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Is it like this everywhere? People appear like your best friend to your face, then talk about you like a dog to others. Ive heard its like this everywhere. I hope not.

This is very interesting. I have heard that communication styles generally differ as you move from one major geographic region to the next.

I know of a nurse from the Southeast who moved to a Northeastern state a few years ago. She complains that many of the Northern store clerks she has encountered are more terse, abrupt, and less likely to engage in small talk than the ones in the Southern states.

the south has been my favorite place tp work so far..... the co-workers tend to be more friendly and kind in NC......

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"It is almost as though Nurses LOVE to see a co-worker fail....and the constant criticism, continual sarcastic "questions", non-stop correcting of silly things. It is so weird.

That's how it is where I am.... if I do not know the answers to all their questions... I don't "know anything" and all these witches have to find SOMETHING that I did wrong and let me know about it every single day.....

SIghhhhh - 4 more weeks!!

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Specializes in Med/Surg, Home Health.

Well, I am very disappointed. I guess Ive been naive for too long. My evaluation at work was outstanding, stating how I am always willing to help others. And I truely am, well I was. I now dont want to associate with any of them, just do MY job and go home. The people who did this...one is a very good nurse who is well-liked and is sometimes Coordinator and CN, the other two were a lazy nurse and a VERY lazy assistant. I had just asked all of them if they needed any help (I was caught up and had nothing to do). I helped the lazy assistant clean up a patient who wasnt even mine, I called a doc for the well-liked nurse and got an order for her and administered meds, etc. And after my offering to help and doing all these things for them, they talked about me..and talked BAD about me. Then later, when I had a look on my face (I felt like crying), one of them asked me what was wrong!

I just dont see the reasoning for such behavior. The things they said were at the nurses station and several heard them. To me, it was childish. I am very hurt and am thinking of quitting this position because this is a constant thing there with everyone. And I dont know how to handle such people. I was more disappointed with the well-liked nurse because I really liked her, as do most. Now I feel that I cant trust anyone.

Im so hurt and now feel like they have taken the teamwork out of the team. I dont want to help them anymore and that makes me feel bad about myself.

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Yes, unfortunately I learned that the hard way. The whole world is like that. I may be naive, but is it so wrong to have faith in people? I try to keep an open mind though and not judge people for their actions. They are only human. Flawed. I am already a private person but I have learned to be even more guarded and not get into the whole gossip circle.

This experience will only make you stronger. Grow a backbone and thicker skin. But be true to yourself as well. If you are a nice person, which I feel you are, them continue being nice but more cautious and smart about it. "Love all, trust few, do wrong to no one". Do not let them take advantage of your kindness or let them walk all over you. Try and be the bigger person. Maybe have a talk with that co-worker in private. I haven't had it happen to me personally but I have heard it done to other people, and I just think if you have a problem with someone say it to their face.

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Specializes in ER,ICU,L+D,OR.

Everyone has multiple faces that they wear.

You have the face that you let the "Public" see.

You Have the face that you let your friends see

You have the face that you let your very close friends see

You have the face you let your family members see

You have the face you let your spouse see

You have the face that as a parent you let your children see

Then deepest down, you have the face that you only let yourself see.

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Specializes in Medsurg/ICU, Mental Health, Home Health.
but i also agree with the above that communication styles can vary in different regions of the usa. and mis-understandings can result.

amen to that! i am born and raised in the mid-atlantic, and pennsylvania dutch to the core. that means my yesses are yesses and my nos are nos. if you ask me a question, i'm going to give you the truth! i'm also not going to ask a question unless i think i can get a simple answer.

i was engaged to a southeast tennessee boy and his family interpreted my silence or one-word answers as rudeness ("i can't believe jess didn't make an effort to talk to your brothers just because she almost passed out due to a hypoglycemic attack rather than tell everyone all about her hypoglycemia!"). however, i thought it was rude when his mom said behind my back that the dress i wore to church wasn't appropriate, whereas to me she said something passive aggressive. my mom would have said to me, "that dress is inappropriate" and it would not have hurt my feelings. our cultural issues were beyond repair, and that's what ultimately ended our relationship. i could go on and on about it, and i don't mean it's a yanks vs. rebels thing, nor do i think people from the south are bad or anything (i adopted saying "sir" and "ma'am" from his family because i think it's nicer than my culture's "mr." and "ms," for example.)

imma shut up now!

*jess*

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Is it like this everywhere? People appear like your best friend to your face, then talk about you like a dog to others. Ive heard its like this everywhere. I hope not.

Oh my gosh, Oh my gosh, Oh my gosh! I read the title of this thread and thought to myself, "I bet she is from KY." :chuckle

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This is very interesting. I have heard that communication styles generally differ as you move from one major geographic region to the next.

I know of a nurse from the Southeast who moved to a Northeastern state a few years ago. She complains that many of the Northern store clerks she has encountered are more terse, abrupt, and less likely to engage in small talk than the ones in the Southern states.

Probably true - we're too cold to chat.....:wink2:

mc3

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