I don't know what to do...my son is 3 weeks into the nursing program at Gordon College, and wants to quit...He's not yet 20, got into the program on the 1st attempt (i've heard of folks on the wait list 4+ years...)...anywhoo...
When I was in school, I ate, slept, and breathed...nursing school. It was either study and pass or lose my home and son (because I wouldn't have been able to provide for us if I didn't pass).
He is not yet 20, but doesn't apply himself (he said he was preparing for his head to toe assessment skills lab, but couldn't find what consisted of patient "history..." he gave me the book and it was on the FIRST PAGE!!!!!)
He just doesn't get it...what a MIRACLE he got in the first try...he has never had to work for excellent grades, but with this he is just not applying himself, and I called him on it...told him he spends all his time playing "warcraft" online instead of studying (he then became defensive..."you don't see what I do at school...") He cut back on work 3 weeks ago so "he could have time to study."
I just don't get it...new grads at my facility start at $20/h...should he succeed, he will be 21 making $20/h with more opportunities for career advancement, and sign on bonuses (I graduated in 1996, and made $12/h...took me 1.5 yrs to get into a hospital job)...
anywhoo...how to motivate a childish son? This is not a test, this is the real world. Is it because he has never had to work for excellent grades???
Yesterday he said "I don't know if I want to do this...I don't know if I have it in me...maybe I should be a doctor or a dentist"; like THAT would be EASIER!!!
Nursing School is very challenging yet it is doable. Take your time and study, study, study and when you get some rest guess what study some more. Because there is light at the end of the nursing tunnell. And with the help from the Lord above all things are possible.
i'm 42 and just graduated nursing school. i have had a previous career for over 20 years with other bachelor degrees. i know that if i had started nursing school when i was 18, i would have been doing what your son is doing. you have to want to be a nurse. my trials and tribulations lead me to nursing after all these years and i know this is for me. as an 18 year old i could have gotten the grades, but probably would have not wanted to spend time to really understand what nursing is all about.
he's got to find his path or if pushed a certain way he may go thru with school and end up never practicing....it would all be a waste.
i'm 42 and just graduated nursing school. i have had a previous career for over 20 years with other bachelor degrees. i know that if i had started nursing school when i was 18, i would have been doing what your son is doing. you have to want to be a nurse. my trials and tribulations lead me to nursing after all these years and i know this is for me. as an 18 year old i could have gotten the grades, but probably would have not wanted to spend time to really understand what nursing is all about.
he's got to find his path or if pushed a certain way he may go thru with school and end up never practicing....it would all be a waste.
Hey 2008BSNGRAD,
Wasn't sure that if you caught it or not, but the OP was from 2005.
he flunked out of nursing school. Started working at a local small airport in 2005, got hired at lockheed martin in marietta, ga 9/09, and will start engineering school in january with lockheed paying for it. he is happy and i'm happy for him. I just love nursing and as he didn't know at age 20 what profession to pursue--i thought it would be for him.....(about a yr after flunking out of nursing school, he confided in me that during his last clinical, he had to put a foley in a patient about his fathers' age, and it totally freaked him out.....if he would have told me i would have been more supportive).. hindsite is 20/20.
Well for starters... World of Warcraft is addictive in a very litteral way... if he is into that game, he will not be making it through nursing school... I love online RPG games like those but would not go near them with a ten foot pole because i know how addictive they are.
He doesn't seem to be intrested in nursing and thats okay. You may be projecting it on him because you want to see your son do well but you need to let him decide on his own what he wants to do. Just my honest opinoin
he flunked out of nursing school. Started working at a local small airport in 2005, got hired at lockheed martin in marietta, ga 9/09, and will start engineering school in january with lockheed paying for it. he is happy and i'm happy for him. I just love nursing and as he didn't know at age 20 what profession to pursue--i thought it would be for him.....(about a yr after flunking out of nursing school, he confided in me that during his last clinical, he had to put a foley in a patient about his fathers' age, and it totally freaked him out.....if he would have told me i would have been more supportive).. hindsite is 20/20.
linda
Thanks for the update. Nice to see his (and your) evolution over a four-year period. You both survived!
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JeanBuck
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Nursing School is very challenging yet it is doable. Take your time and study, study, study and when you get some rest guess what study some more. Because there is light at the end of the nursing tunnell. And with the help from the Lord above all things are possible.