wow, thanks for the great response. I one point I thought my career was affecting my marriage but now I have come to realise that my marriage is the problem. My career is great and will get better. The marriage on the other hand is going downwards fast. I am sick and tired of feeling unhappy or pretending to be happy. I was so happy and free when I was single. I am not very emotional and I married a man with no emotion. Here is the kicker I can count how many times I have held my hubbies hand. Crazy. No more for this new year I am going to eat better, exercise, enjoy my career, sleep better, enjoy life more, and walk away from this unhappy marriage. I know the road a head may be hard but I have been through a lot and I have always made it through. I will be fine. In fact once I told my hubby we should separate his response do what makes you happy, no emotion no care. I welcome your feed back.