The "Flirt"

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The 'Flirt" is on the loose. How many women flirt with you? Not just your customary flirting, but serious double entendre, risque stuff? No I am not trying to incite some sort of ego competition here. I come from a background of carpenter work and factory work, so the dominant female workforce is new to me...well new as in 2 & 1/2 yrs in the biz. Age range of these flirtatious beings ranges from 20-50ish...I am not extremely handsome nor am I gruesome. Do the ladies just constantly flirt and tell you you're hot as a common way of conversing throughout the day? Obviously I like it because I am a man, and love the smell of perfume and vitamins :-), but I already have trouble driving my car down the street in danger of hitting something when there are females in my field of vision...

Just yackin' here fellas, do you find that the women you work with are just that way or what??

Specializes in Psych (25 years), Medical (15 years).

It's the Gray Areas that can be the killer. Innuendoes ("In your innuendo!" -The Todd), insinuations, and other insidious remarks can cause trouble.

I like to be ojectively concrete with my flirting, so it can't be taken any way but positive. For example: "Gee- that's a lovely dress you have on, Mrs. Cleaver." -Eddie Haskell.

Okay. "lovely" is a subjective description. But you get my gist.

Dave

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Specializes in icu/er.

flirting is everywhere, some more outlandish than others..but cant say it has ever interfered with work. but i am really looking forward to the holliday parties....

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RickyRescueRN said:
I think one would be hard pressed to find one of us who has not had the women flirting in the work situation. As much as most, if not all hospitals and employers would discourage this type of thing, it still happens all the time. I guess it all depends on how one handles the situation. I just brush it off and have a good laugh.It makes me feel great that the women find me attractive despite the fact that I'm gay LOL

Don't you think that one reason they (women) flirt with the new guy is to find out his preference? I am not all that but seem to attract the girl when I really want to get to know her brother LOL 

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Specializes in Med./Surg. and paramed. exams.

Not so much the ladies I work with, but those elderly ladies that are patients seem to have flirting down to an art.

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Specializes in Geriatrics/Med-Surg/ED.

there's at least one everywhere you go!! they are usually the drama queen, the one who loves being in the limelight, and the one who gets too drunk at the work parties.........

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Specializes in M/S, Travel Nursing, Pulmonary.

Hmmm, guess my little part of the world is unique, or maybe I'm just not very observant but here goes:

When I saw "The Flirt" as a thread title, the first thing that came to mind was a few male workers (not just nurses mind you) who constantly chase tail the whole time they are on the job. Thats what I thought the thread would be about actually.

There are a few RT guys, a couple male nurses I know and a whole lotta other male workers (transports, env. services) where the guys are literally there to chase tail. If they get to bogged down with work to perform their "hunting" they start to become upset and get their panties in a bunch about it. A few will chase the young nurses around all day. If you speak to them and aren't one of their targets (because you're a guy, not a nurse they are interested in or for w/e reason) they give one word answers and move on......act like you were bothering them.

I need to transfer to one of these hospitals where the females are the ones doing the flirting.

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Specializes in RN.

OK...I am the original poster and have an update for y'all. Only a few days after the post the worst happened. I am going to start another thread for that sometime today.

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OK...I am the original poster and have an update for y'all. Only a few days after the post the worst happened. I am going to start another thread for that sometime today.

I told you so.

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Specializes in RN.

Let me ask this question: is it legal for someone "on the job" or "from the job" to anonymously call my wife and tell her a bunch of (out of context) info about what goes on at work???

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I've had a couple "older" nurses flirt with me a and bunch of the senior ladies at the assisted living facility, but never anybody my age or a little younger that I would be interested in.

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OK...I am the original poster and have an update for y'all. Only a few days after the post the worst happened. I am going to start another thread for that sometime today.

I told you so.

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Specializes in Every department except OB..
exit96 said:
Let me ask this question: is it legal for someone "on the job" or "from the job" to anonymously call my wife and tell her a bunch of (out of context) info about what goes on at work???

Legal, smeagal.....there's no law against someone sticking their nose in your business.

Welcome to nursing, where an inordinate number of "self appointed guardians of public morality" reside.

You don't even have to engage in flirting at work to get into this kind of trouble. As a male nurse, you can be totally professional at work, and if someone feels threatened by you....your personal life will become ammunition.

Allow that personal life outside of work to include a coworker, and you'll be lucky to keep your employment.

I'm not saying that this sort of backstabbing doesn't happen in other fields. But we all know that this isn't a job, it's a lifestyle. And also that a well kept secret is harder to find in a medical setting than a unicorn.

"There's a reason so many soap operas are filmed in hospitals."....

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