Thinking about become a (male) Nurse, parents disapprove

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Hello fellow Canadians,

I will try my best to keep this as short as possible. Basically, I am a University student in Canada, having just started the first semester of my second year. I am 19 years old, almost 20. I am also a male. Back in High School, I wanted to be a doctor, but after conversing with a few family physicians that I was close to, I was put off of the path and applied to University as an Anthropology major, which also interested me. My parents were not very happy, and before Uni had even started, got me to drop Anthro and enter in the Sciences.

I did Sciences for my entire first year and decided that I would probably become a Pharmacist, since I was good at calculus and chemistry. My parents, once again, disapproved because it was now "too late" for me to be a Pharmacist, my entire first year would go to waste, and not only that, they wanted me to switch out of sciences (since apparently you can't get a job with a science major) and here I am now, second year of Uni, doing Accountant.

It has been just over a month since the start of the semester and I already hate it. I really can't see myself going down this route any longer, Accounting is not for me, I don't want to be at a desk all day crunching numbers, doing someone else's taxes. I was enrolled in 5 classes this semester, I dropped 2 (Accounting + Computer Business Systems) since I was not doing good in them, kept the other 3 I was doing good in (Business Math, macroeconomics, microeconomics), in secret, my parents don't know.

I was surfing YouTube a few days ago and came across a couple of videos by male nurses. I watched them, heard what they had to say about the job description, and honestly, I liked it a lot. I have always wanted to do something where I'd be able to help people (hence originally wanting to be a doctor), but was put off by the high-debt and time-consumption of med school. Nursing seems like a much better option, less time in school, plus there is more interaction with patients, which I like.

I brought it up with my mom today and she flipped. She gave me the whole lecture about how I was bringing shame on my family and how wrong it was. I come from a Punjabi family, Punjabi culture is very conservative, men aren't supposed to be nurses. Women are nurses + teachers, men are doctors/lawyers/engineers/businessmen etc... That is one reason she disapproves. Another is that she thinks it is a really dirty job, all about picking up other people's poop, she told me she wouldn't let me in the house if I did that, she would be too grossed out. I know it is a part of the job and wouldn't mind doing it for a patient who needed the help, but she is not accepting. And the final reason, she told me if I try to become a nurse, I have just wasted 2 years of Uni and that it was all for nothing. I am about 5,000 dollars in debt as of right now, she says it will all have been a waste of money. And I haven't even talked about it with my dad yet, he will likely react even worse.

Anyone else from a similar conservative background where the parents disapproved of their son becoming a nurse? How did you convince them?

Also, how does one go about becoming a nurse in Canada? Are there any (course) requirements you have to fulfill before going to nursing school? And once in nursing school, can you start working after 2 years (under supervision)? 4 years to be a RN, right?

Thank you guys :)

Specializes in Acute Care, Rehab, Palliative.

Oh. I am in Ontario. They don't have that here.

Oh. I am in Ontario. They don't have that here.

It's a good option, actually. Better than working as an RCA because they get to use whatever nursing skills they have learned to date.

Specializes in Acute Care, Rehab, Palliative.

ESN or some variation of the title also work in Alberta.

In my class, their was a young man from your ethnic group. His parents were very supportive of him. He went back for his BScN in 2006. Unlike Jan, most of us don't feel that a PN diploma is a waste of time. Actually, that statement is a bit offensive. In my province there are very few areas that PNs can't work in, perhaps that is what is upsetting Jan.

Just don't base your future on youtube

I would really suggest looking into all of the nursing RN transfer/accelerated programs that you can and adjust your courses for the next semester so that you can try to get the prerequisites done for nursing (such as anatomy and english prerequisites). If you are in your second year you would be able to apply for transfer programs. UBC, UBCO, U of C, and BCIT are some on the west coast that offer transfer programs after your second year. I think it would be worthwhile for you to look into that. Also, keep in mind that your parents may have an idea of what they want you to do for a career but you are the one who has to do it for the rest of your life. So make it something that you are passionate about and that you truly enjoy doing. That way you'll be better at your job as well and you'll enjoy life more. Plus nursing has great benefits and is a great job for any man or woman! They'll accept it eventually if they see how passionate you are about it.

Apparently Kwantlen also has an accelerated

Prgram, i would look into that but its for previous degree holders. UBC has prereqs and u also need a full degree of or a large portion

Of it done, it might be 2+ years of it done, i would look on the website. Its 2 years with few weeks

In summer off and christmas off, also you can esn in it

And finally BCIT which you dont need a degree

For, about atleast 2 years of it done and volunteer work. Summer off but u have a few online classes in that time, and the next summer clinical + 1 or 2 classes

Specializes in NICU, PICU, PCVICU and peds oncology.
ESN or some variation of the title also work in Alberta.

In my class, their was a young man from your ethnic group. His parents were very supportive of him. He went back for his BScN in 2006. Unlike Jan, most of us don't feel that a PN diploma is a waste of time. Actually, that statement is a bit offensive. In my province there are very few areas that PNs can't work in, perhaps that is what is upsetting Jan.

Just don't base your future on youtube

Um. I have not commented on this thread. Not sure why my name should come up.

Specializes in Cardiology.

I think she mistook our avatar's. :)

We're all entitled to our own professional opinions Fiona and sorry you find my views about an LPN diploma option for the OP offensive. IMHO it would be a big step backward for him.

Apologies, Jan. It was early and an IPad, on which I have issues with.

Pete, the OP has launched several attempts at a post secondary pathway. None of which has been to his liking. He's racking up student debt. He's decided to pursue nursing based on Youtube clips.

It would make far more sense to go the PN route for him because if it appears to be another false start for him, his student debt won't be that bad. I work with too many RNs who only finished the degree because of the student loans and trust me, it shows in their attitude towards their job, their co-workers and their patients.

It sounds, Pete, as if you are reading too much into the transitional care model proposed by AHS and some of the truly vile emails floating around the system written by paranoid UNA reps (and yes, my co-workers who have seen them have shown them to us and are horrified at some of the things being said about LPNs and aides by "fresh" RNs with little work experience).

I grew up in the BC, went to school with and have many friends from within the Indo-Canadian community and the pressure that some of their parents put on them was horrific (and I'm talking the '70s here). I'm a generation older than the OP and you, Pete. I can only imagine what parents my age are doing to their kids today, especially first generation parents. The control that some families try to exert over their children is not imaginable to those outside of the community.

Specializes in M/S, Psych, ART, CM, MT.

I am just curious, was there ever consideration given to becoming a female nurse?

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I am just curious, was there ever consideration given to becoming a female nurse?

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I wondered about that as well, but didn't want to mention it.

Somehow, I don't think a sex change would go over well at the OPs home.

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