12/31/15: What I learned this year

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Happy New Year, friends, colleagues, and nurse enthusiasts!

It's been a busy, challenging, and thought provoking year à chez Ixchel. Certainly a lot of lessons learned. Here's a summary of what I can recall at this moment:

1. "What doesn't kill you will make you stronger," said no nurse, ever.

2. Night shift takes 2 full days of recovery time.

3. Never, ever, ever utter the word "bored" on the full moon on a holiday inside the walls of a hospital. Don't even do it in the parking lot. In fact..... If you have ever in your life received a paycheck from any place that offers medical care, never say the word "bored" on a holiday during a full moon regardless of where you are.

4. I cannot believe how much blood can pour out of a healthy young person while pouring nonstop fluids and blood back into them before you lose their pulse.

5. It is not "helpful" to have the in laws pick up the kids at noon for lunch after a very sleep deprived 3-night stretch. (No matter how absurd he may think that sounds.)

6. It actually is normal to take a couple of days to recover from these long and brutal shifts.

7. When I compartmentalized my patients, thinking of them as science in my nurse brain, I can give compassionate/empathetic, yet unemotionally involved care. The second my mom brain turns on, it brings me to my knees.

8. The charge nurses I was warned about turned out to be worth the warning. This was so disappointing to discover.

9. I survived my first year after licensure and I've realized I'm a good nurse.

10. You should still never remove an African American woman's wig. I'm pretty sure that story will never die.

11. The human body WANTS to live. This helps me stay calm when the patient is crashing.

12. I love code team.

13. I suck at IVs and I'm not sure this will change.

14. After having three patients with life-long, life threatening complications after a surgery I will hopefully be getting soon, I'm afraid.

15. It takes at least 4 days off work to feel fully recharged to go back.

16. Day shift is hell.

17. Some shifts, success depends on having a great tech.

18. I'm still thankful for an intact and fully functioning rectum.

19. I have a terrible, overwhelming fear and hatred for progressive neurological disorders, which doesn't help me be an impartial nurse or granddaughter.

20. Being a nurse has changed me. I am sad more frequently, and I have less patience for what people perceive as problems (when in all actuality, these "problems" are more minor inconveniences).

21. Sometimes I forget that the people I am close to aren't desensitized to the same things I am. This has required a few heartfelt apologies.

22. I used to go all out on cooking as a SAHM. Now that I am working? No. I have no effs to give.

23. My children are genuinely interested in the lives I touch as a nurse and will actually ask me what I saw and did at work each week. Sometimes I wonder if my daughter pictures me with a cape and superhero mask when she pictures me at work. Honest to god I love this and wish I could keep them at this curious, interested age forever.

24. This is the most lucrative year my husband and I have ever had as a couple and we have nothing to show for it because baby sitters are expensive.

25. I am ready for grad school.

26. The friendships I've made here have gotten me through quite a bit. Thank you all, and best wishes for a beautiful and awesome 2016!

U2 > New Year's Day

Specializes in Med/Surg, OR, Peds, Patient Education.
Well, tonight was the night our lil buddy crossed the Rainbow Bridge. He had two good weeks with us, but was so weak today he couldn't jump up onto my husband's lap.

We had him almost 18 years. He will be missed.

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We had our dear little cat for eighteen years, and in 2000, on my birthday, we lost her. She had a great life and added to ours. We still have her ashes resting on our gas fire place. She is missed, but we have so many great memories of her with our daughters when they were at home.

Sending you hugs and know that you made your sweet cat's life better. Deepest sympathies as I know that you miss him and that he was a part of your family.

Specializes in ORTHO, PCU, ED.
We had our dear little cat for eighteen years, and in 2000, on my birthday, we lost her. She had a great life and added to ours. We still have her ashes resting on our gas fire place. She is missed, but we have so many great memories of her with our daughters when they were at home.

Sending you hugs and know that you made your sweet cat's life better. Deepest sympathies as I know that you miss him and that he was a part of your family.

That picture is a tear jerker. :(

Specializes in OR, Nursing Professional Development.

So sorry for your loss. ((Jensmom))

Specializes in Urology, HH, med/Surg.

Jensmom- my heart is crying so hard for you. I have 2 cat babies that are 11 and your post brings up my most dreaded fear.

You'll be in my thoughts for many days.

Specializes in Hospice.

Many thanks to all of you. I'm feeling a little empty today, but I'm soldiering on.

Weird thing happened last night. It was around midnight, and I was having trouble falling asleep. My left arm was down by my side, and all of a sudden I felt paws on my arm. They were feather light (he only weighed about 5 pounds). It wasn't either of the other cats-his sister was in my daughter's room at that time, and the younger one...well, her nickname is "Jabba the Hutt"; feather light she ain't lol.

They went up and down my arm a few times and then were gone. I fell asleep right after that.

In the cold light of day, I've convinced myself that it was just my mind playing tricks on me. Almost.

Specializes in allergy and asthma, urgent care.
Specializes in Geriatrics, Dialysis.

So sorry for your loss Jensmom. It is heartbreaking knowing when you go into that relationship with your pets that the time with them is limited. Glad you had so many years, but sad there couldn't be more.

*hugs* I'm sorry jensmom.

That sounds like a nice, comforting goodbye you had though.

*hugs* I'm sorry jensmom.

That sounds like a nice, comforting goodbye you had though.

Freaking Oodles. What have YOU learned this year? Hmm?

Freaking Oodles. What have YOU learned this year? Hmm?

Too much, Far. Everything is running together.

Specializes in critical care.

Jensmom, please ask Jen for another hug from me. I'm so sorry for your loss!

Specializes in CVICU CCRN.

I know I'm late but...(((jensmom))) thinking of you. I lost two dear fur friends in 2015 and it still twinges a bit to say the least.

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