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I wish I had understood that even though I had no self-confidence and low self-esteem all my life, that things would turn around in my 50s and I would become self-assured and wise. I had no idea that age and experience would straighten things out. I spent a lot of years feeling small and depressed. (Of course, the meds help )
That being a grandma is the greatest thing in the world and that I would love being in my sixties and being retired. When I was growing up in the 60s during the youth culture I was told that being old was worse than being dead. ie "hope I die before I get old". I would tell the guy that wrote that how crazy and wrong he was.
I wish I'd known how to stand up for myself and what I wanted. I passed up on some terrific opportunities because I allowed others to manipulate me into feeling unsure and selfish. Now I wish I could go back and shove the unaccountably missing backbone into my 17-year-old self so that I could reclaim those chances. I'm still not the greatest at standing up for myself, but I've at least learned how to spot subtle manipulation and how to call people on BS moves or irrational positions in a lot of situations.
Oh, I'd also go back and tell my spouse's younger self to maintain his health insurance, no matter what! COBRA's a lot cheaper than a medical bill bankruptcy in the long run.
i would have told my best friend not to do his newspaper route that day (rip mark). i wouldnt have let foolish pride and being a hardass in front of my highschool friends spit me and my 1st true love up..dang elizabeth. i figure if i could get those two thing back on a do over that would be enough.
Destiny12
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Hello everyone,
This sounds like an interesting thread. I will start. I wish I had more faith in myself and in my ability to be successful on my own. How about you?