What to do if I like someone at work?

[Convoy2022_TrumpSupporter]

I started working with someone, but they also work other floors, same shift which is morning. They're new so they are pulled everywhere. I like her, and I want to ask her out on a date, but its weird cause its a work thing. Asking for an opinion if its a no go or a green light? I'm 27 and she is 34.

I don't want anything to effect our lives as nurse, but I remember in nursing school many of my professors met the love of their life at work or during nursing school. 

I only dated once before and it was a bad experience. I have a dry sense of humour and she totally understands that.

I just don't want to ask her on a date and she declines me and then I make a fool of myself and have to work with her. Was even thinking of giving up my full time. 

[klone, MSN, RN]

There's a saying: Don't *** where you eat. 
If you DO ask her out, I would not lead by telling her you are a Trump supporter, just saying.

[Emergent, RN]

The Trump supporter deal is a bit of a turn off to many people. It makes you look like you are goofing around on the internet. It's hard to take you seriously with that username.

[Been there,done that, ASN, RN]

Just ask her out  and see where it goes. I met my husband at work. Co-workers thought  it was cool. Lose the username, this is not a place for politics.

[abbnurse]

klone said:

If you DO ask her out, I would not lead by telling her you are a Trump supporter, just saying.

???

[marienm, RN, CCRN]

Scenario: You run into her and say "I'd love to get coffee/check out the mini golf place/see xyz band together, would you like that?"  She says "no, thank you."  How would that make you feel?  If you're thinking you'd be angry at her, humiliated, unable to focus on work, etc... then you should absolutely NOT ask her out.  What if she says "sure" and you have an okay time but then she says she doesn't want to do more stuff together and just remain co-workers?  Again, if you will take this hard (see above) you should NOT ask her out, both for the sake of your own heart and for your career.  Basically, I think you need to be in a place where it feels like you'd be thrilled to go on a date BUT you'd be just fine if you didn't go on a date.  It doesn't sound like that's where you are.  You might consider working out some of your feelings about dating with a therapist if the thought of asking this person out is making you consider quitting your job before you even do it.  That's a big reaction with some really big feelings behind it.

If you do wind up asking her out and at any point she says no, then you need to take that seriously and do NOT pursue her.  Don't try to make her feel guilty, don't badger her or be snide to her at work, don't get your friends to pester her, and definitely don't send her any texts/pics you wouldn't want your mom to see.  These are all things that 1) are super creepy and 2) can get you fired. She'll know you're interested and if she changes her mind she knows where to find you.

Unlike other posters here, I'd say don't hide the Trump supporter thing.  It's weird in this forum and I think you should change your username to something neutral, but if that's how you feel in real life then she will probably have an opinion about it so she might as well know that about you.  It can come up naturally in conversation...you don't have to make it your leading line, but if you want to build a relationship with someone there's no sense in hiding (what I assume is) a deeply held belief.  Good luck to you!

[MarkMyWords]

This above...ought to be common sense.

[Robmoo, ADN, BSN, RN]

Ask her out for coffee and see how things go.  If she says give you a reason why she can't do it, tell her that it is an open invitation and to just let you know if/when she is interested.  Since she is a colleague, you probably shouldn't ask a second time.  The last thing that you want is to be in HR for harassing a colleague.  

Good luck!

[Emergent, RN]

I would guess that everyone at work already knows that you are Trump supporter, not that I recommend bringing politics into the workplace at all. If your political opinions are highly important to you, you definitely don't want to hide that from a potential mate.

My point was that your username is not really appropriate for a nursing forum. It would be fine on a political forum. I think it makes you look like someone who is making a little mischief online. I don't take you as seriously with a username like that.

[vintagegal, BSN, DNP, RN, NP]

Never mix business and pleasure. Check your employee handbook, the one you signed upon employment. Chances are there is an anti fraternization policy. As a female, I would not appreciate anyone asking me out at my workplace. There is time for social interactions and time for work.

[Crystal-Wings, LVN]

Don't *** where you eat

[offlabel]

As far as the politics go, as long as people agree with you, it's cool. I'm sure if you had a pride element to your avatar it'd be totally cool... The Trump thing is a trigger for a lot of people that can't handle him, so take that for what it's worth. Nurses can work anywhere so if it works out and if you and she thinks it's worth it, one of you can change your work setting PRN...no big deal. Ask her out, dude!