The "Flirt"

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The 'Flirt" is on the loose. How many women flirt with you? Not just your customary flirting, but serious double entendre, risque stuff? No I am not trying to incite some sort of ego competition here. I come from a background of carpenter work and factory work, so the dominant female workforce is new to me...well new as in 2 & 1/2 yrs in the biz. Age range of these flirtatious beings ranges from 20-50ish...I am not extremely handsome nor am I gruesome. Do the ladies just constantly flirt and tell you you're hot as a common way of conversing throughout the day? Obviously I like it because I am a man, and love the smell of perfume and vitamins :-), but I already have trouble driving my car down the street in danger of hitting something when there are females in my field of vision...

Just yackin' here fellas, do you find that the women you work with are just that way or what??

Specializes in "Wound care - geriatric care.
The 'Flirt" is on the loose. How many women flirt with you? Not just your customary flirting, but serious double entendre, risque stuff? No I am not trying to incite some sort of ego competition here. I come from a background of carpenter work and factory work, so the dominant female workforce is new to me...well new as in 2 & 1/2 yrs in the biz. Age range of these flirtatious beings ranges from 20-50ish...I am not extremely handsome nor am I gruesome. Do the ladies just constantly flirt and tell you you're hot as a common way of conversing throughout the day? Obviously I like it because I am a man, and love the smell of perfume and vitamins :-), but I already have trouble driving my car down the street in danger of hitting something when there are females in my field of vision...

Just yackin' here fellas, do you find that the women you work with are just that way or what??

I think most females in a female dominated environment tend to enjoy the presence of men, specially when they feel in some way appreciated. Let's face it: why do woman spent that much money and time making themselves attractive? I you guess to attract the attention of man you guessed right. I think it's interesting but distractive at times but certainly is just great to be around woman in scrubs all day.

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I make it very very very clear I will not out up with flirty behavior, sexual innuendo etc etc.

You might think it is all in innocent fun.... BUT.. the female will turn on you in a HEARTBEAT... and a sexual harassment charge is something you do NOT want.

And no, I am not speaking from first hand experience... But I have seen it happen.

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Specializes in Hospice, ONC, Tele, Med Surg, Endo/Output.

get over yourself. you love it!

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Well, I am a female and clicked on this thread! Haha! Am I allowed in here???

We actually do not have any male nurses on my floor but there are several male PT, RT, etc...and they flirt but I would not even call it "flirting". We all have fun and need a laugh every once in a while (as you all know!).

What about the female patients??

That's my concern, these dirty ole men! lol Not to mention, their wife, girlfriend, fling, etc is right there in the room! Can be embarrassing and uncomfortable, right??

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Specializes in Emergency Medicine.
I make it very very very clear I will not out up with flirty behavior, sexual innuendo etc etc.

You might think it is all in innocent fun.... BUT.. the female will turn on you in a HEARTBEAT... and a sexual harassment charge is something you do NOT want.

And no, I am not speaking from first hand experience... But I have seen it happen.

I was waiting for a response of this kind.

Where does the line exist between innocent flirting and sexual harassment?

When she gets upset with you when you flirt with someone else. Then some innate

alpha-female thing kicks in and she goes after you.

Let me be clear about this. Reverse discrimination does NOT happen. Administration

will go after YOU for making HER uncomfortable in the workplace. It's not right but

it happens more times than not. Then you're unemployed.

Best to keep it light-hearted and professional @ work. The hospital is NOT a dating

service and if you're in a small town with limited jobs... BAD place to be black-balled.

I have seen innocent "flirting" become career ending maneuvers.

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Oh no i best not flirt with them. That opens up a can of worms and I end up sleeping with them single or married doesn't matter. Sure It starts out innocent enough then moves to another direction and that opens up a whole other ballgame that isn't worth the Drama take from someone who knows. These are my thoughts use them as you wish

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Specializes in Home Health.

I enjoy being flirted with but I never initiate it, and always make sure it does not go over the line.

A saying to live by as a male nurse: "Never dip your pen in the company ink."

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I enjoy being flirted with but I never initiate it, and always make sure it does not go over the line.

A saying to live by as a male nurse: "Never dip your pen in the company ink."

OR... Never get your meat where you get your bread.

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Well, I am a female and clicked on this thread! Haha! Am I allowed in here???

We actually do not have any male nurses on my floor but there are several male PT, RT, etc...and they flirt but I would not even call it "flirting". We all have fun and need a laugh every once in a while (as you all know!).

What about the female patients??

That's my concern, these dirty ole men! lol Not to mention, their wife, girlfriend, fling, etc is right there in the room! Can be embarrassing and uncomfortable, right??

Actually it is a bit annoying that 99% of the threads on here are female dominated.. and yet females somehow feel the need to come in here... I think I'll go annoy nurses in the breastfeeding discussion group... wish me luck.

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I see nothing wrong w/a little harmless flirting- it's an ego boost! HOWEVER, we have one so-so looking new RN that flirts to the point where it's affecting her work- you can't even be in the same room w/her & her 'target' - she's shameless, plus she's married. She has made quite a reputation for herself w/her behavior in a short time. We're all annoyed by it & several staff members have decided to go to admin. b/c her behavior is making others uncomfortable-- clearly against the sexual harassment policy. Good sense dictates that you tread softly in the workplace. I'm reminded of the old Victor Hugo quote: "God created the flirt as soon as he made the fool"

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I think it depends how serious you are about your career. If you're in it to learn all you can & put forth the time & effort, there is little time for flirting. If you don't care & you're there for the eye candy/socialization/friendship/affairs, then no one will take you seriously anyway!!-- There comes a time in every nurse's career that separates the men from the boys (so to speak) & it becomes glaringly obvious to all who the serious nurses are & who the silly ones are. If you think you can sleep your way to top, maybe you CAN, but if you don't have the skills & knowledge & GOOD SOLID BACKGROUND to carry you through you will eventually fail miserably & come face to face w/yourself! I've seen it all & discretion in the workplace is a must if you want to be doing this 20 yrs down the road. Word to the wise: Keep your personal life separate from your work life & keep it PRIVATE or it may come back to haunt you!

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Specializes in aged care.

Amen to all these responses....keep it light-hearted, it's good to have a laugh every so often, don't take it seriously. I know that it is hard to do...we are men after all, and we do enjoy the company of women, especially when they are playful ;)

I love that quote......it's a hospital and not a dating service...absolutely awesome quote. well done!

treat the patient as if he/she is the reason that you are there....sounds smart.

being a bloke, I like the odd play (professional, appropriate), it adds to the teamwork. But remember women are dangerous...they have PMS....you get the good days, you get the bad days. just be on your toes boys, smile and nod, we are easy targets in this profession.

we are there for the patients, and not for the fellow nurses.

it's a hospital and not a dating service.....LUV IT!

keep counting the money boys...it's also a good reason to be doing it.

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