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hello all,

does your career affect your marriage?

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Specializes in Med./Surg. and paramed. exams.

Sorry to hear of your troubles during the holiday season, but I must say it sounds as though you have a troubled relationship and it has nothing to do with your career.

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Fortunately my husband loves my paycheck so he is willingly putting up with the tired, ****** lady who has replaced his wife ;).

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Specializes in School LVN, Peds HH.

not married yet, but my fiance doesn't mind my profession. he loves it actually. he likes knowing i'm doing something positive, he has a typical customer service job and is looking to get into a job where he can make a difference.

my step-mom is an rn, and my dad doesn't mind it either. i think it all depends on the relationship, expectations, and the willingness to give and take.

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hello all,

does your career affect your marriage?

I had my career before marriage so that's a frame of reference I'm not familiar with. If pressed, however, I would say that marriage, kids, etc. definitely did influence my career choices.

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Specializes in Burn, CCU, CTICU, Trauma, SICU, MICU.

DH worries about "catching" things from me sometimes, so i don't tell him if i had a particularly gross night. hahaha

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Specializes in Cardiology, Research, Family Practice.

Everybody's job affects their marriage. Good, bad, neutral - Chaos Theory.

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Only if you let it. We have a neutral zone, no talking shop at home.

If you are stressed, I suggest talk with your peers then let it go.

I agree with Steph above, at times everyone's job affects their relationship.

In an economy where the sands are shifting constantly, difficult to

keep firm footing in a job.

The difficult thing I found with nursing is the shifts, but we managed

that issue as well....

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wow, thanks for the great response. I one point I thought my career was affecting my marriage but now I have come to realise that my marriage is the problem. My career is great and will get better. The marriage on the other hand is going downwards fast. I am sick and tired of feeling unhappy or pretending to be happy. I was so happy and free when I was single. I am not very emotional and I married a man with no emotion. Here is the kicker I can count how many times I have held my hubbies hand. Crazy. No more for this new year I am going to eat better, exercise, enjoy my career, sleep better, enjoy life more, and walk away from this unhappy marriage. I know the road a head may be hard but I have been through a lot and I have always made it through. I will be fine. In fact once I told my hubby we should separate his response do what makes you happy, no emotion no care. I welcome your feed back.:uhoh3:

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Specializes in Cardiology, Research, Family Practice.

I have been in a similar place, as have probably countless others on this forum. No matter the outcome you choose for your relationship, I can tell you this:

You are your own person, not merely an extension of your spouse. You can not control him, you can only control yourself. Make decisions for yourself that will make you happy, so at the end of your life you can look back with no regrets.

You are on the right track when you say you are going to exercise, sleep better, etc. DO IT! And if you find fulfillment in your job, then maybe expand your role there or go for a new certification!

How do happy people find happiness? They don't find it - they CREATE their own happiness. You have the power to do this for yourself! Irrespective of your husband!

This is a website that I really love:

http://www.happiness-project.com/happiness_project/

Best of luck to a strong woman in control of her own destiny!

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Thanks for this web-site very positive. I think fear has played a huge part in my life. Life I don't drive out of fear but it leaves me so sad as there are so many places I want to go, which are not in walking distance and I miss out. I love to read but the book store is miles away. When I got married I moved out of the city. I love where I live but you have to drive to really enjoy life here, and my hubby gives me a hard time when I want to drive somewhere. But fear are not I am going to start driving, because once I start driving it will make it easier to move on. I kinda feel sad, as I have only been married for 3yrs.

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Destiny,

I am so sorry for your situation. Stay strong and make the

best decisions which will bring you happiness and peace.

Best wishes in the New Year!

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