What’s a Crusty Old Bat?

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by Hannahbanana Hannahbanana, BSN, MSN Member Educator Expert Nurse

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Kitiger, RN

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Well, then; I hereby declare that I am a Crusty Old Bat, a proud member of the C.O.B. Society. ??

Emergent, RN

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1 hour ago, NurseBlaq said:

So the hurt people, hurt other people approach? Hmmmm

I can't show love to people who try to hurt me. Ignore their existence, yes. Love, nope. I've had intensive experiences with an abusive narcissistic ex. My levels of giving a damn are exhausted.

Amen sister. ❤

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Davey Do

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13 hours ago, NurseBlaq said:

So the hurt people, hurt other people approach? Hmmmm

I can't show love to people who try to hurt me. Ignore their existence, yes. Love, nope. I've had intensive experiences with an abusive narcissistic ex. My levels of giving a damn are exhausted.

You've got it, NurseBlaq: The "hurt the other people approach" is a type of tough love. The other must experience discomfort, and embrace that discomfort, if they ever want to experience a higher consciousness. We are giving the other an opportunity for growth.

Your statement of "I can't show love to people who try to hurt me" doesn't settle well with me, because I sense that you can and you do show love to them, NurseBlaq. "Ignore their existence" is a type of love, in that it's self love in protecting your own well being and it's love for the other through not throwing stones.

There are but two human emotions: love & fear. Every other identifiable emotion stems from either love or fear.  By ignoring another's existence and inflicting no pain on them for their wrongs done to you is love. It is a variety of the grand old proverb, live and let live.

See, NurseBalaq? You're more loving than you thought you were!

Now: Pass the popcorn.

Hannahbanana, BSN, MSN

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22 hours ago, sevensonnets said:

You're exactly right, NurseBlaq. For no other reason but to be mean.

Sure, because we have no vested interest or institutional memory that would make us care about standards of care or professionalism. Good call.

Davey Do

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23 hours ago, sevensonnets said:

You're exactly right, NurseBlaq. For no other reason but to be mean.

 

On 5/30/2021 at 4:26 PM, Hannahbanana said:

Sure, because we have no vested interest or institutional memory that would make us care about standards of care or professionalism. Good call.

This is an example of an Us & Them mentality: "We are right and they are wrong. We are good and they are bad."

The problem with an Us & Them mentality is that is an end road- We close the book on Them, and they are not with which We need to, or have to, deal.

It is possible to assist in raising the consciousness of Them, guide Them, and allow Them to experience illuminating revelations with subsequent behavioral changes.

However, the vast majority prefers to label Them and chuck Them off as Lost Causes.

Done and done. We may return to a State of Complacency.

 

sevensonnets

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Because only the opinions of one or two people are tolerated here on AN, I no longer will be participating.

Hannahbanana, BSN, MSN

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4 hours ago, sevensonnets said:

Because only the opinions of one or two people are tolerated here on AN, I no longer will be participating

Wait, wut? You lost me there. Last I looked there were thousands of people signed up. If the mods are erasing some people for intolerable comments, I’m not seeing it lately. 

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11 hours ago, Davey Do said:

You've got it, NurseBlaq: The "hurt the other people approach" is a type of tough love. The other must experience discomfort, and embrace that discomfort, if they ever want to experience a higher consciousness. We are giving the other an opportunity for growth.

Your statement of "I can't show love to people who try to hurt me" doesn't settle well with me, because I sense that you can and you do show love to them, NurseBlaq. "Ignore their existence" is a type of love, in that it's self love in protecting your own well being and it's love for the other through not throwing stones.

There are but two human emotions: love & fear. Every other identifiable emotion stems from either love or fear.  By ignoring another's existence and inflicting no pain on them for their wrongs done to you is love. It is a variety of the grand old proverb, live and let live.

See, NurseBalaq? You're more loving than you thought you were!

Now: Pass the popcorn.

Have some ?! I share.

Emergent, RN

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19 hours ago, sevensonnets said:

Because only the opinions of one or two people are tolerated here on AN, I no longer will be participating.

What triggered that? I think this is a lighthearted thread...

Davey Do

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18 minutes ago, Emergent said:

What triggered that? 

Temporal contiguity occurs when two stimuli are experienced close together in time and, as a result an association may be formed.

Hannahbanana, BSN, MSN

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As anyone who reads any kind of statistics must know, association is not causation. (I know Davey knows this.) 

Cf., the mashed potato theory of homicide, which notes that the vast majority of murderers in the US have consumed mashed potatoes before killing somebody.