Hi guys, yeah I turned it down by talking to HR and the manager by phone. They both appreciated that I quit before starting since they invested nothing in me yet.
I simply told them I was super excited when the job was offered, but now that the dust has settled, I realized I am not a good fit for the job. I didn’t really elaborate. But I’ll elaborate here...
The MAIN reason is my narcissist stepmom and father. They are rumor starters and gossip lovers. My sister and I are no contact with them. Despite their age (70) they hang out with ppl my age, some of their friends were ppl that I went to high school with. They are very parental-like and “cool” to them, but to my sister and I and their grandkids, they are vile, controlling and just mean .
As I was leaving my interview, in the lobby, I saw some of their young friends in a group talking with eachother. This is a small community and basically everyone works at one of the 2 hospitals. I said hello to them as I walked past them, and I was greeted with a hi, followed by them snickering loudly and completely turning their backs to me. Grown ups.
I felt sick afterwards. I won’t have peace there. I’d always wonder who is gossiping untrue things about me, who is reporting to my N-stepmom, wondering what stepmom is saying, etc?
I tried conquering my fears by not allowing the High school crap ruin what could be OK, but at the end of the day, I couldn’t get over it. I’m sure some of them will be on my floor or I’ll float to their floor. I can’t deal with them. Life is hard enough being estranged from my parents, I don't need their crap interfering with my job. How sad huh?