Unsupportive spouse?

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Anyone starting or in Nursing School and their spouse isn't supportive? My husband is trying to ruin me going to school from ever angle. Anyone else dealt with or dealing with this? He makes it nearly impossible for me to go to class without an argument and we have 3 children so he always uses them as an excuse.

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I don't doubt that you do. Women, rightfully, won't accept misogyny in the workplace or on AN and men should not accept misandry as condition of being in the field or on AN either. [h=1][/h]

I worked in corrections, so ... really?

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I agree sometimes these thread can turn into women against men and vice versa. Male and Female nurses should both feel welcome here.

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OrganizedChaos, why do you believe your personal experience is relevant to the OP when it comes to her personal relationship with her husband? It's not, and you are stereotyping men unfairly due to your personal experiences. My statement was regarding my status as a minority in nursing and it is relevant due to this being the largest site for people in the field.

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Honestly her post has many contradictions. One minute she can't take it anymore due to the abuse..next she is going to wait it out. Either you are abused and need to get away asap or you are not and are just making this thing up. What if you wait too long and can't get away?...that is if you are really being abused. It has been long enough and you should know by now. There are shelters everywhere.

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OrganizedChaos, why do you believe your personal experience is relevant to the OP when it comes to her personal relationship with her husband? It's not, and you are stereotyping men unfairly due to your personal experiences. My statement was regarding my status as a minority in nursing and it is relevant due to this being the largest site for people in the field.

Just because your a guy working in nursing has nothing to do with this post. I worked in corrections, where men greatly outnumber women.

Every woman who has been abused in any way is relevant to the OP. I have not had a different conversation with you versus anyone else who shared a different view. But the difference is the guys who posted were rude about it.

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I don't doubt that you do. Women, rightfully, won't accept misogyny in the workplace or on AN and men should not accept misandry as condition of being in the field or on AN either. [h=1][/h]

Misandry? LOL okay.

Nothing I said qualifies as misandry.

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Why did you say," you men?", even that come across like them versus us. Not all men are the same.---Directed to Organized Chaos---

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Why did you say you men?, even that come across like them versus us. Not all men are the same.

Well men aren't exactly emotional creatures.

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Wow...Okay..Nevermind..Goodnight!

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Specializes in M/S, LTC, Corrections, PDN & drug rehab.
Wow...Okay..Nevermind..Goodnight!

Lol. I love my husband but I've only seen him cry once. Men aren't as emotional as women. It's not an us versus them but men just can't come down to a woman's level emotionally.

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Honestly her post has many contradictions. One minute she can't take it anymore due to the abuse..next she is going to wait it out. Either you are abused and need to get away asap or you are not and are just making this thing up. What if you wait too long and can't get away?...that is if you are really being abused. It has been long enough and you should know by now. There are shelters everywhere.

They aren't contradictions. If you have ever been abused, you would know, it's like a hurricane. A PP described it perfectly.

Your significant other is treating you like garbage then he stops. You enter the eye of the hurricane, everything is calm. He starts treating you like *gold*. You think, oh this is great!! He changed! He won't do it any more. It ends for awhile. Then BAM! He starts up again. You come out of the eye & back into the storm.

It's a vicious cycle that's hard to come out of. Those guys can get a hard grasp on you. I was in a bad relationship for almost 3 years, almost married him & had his baby. They just don't let you go. Yeah, it's easy to say "just go". But it's not that easy when you're the one stuck in the relationship, in their grasp.

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Well men aren't exactly emotional creatures.

I've found this to be extremely untrue. They definitely are just as emotional, they just have less societal permission to express it, and that leads to its own whole set of problems.

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