OK, so first off, I am going into my second semester of my adn program and I am 19 years old. I was at a party last night with my friend and there were about 70-80 people there.
A girl made me a drink and I decided to drink it. It was kind of strong but I drank it anyway.
There was a lot of marijuana so we decided to leave but our truck was boxed in by other vehicles. I told my friend to drive my truck and he agreed, but out of habit I got in the drivers seat. So we are waiting for some of the cars to leave so we can get out and then the cops show up.
One cop came up and said they were going to breathalyze everyone driving and just to sit tight. Then another cop came and asked me what I had to drink and I told him a cup of grape juice with a small amount of vodka a few hours ago.
He then told me he was going to breathalyze me and asked what my name was, how old I was, and who my parents were. I didn't see him write anything down, but it was dark so I don't really know what he did.
I blew a 0.02 and he told me I could go. He didn't breathalyze my friend. I AM INCREDIBLY PARANOID THAT I AM GOING TO GET AN UNDERAGE DRINKING TICKET IN THE MAIL.
I live in Mississippi and this is my first run in with law enforcement beside getting a ticket for running a stop sign. I personally think the officers were more concerned with what was going on inside than with me. I mentioned something about the marijuana to one cop and he just walked inside.
My question to anyone who has any knowledge about legal issues is, can I get a ticket in the mail?
Keep in mind that I was in my truck with tag number visible ... and if I do how will this affect my status in school and taking my boards? I live in Mississippi. Any input is appreciated, but I really don't need a lecture about this incident. I am a good kid, I never go anywhere or do anything besides study.
I just can't get over the whole "she gave me a drink/ it tasted strong/ I drank it anyway" part of the original posting. That doesn't inspire future nurse confidence. What a judgement call -- especially the whole possibility of a date rape drug, etc. You got mighty damn lucky.
THIS 100%. The OP made several extremely poor choices, but this alarmed me.
OP's statement that, "I am a good kid, I never go anywhere or do anything besides study." Is very contradictory to her behavior.
I hope she realizes how truly lucky she got in this situation.
I just can't get over the whole "she gave me a drink/ it tasted strong/ I drank it anyway" part of the original posting. That doesn't inspire future nurse confidence. What a judgement call -- especially the whole possibility of a date rape drug, etc. You got mighty damn lucky.
If people couldn't become nurses because they did something dumb at 19 then we would have a real nursing shortage.
iShaybie, I'm 19 years old soon to be 20. I have had one glass of wine in my life, in the company of adults, in my home, around which the circumstances were that there wasn't any chance I was getting into a vehicle that night. I knew what was in my drink and how much.
I feel like as a nursing student I need to raise the bar on my ethical and moral standards. I'm not the only one who feels that way and it's not just old people either. Apparently the BoN for each state feels the same and can easily wipe out a nursing career before it's even begun based on judgement and conduct outside of the workplace included.
But by all means carry on thinking irresponsible and dangerous decisions are ok. More job opportunities for the rest of us then.
Btw I think most people who reply about this aren't really even replying over the issue but how people are responding. At least that's how it is for me. I've made bad decisions and judgement calls and acted stupid but I'm not going to go say it was ok and I can repeat it and so can everyone else, then accuse everyone of being old.
Specializes in progressive care. med surg. tele. LTC. psych..
I've already agreed to disagree.
I'm not telling any of you to drink if you don't want to; that's how you're all acting lol. Live your life how you see fit.
I gave MY advice to the OP and she can take it or leave it. Id hate for a girl to feel worse than she needs to because of some of the responses she got.
She asked if she would probably get a ticket in the mail, i doubt it.
She already knows what the laws are. She's asking about a TICKET.
And I never called anyone old.. I have no idea why offense was taken lol.
Specializes in Allergy/ENT, Occ Health, LTC/Skilled.
No, OP needs to wait until she is of legal age before indulging in an alcoholic beverage. When old enough to legally drink, then she should follow that advice.
OP, does not speak the truth. You were at a party, you were drinking underage. Yes, doing that and getting caught can affect your life for years to come. Count your blessings if you do get away with it this time, and don't do it again.
I realize OP is under age. And by no means would I encourage her to drink but obviously she will most likely do it again and I would rather pass off advice to prevent her from drinking and driving in the future. Laying down a blanket statement of "Do not drink till your 21" really does nothing for those in the 18-20 crowd. That doesn't mean I am personally for under age drinking but I don't want to turn my head and pretend it won't happen either.
I drank underage and once we were 18, my mom allowed us to have small portions of wine/beer in her presence. We were told that at any time we were caught putting ourselves or others in a dangerous situation (drinking and driving, binge drinking, etc) that we would be in for a world of hurt. She didn't make it this bad, banned thing to do and I have never, and still to this day, drive after even one glass of wine w/ dinner. I actually rarely drank to "party" when I was underage and I think a lot of it was due to my mom guiding us to not be idiots with it.
Everyone is going to have differing opinions on parenting philosophies but the one thing we all can agree on is that it's never worth a fun time if your going to get in a car and kill someone else because of your own stupidity. I loathe drinking and driving and have called the cops on my own friend for getting behind the wheel so trashed she couldn't walk after attempting to do everything in my power to stop her.
But also OP, others did point out how getting caught drinking under age could potentially derail your nursing career. It would be wise to think of those implications before you drink something you have no idea what's in it. Date rape happens more than you think as well and just because a girl is handing you a drink, doesn't mean it's safe.
Id hate for a girl to feel worse than she needs to because of some of the responses she got.
I agreed with this. I disagree that warning her about date rape and losing her eligibility to take the nclex is to make her feel worse for the sake of feeling worse.. I guess it's all how someone wants to interpret it and some people will just always be defensive. Like your "girl bye" and "lol" and "woo-hoo"...it just comes off as rude to some others. Anyway, that's all, no point continuing this.
Specializes in progressive care. med surg. tele. LTC. psych..
We all "get it." That's why your comment that you don't understand why anyone would take offense seems disingenuous.
Do you feel old? If not, then why are you mad?
It wasn't meant to be an insult by any means. Because I'm prettyyy sure I didn't mention anyone in particular. However, if the shoe fits...
I'm just letting the OP know that this forum has many women and men who won't be very understanding so she shouldn't put too much information in her posts. People are so quick to jump down a complete strangers throat when they're anonymous.
It wasn't meant to be an insult by any means. Because I'm prettyyy sure I didn't mention anyone in particular. However, if the shoe fits...
I'm just letting the OP know that this forum has many women and men who won't be very understanding so she shouldn't put too much information in her posts. People are so quick to jump down a complete strangers throat when they're anonymous.
Elkpark didn't say she(he?) was mad, she said you are being disingenuous.
Your blood alcohol level was beneath the limit, so don't stress yourself out! :)
You'll be fine. If you were in any trouble, that cop would have told you, in some way.
You're 19. You can have a drink if you want, we all have. Just be careful. DUI's are a world of headache.
And I wouldn't post about it forums like these. Many of the members are much older and will give you "parent" advice lol.
I would love a definition of "parent advice." I'm 23 and would also tell her to knock it off, as I have told 18 year olds in my cohort. Not because I didn't drink when I was that age (because if we're being honest, I did), but because one stupid mistake (like the one she made) could have cost her more than her driver's license and a fine--it literally could have cost her a future nursing license. I believe the OP when she says that she's usually a good kid; the problem is that it only takes one slip up, no matter how good you usually are, for life-altering consequences to ensue.
So all of the "parent advice" I've read is advice that will prevent her from struggling to obtain a nursing license, advice that will help her keep her driver's license, and advice that will prevent her from being drugged.
Karou
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THIS 100%. The OP made several extremely poor choices, but this alarmed me.
OP's statement that, "I am a good kid, I never go anywhere or do anything besides study." Is very contradictory to her behavior.
I hope she realizes how truly lucky she got in this situation.