having trouble with deciding on what I should do

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Things that I do know: I have to get out of my current job. I know I want to become a NP.

Things that I'm on conflict with:

Should I stay in the same boring town and take a job as a RN in a convent? I am guaranteed this job since the DON is a family friend. It pays mediocre and it won't be a stressful job. I will also be close to my family. I will be able to go to NP school even though the nearest program is almost 2 hours away. If need be, I can move in with my folks and not pay rent while in NP school. Doing so will allow me to cut back on the amount of hours that I work. The downside? I have been a RN for 5 years and I feel a lil weird by working at a convent where I will get to sit and eat popcorn. I am worried about losing my skills. I could work PRN at this dreadful hospital that I am currently working at to keep up with the skills, but I honestly hate it here, and besides, I probably won't have much time once I beging NP school. Another downside? I am 31 and single. The men around here are few and far beween. It is a small town.

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should I move back to a major city where I once lived if I get my old job back (at a well-known magnet hospital.) I loved this job and I loved the city. The downfall? Cost of living is crazy expensive. I will definetely need to work full time when I enroll in a NP program. Because of this, I will only enroll part time. There are plenty of NP schools in this area (unlike my hometown), but commuting is a PITA. It is almost 4 hours away from my family (we are very close and my folks aren't getting younger) The perks? The dating pool is great. I have a much better chance of meeting a guy, getting married, and going to NP school full time when that happens! lol. There is a lot to do in this city and a lot of people my age are still single. I"m sure that I will enjoy my job very much.

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I would choose option number 2,sounds like so much fun especially for a single,young person like yourself...Enjoying your job and having the options to make friends and date are very important aspects to consider when making important life decisions!

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Specializes in TELEMETRY.

If this is temporary.... Then I would go to the low stress job, move in with parents, and focus on finishing NP school. If being an NP is your ultimate goal then you want to the the safest and fastest road. I know how hard it is working full time and paying bills. IT IS stressful and pile school on top would porbably make your grades not so great. you won't really lose your skills if your afraid of that you can always work registry as needed when you have open time... hope this helps!

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Specializes in Pediatrics.

What is it that you want most, to be a NP quickly or to have fun at your job and find a man.

reading your post it sounded like to me that option #2 is more appealing. You could do the NP program part time and have some fun.:yeah:

Mabey I am saying that because I would love to go on a date :imbar and havent been senice I started nursing school

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What is it that you want most, to be a NP quickly or to have fun at your job and find a man.

reading your post it sounded like to me that option #2 is more appealing. You could do the NP program part time and have some fun.:yeah:

Mabey I am saying that because I would love to go on a date :imbar and havent been senice I started nursing school

Haha,funny...I actually havent had time to date and and wasnt looking for anyone at that time (so insanely busy) but romance found me at the dawn by the hospital entrance during my clinical days LOL:)

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If social life is what you're after, option 2 sounds better. Except for the part where after you get married to the man you haven't met yet, you expect him to support you while you're in school. Where did that come from? I'm hoping it was tongue in cheek.

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I would say low stress job for now while in NP school and when you're finished see about going back to the city ... In all honestly, what NP student has tons of time for dating and socializing anyway?? I think you'd be more successful by hanging in there just a little while longer and staying where you're at & moving back home ...

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Number 2 sounds like your best long term option. What are you afraid of?

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Why than you very much ladies. I know that I have some soul searching to do.

I think I am afraid of this:

I will be almost 33 when I enter the NP program. If I stay in this town, I will probably finish when I am 35-36. Yes, I could move back to the city when I am done with NP school at age 35-36, but I"m sure I'll be a lil lonely. I'm sure mnost of my friends in this major city will be married by then. All of them are in serious relationships now. Theyare begging me to come up so they can hook me up with their SO's friends.

I am OK with staying here until age 36, but that is getting old!! I've heard it'ss hard for women 35+ to date?? I don't mean to put so much emphasis on dating, but settling down is important to me. I also understand that if I move to the major city now, that I will not finish NP school in 2 years. I won't be able to start until this time next year....and it will only be very part time. I think I will be done when I am 38ish if I move to the city to finish. I'd like to get out of bedside nursing, so this doesn't appeal to me either.

I also understand that I won't have much time for dating while in NP school, but it's something that I will make time for. Actually, I plan on making time for myself no matter where I live. I just think it will be more fun and easy to make friends in the major city. But maybe this is just a delusion.

Where has time gone? Seems like yesterday I was a young girl in my early 20's.

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I would go with option #1 -- take the easy job, buckle down and knock off the NP program as quickly as possible, and then make an entirely fresh start and go wherever you want to as an NP. I've known many people who have tried to work full-time and go to school part-time, and many of them have "fallen by the wayside" because it's v. hard to stay motivated and focused with that v. heavy load. Plus, you may find that school seems less important and urgent once you're back in the big city having all that fun.

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I would think it would be hard to to go to NP school and look for a partner. If you really want to have children, I would move to the city and postpone NP school for several years. I wouldn't wait till after NP school to get married and have children, as you will be hitting 40.

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Why than you very much ladies. I know that I have some soul searching to do.

I think I am afraid of this:

I will be almost 33 when I enter the NP program. If I stay in this town, I will probably finish when I am 35-36. Yes, I could move back to the city when I am done with NP school at age 35-36, but I"m sure I'll be a lil lonely. I'm sure mnost of my friends in this major city will be married by then. All of them are in serious relationships now. Theyare begging me to come up so they can hook me up with their SO's friends.

I am OK with staying here until age 36, but that is getting old!! I've heard it'ss hard for women 35+ to date?? I don't mean to put so much emphasis on dating, but settling down is important to me. I also understand that if I move to the major city now, that I will not finish NP school in 2 years. I won't be able to start until this time next year....and it will only be very part time. I think I will be done when I am 38ish if I move to the city to finish. I'd like to get out of bedside nursing, so this doesn't appeal to me either.

I also understand that I won't have much time for dating while in NP school, but it's something that I will make time for. Actually, I plan on making time for myself no matter where I live. I just think it will be more fun and easy to make friends in the major city. But maybe this is just a delusion.

Where has time gone? Seems like yesterday I was a young girl in my early 20's.

Dont rush into getting married. People who set deadlines for their marriage plans are the one who dont have good marriages.

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