Very inappropriate!

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I work as an RN in a very small company. My administrator, recently left and went to another job. However, she still works part time at my company as my boss. I recently applied to a larger company, my boss now works at this company. I know the hospital she works at, but I chose to apply to another hospital. So the recruiter calls me to set up an interview, about 30 minutes later, I get a text from my boss asking if I applied at this hospital. I responded yes I did, then she text me back asking if it was full time. I told her I wanted part time, because I wanted a second job. She then text me back an hour later to ask if I was aware that she also worked at this hospital when her hospitals census was low. I did not know this, or I would of applied somewhere else. I then responded that I was trying to leave, just needed a second job. Should I keep this interview or just apply somewhere else? At the new job, she's only a regular RN not management. I can't call HR, because we don't have one, and I don't think the owner of the company will do anything. I just need some advice on how to handle the situation.

I'm sorry to be confusing, the company she works for sends nurses to various dialysis units in different hospitals. I knew the hospital she primarily is assigned to, so I would not have applied to work there. I was not aware that she travels to the other hospital I applied to. You generally only work where ur primary assignment is at

I think that the company that you are interviewing with called your boss for a reference because, although you didn't list her, they obviously know that she is your supervisor. I live in a small town where everyone knows everyone else, so I am very familiar with this happening.

It appears that you and your supervisor don't get along. I don't know if you want to put yourself in the situation to work two jobs with a person that you so clearly don't get along with. The fact that they have talked to her, and still want to interview you tells me that she didn't slam you as bad as you think she did, I would go to the interview and feel out the situation, maybe you would work opposite shifts, just find out the details so that you can make a sound decision.

Maybe she is just worried she will have to train another nurse? Has she been mean to you or anything since this occurred? I mean, she might just be worried. I know that in my jobs when my bosses would get calls about me and another job they would sometimes get anxious because they didn't want me to leave. I was sometimes seeking part time as well. Just assure her you are looking to pick up some additional hours somewhere, let her know why, and make sure you tell her you enjoy working on her unit with her. Just try to smooth over any ruffled feathers?

Specializes in Home Care.

Your supervisor should be told before you start applying for additional jobs. That's only fair and erases any misunderstandings.

I'm sorry, I must be missing something. Why would you care about any of this? You want work, you want to work in both places, she wants to work in both places,you don't have a problem with her... I can't see why there's any drama or what-do-I-do about this. Nothing to see here, move along and go about your business.

Specializes in Med/surg, Quality & Risk.
It's too confusing for me to figure out who works where/applied to.... but what I really can't wrap my head around is why in the world do you and your boss text. At all. Ever. My work doesn't have my cell phone and if I didn't have a land line available for them to reach me (screening my calls/using my answering machine...) I'd have a 2nd cell (cheapo pay as you go kind of thing) just.for.work. Sorry I don't have any advice on how to handle the situation (and like I said, the situation is confusing for me). Advice you're not soliciting? Don't text with ppl from work.

My boss texts me almost every time she needs to speak to me. INFURIATING.

I don't see what the issue is either?

I'm assuming that the boss is asking, "do you know that I work there sometimes" because the BOSS thinks that maybe it's inappropriate for them to work along side each other because of her role as a supervisor at the other hospital.

To that I say....who cares. If she has a problem with that then that's her problem.

What is going on at job A has nothing to do with what happens at job B. Just because she's your "boss" at job A doesn't mean she can't be your co-worker at job B.

It is an issue if the OP did not put this supervisor down as a reference. If the part time job has nothing to do with the full time job, then it really is none of the supervisor's concern. But perhaps it is a good thing that the OP is aware that her supervisor could be her coworker on the part time job. Then there are no surprises. I do find it interesting that the recruiter was quick to let the supervisor know that the OP applied, yet did not tell the OP "did you know that RN Such and So also works there as a staff RN?"

In any event, this all lies in the recruiter and the need of same to fill certain people in on the actions of others. Which is not a great quality--especially in a recruiter.

If, OP, you are not willing to speak to the recruiter about this, nor the recruiter's boss, then I would be sure to make future note that the recruiter is going to spill your business to your supervisor. And, because the supervisor has already heard it from the recruiter, I would simply say to your supervisor that you have a need for another part time job, that at this point in time you have no intention of leaving your current full time position, and surely she can understand the need in this economy for additional work. And I would even go so far as to say that you were uncomfortable with the exchange in general, as you feel that you have no need to know what Supervisor does outside of when you work with her.

Specializes in CDI Supervisor; Formerly NICU.

To make matters worse, the boss youre trying to avoid has probably read this forum post, figured out that its her that youre talking about, and will now hold a grudge and fire you.

I really don't understand people believing this forum is truly anonymous. You gave way more information than would be needed for an involved person to figure out who youre talking about.

Specializes in transport,forensics,ED.

I'm sensing a lot of conspiracy therorists here. I work in a tight knit unit where we all have each other's cell numbers and text frequently. Both with other staff members and leadership. For our unit it is the quickest and most effective form of communication.

Further we now live in the age of technology, and over all the medical field is smaller than you may realize. Interviews in our division include a peer interview, all staff are invited and anyone on shift and available is expected to attend. We all read the resume' of the candidate, and if we have contacts from any of their previous employers we contact them. We also surf facebook for the applicants profile. When you are considering an individual who may become a coworker in a close knit unit you pull in any information you can to expand on that hour of "best face forward." Again, this is what the staff members do, not sure about leadership, but they accept all of our feedback-regardless of source.

Specializes in Hospital Education Coordinator.

I don't see an issue. You each will have different roles when at specific facilities. Just work within that role.

I DO believe the recruiter was inappropriate to share your information with her and I think your boss was inappropriate to even ask you your intent. Once you are off the premises she is not your boss, so what you do elsewhere does not concern her.

My boss texts me almost every time she needs to speak to me. INFURIATING.

Why does she even have your number? Do you text back? I'm sure it IS "infuriating"... and you brought it upon yourself when you allowed her to have that number. Want it to stop? Change your number/get a different cell/tell her to knock it off/don't respond... You have options to stop this if you want.

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