ok, am I boring?

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hello all,

after a long day all I want to do is relax and read my book followed by sleeping. On the weekends I have no desire to hang out with anyone nor go anywhere all I want to do is read my favourite magazine or play on the computer and may be watch tv no other interest. My hubby calls me boring almost everyday. Maybe I am boring but I love calm activities my days are pretty long and busy. Any feedback.

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Specializes in Nurse Leader specializing in Labor & Delivery.

Honey, maybe you are, but then so am I.

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Specializes in ER, ICU.

Hubby doesn't sound so supportive. I see an issue of respect here. Although maybe he sees some sort of problem and just doesn't know how to articulate it. Whether you are boring or not is simply a matter of point of view. Lying around all day can be a sign of depression. If you think that might be the case, get some counseling and open the communication channels with hubby. Good luck.

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That's fun and exciting, as far as I'm concerned. After talking to people all day long, I don't want to small talk on the phone either. I'm extremely social at work, but like the peace and quiet when I'm home. Matter-of-fact, I love it so much that I look forward to the moment when I get get into my fuzzy, wuzzy, plush robe after work...LOL

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Specializes in Emergency Dept. Trauma. Pediatrics.

Yes you are boring and you will probably soon suffer from Nerd neck just like me!!! (yes my doc actually said it was nerd neck and said majority of med students have it also LOL)

But sounds like Hubby wants to do stuff to, maybe try to find a little balance and go out for a bit with him, he probably will ease up.

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Specializes in Emergency Dept. Trauma. Pediatrics.
Hubby doesn't sound so supportive. I see an issue of respect here. Although maybe he sees some sort of problem and just doesn't know how to articulate it. Whether you are boring or not is simply a matter of point of view. Lying around all day can be a sign of depression. If you think that might be the case, get some counseling and open the communication channels with hubby. Good luck.

Hmmmmm just from her one blip about her husband calling her boring every day I wouldn't say he is un-supportive and lacks respect. Relationships are a mutual thing, if he is wanting to do stuff with her and she only wants to stay home there should be a middle ground found so both parties can be happy.

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Specializes in Neonatal.

I am the same way! I am such a homebody and I REFUSE to apologize for it :p but yeah, my boyfriend says I need to get out more...

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Specializes in Developmental Disabilites,.

I do the same.

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Time to get a new hubby !!!

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My husband and I are introverts. After long people filled days, nothing compares to relaxing in pyjamas with books. Sometimes your spouse is the same way and understands, sometimes they don't.

Right now we are grumbling slightly about having to stay up and go to his office party tonight.

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Specializes in Operating Room Nursing.

Maybe there is a way that you can both compromise here. I totally understand where you're coming from, I love lounging around on weekends because I have a very physically and mentally demanding job.

I don't think it's very constructive for your husband to call you 'boring' everyday, it sounds a bit hurtful and unsupportive. But I can also see that if that was me and my fiance just wanted to hang around the house, reading, watching TV I'd probably go insane from boredom as well. I love reading and doing all of the above but I also like to interact with my partner as well. Maybe he's feeling that you're not spending enough quality time with him?

If you like calm activities then how about going outdoors for a walk together (doesn't have to be strenous), find a nice relaxing spot and have a picnic? I find this actually helps me 'de-stress' from the working week.

Another thing you could do is find a hobby or project that you can both enjoy together like gardening, painting, home renovation or something.

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Most days, I just want to come home and snuggle with my husband, cats, and a good book, and that's exactly the life my husband loves. But some days I really want to go out and explore our new great neighborhood (there are a TON of amazing restaurants and events around.) So, my hubby and I made a deal.

Every Friday, I choose somewhere for us to go together (date night!) and he just goes along with it and makes sure that I have a nice time. Actually, I think that most of the time he enjoys himself, too, once he's there. Then I won't bug him about anything until next week! :p

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