Too much testosterone at work- frisky doctors

SmilingBluEyes · Dec 17, 2003

Sexual harassment is never acceptable. Tell them in no uncertain terms their words make you uncomfortable and then tell them to STOP IT. Be very clear about this. Leave no room for doubt you will not tolerate this behavior.... THIS IS YOUR FIRST STEP..........

if it does not end, AFTER YOU TELL THEM TO STOP (this is very important) report this behavior to your manager. Trust me, if they are doing this to you, they are harassing others. It makes for hostile work environment and is totally unacceptable.

Read your tagline and live it....you deserve better and so do your coworkers. I doubt the hospital wants sexual harassment litigation to deal with (if not you, from others). This will be stopped if you use your chain of command.

I wish you well. So sorry for what you are enduring at these people's hands. It is WRONG and can be STOPPED.

RadRN2 · Dec 17, 2003

She's right. Don't put up with that crap! It's a slap in the face to you and your professionalism.

warrior woman · Dec 17, 2003

Like I said to Iliel, Life is too damn short to be ANYONE'S doormat. Stick up for yourself!!

skybirdrising · Dec 17, 2003

Originally posted by Rapheal
2 weeks ago the ortho doc asked me if I would give him a sponge bath. Yesterday a married intern asked me to go out with him. What is wrong with these people?

I have let it be well known that I am married. I will make small talk about the weather, the kids- and that's about it. I do not buy my scrubs at Victoria's Secret, I do not hang on every word that these doctors speak. I am just a normal person who comes to work to work. These guys are both in their 30's and should know better. Sheesh!

Either you are a real hottie that any man finds irresistable or you may have that unconciously flirting thing going on giving men the impression that you are interested. Let your conversation be work related only and cut out the small talk with those pervs and 90% of this should be eliminated.

LisaRN2B · Dec 17, 2003

Originally posted by skybirdrising
Either you are a real hottie that any man finds irresistable or you may have that unconciously flirting thing going on giving men the impression that you are interested. Let your conversation be work related only and cut out the small talk with those pervs and 90% of this should be eliminated.

Uhh, yeah, right...and a woman who wears a mini skirt or drinks a beer at a party is asking to be raped. Same logic going here, and I think it's way off base, IMHO.

No one should be victimized by sexual harrassment in the workplace. Period.

tmiller027 · Dec 17, 2003

Originally posted by LisaRN2B
Uhh, yeah, right...and a woman who wears a mini skirt or drinks a beer at a party is asking to be raped. Same logic going here, and I think it's way off base, IMHO.

No one should be victimized by sexual harrassment in the workplace. Period.

I agree with this one and I'm male. This kind of thing is not the woman's fault, especially if the guy is married.

However, it's not limited to nursing. I work in law enforcement right now, and my best friend is a female officer who always has married guys hitting on her. She simply tells them no and that she doesn't appreciate the comments.

Unfortunately, some didn't stop and she was forced to file a complaint, which is a whole new story by itself.

Regardless, don't let these guys bring you down.

teeituptom, BSN, RN · Dec 17, 2003

Darn it. In all these Ive never been sexually harassed, either that or Im too dumb to know it.

But you are right it shoudnt be allowed in any form either, there is no excuse for it.

tmiller027 · Dec 17, 2003

Originally posted by teeituptom
Darn it. In all these Ive never been sexually harassed, either that or Im too dumb to know it.

But you are right it shoudnt be allowed in any form either, there is no excuse for it.

Well, harassment is all in the perception of the victim. Someone could come up to you and make a joke, and as long as YOU take it as a joke, there's no problem.

Now, if you're offended by a comment or joke, and you tell them to stop, or tell a supervisor you were offended by it, that puts the offending person on notice. If they continue making these jokes or comments to you, then it becomes harassment because they KNOW it bothers you, but say them anyway. Trust me, I've got first hand experience with this lol

Rapheal · Dec 17, 2003

With the ortho doc I was really flustered and ignored him the first 2 times he asked me this. The third time (these were all in a row) all I could think of (not very brilliant) was "ummm no". I really think he was trying to impress the other doc next to him and they were both smirking. Some sort of power thing I think. It was humiliating, like being the butt of a joke.

The second doc seriously follows me around all the time. I feel sorry for him because he seems lonely and I am starting to think that he has some sort of issue like depression. For me it was easy to tell him no in a nice way. But I guess I will see if he has cooled it the next time I am at work. If not I will have to tell him that if he continues with this I will be taking it to management.

I can't help but think it is my work environment that kind of promotes this type of behavior. The nurses are not respected very much at all and our hospital considers doctors to be our customers and we are told to bend over backwards to make them happy.

PS. My husband thinks I am a real hottie. lol

tmiller027 · Dec 17, 2003

Originally posted by Rapheal
With the ortho doc I was really flustered and ignored him the first 2 times he asked me this. The third time (these were all in a row) all I could think of (not very brilliant) was "ummm no". I really think he was trying to impress the other doc next to him and they were both smirking. Some sort of power thing I think. It was humiliating, like being the butt of a joke.

The second doc seriously follows me around all the time. I feel sorry for him because he seems lonely and I am starting to think that he has some sort of issue like depression. For me it was easy to tell him no in a nice way. But I guess I will see if he has cooled it the next time I am at work. If not I will have to tell him that if he continues with this I will be taking it to management.

I can't help but think it is my work environment that kind of promotes this type of behavior. The nurses are not respected very much at all and our hospital considers doctors to be our customers and we are told to bend over backwards to make them happy.

PS. My husband thinks I am a real hottie. lol

Well, it's good to notify your managers if this keeps up. Regardless of WHY they're doing it, THEY are the ones with the problem, not you. Don't let anyone tell you different. :)

iliel · Dec 17, 2003

Originally posted by skybirdrising
Either you are a real hottie that any man finds irresistable or you may have that unconciously flirting thing going on giving men the impression that you are interested. Let your conversation be work related only and cut out the small talk with those pervs and 90% of this should be eliminated.

OMG!!! :eek:

Remember ladies, we're not allowed to look men in the eye or they'll think we want to sleep with them:rolleyes:

Amen to warrior woman