't it? What would you do if you saw some one injecting themselves in a corner or an empty patient's bathroom?

Go to the instructor privately and with the door to the room closed tell her what you observed. Tell her you are worried about repercussions from the offenders and others who might find out that you've told. The instructor does have an obligation to maintain your confidentiality. Just give her the facts. Then, keep your mouth shut about it. Both these people were wrong. They have both definitely demonstrated that they are sneaky and willing to cut corners to get things done the way THEY want. Can you possibly imagine what kind of corners people like this are willing to cut when they are on their nursing jobs caring for other people? They need to be cut from the herd.

By the way, some states have mandatory reporting laws with regard to any time one licensed nurse sees another licensee violating nursing law. If it is discovered that you knew that someone was falsifying charts or abused a patient and didn't report it, you can also be punished by the state board as well. Are you sure your school's honesty policy doesn't require you to report this? Why do you suppose organizations have to put these kinds of rules down on paper? It is because people try to circumvent the system all the time. There are legitimate ways to take a day off classes. If several other people also noticed this happened, no one reports it, but the instructor still finds out, all of you will be in trouble.

Stdy2BaNurse · Feb 4, 2006

A real ethical dilemma, isn't it? What would you do if you saw some one injecting themselves in a corner or an empty patient's bathroom?
Go to the instructor privately and with the door to the room closed tell her what you observed. Tell her you are worried about repercussions from the offenders and others who might find out that you've told. The instructor does have an obligation to maintain your confidentiality. Just give her the facts. Then, keep your mouth shut about it. Both these people were wrong. They have both definitely demonstrated that they are sneaky and willing to cut corners to get things done the way THEY want. Can you possibly imagine what kind of corners people like this are willing to cut when they are on their nursing jobs caring for other people? They need to be cut from the herd.
By the way, some states have mandatory reporting laws with regard to any time one licensed nurse sees another licensee violating nursing law. If it is discovered that you knew that someone was falsifying charts or abused a patient and didn't report it, you can also be punished by the state board as well. Are you sure your school's honesty policy doesn't require you to report this? Why do you suppose organizations have to put these kinds of rules down on paper? It is because people try to circumvent the system all the time. There are legitimate ways to take a day off classes. If several other people also noticed this happened, no one reports it, but the instructor still finds out, all of you will be in trouble.

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I completely understand and agree with what others have said "what goes around comes around" - "what is in the dark will be brought to the light"; however, as Daytonite explains above, there are rules for these things for these reasons. Maybe you don't feel called that it is your place to do it but if and when this comes out and you are asked if you knew - are you willing to lie to keep yourself out of trouble? If so, you are being as dishonest as the couple lying about his absence. This is a tough call. One that has to be made keeping your integrity in mind. I think you are getting a lot of good advice here. Good luck with your decision.