Torn

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Specializes in Periop, ER.

After being in a job that I hate for two years, and searching for a new job for almost two years, I was recently offered a 7a-7p job in L & D. I accepted. Since I am a manager, I had to turn in a 30 day notice at my current job. Of course my current employer was not happy with my decision to leave. I have two bosses, a business manager and a nursing manager. My nursing manager was understanding as I stated that I wanted to have a better life balance than my current 50 hr work week. My business manager met with me yesterday and we discussed my decision. I explained to him that I don't like babysitting people and that I am bored in my role. He asked me if I were to have more projects, would I be happier and stay? I agreed. I lost a lot sleep last night because I reflected back on the conversation and felt pressured to stay, although I was looking forward to my new job. I have been very anxious about the decision over the last two weeks because I am taking a cut in pay. If it wasnt for the cut in pay I would jump on the new job. So when he approached me yesterday to discuss, I hesitated and verbally agreed. Now I regret that conversation with him. I have not rescinded my resignation yet, and really don't want to. Any thoughts on how to address with my boss?

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At the of the day you must do what is needed to make you happy.

Are you happy in your current job? if the answer is no, then leave.

You dont owe your bosses anything. You are but a human resource to them.

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Specializes in School Nursing.

Follow your gut. If you pass the new job and things don't change you will be kicking yourself in a few months. I would approach the manager and politely say "I appreciate your offer for additional responsibilities, but after much consideration I think the best thing for me is to explore other career opportunities."

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Purple Scrubs said it perfectly. I'd go with that. Good luck!

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Specializes in PCU.
Follow your gut. If you pass the new job and things don't change you will be kicking yourself in a few months. I would approach the manager and politely say "I appreciate your offer for additional responsibilities, but after much consideration I think the best thing for me is to explore other career opportunities."

Absolutely.

Leave on good terms, by all means, but you said yourself you have hated your job for two years now. Not good for your mental or physical well-being. It is time to try your wings elsewhere and hope you find what you need.

Best of luck!

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Your life- your decision.

An hour after anyone leaves a position, management doesn't remember their name.

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Your life- your decision.

An hour after anyone leaves a position, management doesn't remember their name.

This is true.

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Specializes in Emergency Nursing.

Nothing wrong with a little Natalie Imbruglia's "Torn" is there?

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So I was offered a job with a competing agency, and I handed in my resigination. They came back with more perks, a bonus, etc. So I stayed in my old job.

NINE weeks later I was fired!!! And of course the other position was gone. My life has never been the same.

TAKE THE NEW JOB.

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Specializes in Periop, ER.

merlee

you were fired? 9 weeks later? are you kidding? what the heck happened?

btw _ I met with my boss today to discuss our conversation Wednesday. I told him that I wasn't comfortalbe changing my mind, and that it wouldnt be fair to the company if I was to come back and have the same conversation again in 6 months. Kind of the break up story- it's not you it's me, but I said it's not the company, it's me and where I am in my life right now... He asked could I give it 6 more months so that they could replace me? He finally left it with think about it over the weekend. Give them time to replace me.....

Hmm

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Specializes in PCU.
merlee

you were fired? 9 weeks later? are you kidding? what the heck happened?

btw _ I met with my boss today to discuss our conversation Wednesday. I told him that I wasn't comfortalbe changing my mind, and that it wouldnt be fair to the company if I was to come back and have the same conversation again in 6 months. Kind of the break up story- it's not you it's me, but I said it's not the company, it's me and where I am in my life right now... He asked could I give it 6 more months so that they could replace me? He finally left it with think about it over the weekend. Give them time to replace me.....

Hmm

Take the new job. I just don't see 6 months making you love the job any more than you do now...JMHO.

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Specializes in ICU, CM, Geriatrics, Management.
Nothing wrong with a little Natalie Imbruglia's "Torn" is there?

Scott -- Natalie's tune was the first thing that popped in my mind when I read the poster's title to the thread. :)

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