Was I being hit on... or was it a genuine compliment?

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I really love my hospital, patients and family members are so impressed when they are admitted or come to visit so it takes a little of the edge off of their whole "hospitalization experience" which in turn helps me out a little. Well lately, I really have been dreading my patients and their family members and how they think they are the only ones in the whole hospital! I'm so sick of it. I'm doing my best to bend over backwards and update my patients and try to give them a sense of ease by discussing what will be happening with them for the most part throughout my shift like --you'll get your am meds around 930 or I'll be removing your foley around noon or you have to go for an xray although I'm not sure what time right now, I'll try to find out something and let you know blah blah blah. Its never enough and I'm so sick of it. So I've been thinking it may be time for me to switch gears but I don't know how or where or even if I should.

So one day I come in and I'm told I'm being pulled to another unit. I'm 6mos an RN yesterday (yay) and have not ever been pulled before because we are ALWAYS short. So I see one of the Hospitalists and I was caring for one of his patients and he complimented me saying "I really like the way you handle your patients, I mean you're really good with them... seriously, I'm impressed." So I'm all like o.k thanks, I'll take it when I can get it because thanks is not always easy to come by so thank you. He then goes on and on like you're really incredible the way you talk to them and are patient with them, like he hasn't been a physician for 15 years and has never seen a decent nurse care for a patient. So then he goes on to ask if I liked working on my floor and would I consider another med surge arena and that I should consider working on the 1st floor which is our Oncology unit. He says that he was just appointed the medical director and that all I would have to do is say the words and he'd speak to the nursing manager down there and get me in.

Now, I do want to change things up a bit. I really liked the compliment. But I am married, and I don't want to walk into a trap like-- now since I got you in, we should do lunch and what not. He's very nice and all but am I wrong to feel like this? I may be making too much of it. I mean, I'm a big girl I can say no. I just don't want to be put in an awkward position.

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I am not trying to be snide, but just how hot are you? He thinks you're a good nurse and wants you for a specialty unit that requires a high level of TLC.

Compliment.

:)

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I think he was just complimenting your bedside manner, nothing more. Unless he was giving you some body language that wasn't described in your post? If you want to switch units to the one he suggested, go for it. I don't see you getting a lunch date out of it.

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Specializes in OB/GYN, Peds, School Nurse, DD.

Hmmm, I dunno. Just reading your post kinda creeped me out. Maybe because I'm a lot older than you(I assume, anyway) but the conversation and intensity seem a bit over the top. Tread carefully.

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I dont know...what does your initution tell you,I have been hit on by a heart surgeon before and you just know when you being hit on plus the guy send you body language-smiles to you,turn his head toward you just to see your face,sits close to you,often is shy with showing his feelings but cant help it and his instincts take over,finds lousy excuses to be close to you..,then pretends he doesnt see you when he first walks just to later when he is about to leave stands still and gives you a long 3 minute glare,men are strange but like I said easy to read you know best if he did hit on you or not-one picture says more than a thousand words.

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My Scorpio intuition tells me that it was 50/50. The compliment was a vehicle to open up the door for a longer conversation which he did get. Like 20-25 min that I don't have time for. You know how easy it is to get behind as it is but I didn't want to be rude and I was sort of flattered. Then here comes the unofficial job offer. Well part of me felt like maybe this is my opportunity to switch gears and the other part of me felt like whats the real underlying motives. Its not that I think I'm that hot, I don't. It's just i know how men act when they are attracted to you. I felt that the comp was just a bit over the top for the acts that warranted it. But hey, thats just me. For now I'll assume innocence. Thanks for the replies.

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Specializes in School Nursing.

Trust your gut. If the guy creeps you out, stay away. You always hear about women who were assaulted who had that gut feeling about a person but did not want to turn and go the other way, or not get in the elevator, or whatever because they did not want to hurt someone's feelings. Not saying that this guy is a perv or anything, but just making the point that women often do not trust their gut instincts about people. If he made you uncomfortable, trust that feeling.

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I'd take it as a compliment. Although a bit excessive.

Keep up the good work!

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Were there other words he used that seemed out of place or otherwise just didn't fit into the conversation? I got hit on by a co-worker twice my age for an entire shift and didn't realize it until he asked me out. Incredibly awkward.

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Nah, I think OP, you are hot enough so to speak (it's OK to be a hottie) and that he might have been strutting around a bit for you. Hmmmm... what to do, what to do.... if you feel you want it, go ahead and get it (the job that is, sorry had to do it :lol2:). If he should get out of line, you can always gasp, and say something like, "OMG :eek: didn't you know that I'm married?!?!" and then laugh, laugh, laugh, like he is such a silly, silly, man. Then say you're sorry, no can do.

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Specializes in Acute Care Cardiac, Education, Prof Practice.

I floated to our sister ortho floor one night and on my way out I was stopped by one of the docs and his female PA. They went on and on about how much one of my patients appreciated me, walked me off the floor as I left to go home and asked me where I worked normally because they said they didn't recognize me.

There are actually people out there who appreciate others! I would take it as a compliment and think nothing more of it.

Tait

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Specializes in Trauma ICU, Peds ICU.

Compliment, nothing he said to indicate otherwise.

Men are simple. We generally mean what we say, and little else.

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