Terminated the third week into my orientation

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JadedCPN, BSN, RN

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Specializes in Pediatrics, Pediatric Float, PICU, NICU.
1 hour ago, TriciaJ said:

Yes, it probably didn't help to have such a draconian manager. Always sucks at the time. The interesting thing, though, is that in the long run I've benefitted the most from the crappiest people in my life. I still think they're crappy people, but I marvel at what I was able to accomplish because of their crap.

Reminds me of one of my favorite quotes: “In life you will meet two kinds of people. Ones who build you up, and ones who tear you down. But in the end, you will thank them both.”

Emergent, RN

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Specializes in ER.
14 hours ago, JKL33 said:

Or another possibility: There are issues the OP might wish to tidy up a bit, but also the manager seriously lacks some self-control and good judgment and is willing to let loose with ridiculous behavior over what amounts to a relatively minimal provocation.

The OP added the information that she wanted to video the termination. I think that may have been provocative, and maybe have triggered the cutting up of the badge.

That, and other things described by the OP are actually stereotypical millennial behaviors. Things like texting her friend instead of calling her boss when she's going to miss a class. I'll bet the manager is a cranky, older gal who is sick of the younger generation.

Hoosier_RN, MSN

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Specializes in Dialysis.
3 hours ago, Emergent said:

I'll bet the manager is a cranky, older gal who is sick of the younger generation.

I'm a cranky older gal who is tired of anyone, of any generation, who won't follow rules/protocols. I've never done a badge cutting, so something set that manager off.

I still think there was other things in the mix, since OP was terminated at 3 weeks. It's up to OP to self explore and work on it

On 3/8/2020 at 1:01 PM, HeartbrokenBabyNurse said:

It’s the same people over and over. I did not create a negative rapport with anyone. I did not speak to a professional co-worker/higher-up in a negative, condescending, or obnoxious manner. I was professional and polite in all aspects with the exception on what is written on this post. I have no idea why the lady cut up my badge, I was not rude when they fired me, I simply asked if I was allowed to record the termination or if I could have a witness present and they told me I could have someone on the phone but not record and asked if I was deemed ineligible for rehire. I explained to her how deeply sorry I was for what I had done, how embarrassed I was, and that I hoped I could take the experience as a learning tool to be the best I could.

Now. Again. I am NOT required to speak to STRANGERS on the internet in any sort of manner. I feel as if I have been pretty nice compared to how defensive the real world is. Not many people like to sit back and take false accusations from anyone. It’s just getting to the point of ridiculous. I asked for advice. This is beyond the point of advice. When does it stop?

It stops when people stop replying or when you stop posting or when mods close the thread. You asked for help, you got it, whether you like the advice or not. You just need to stop being defensive and stop getting mad when someone says something you don't like.

BTW, you could sell your house and your kids could go to school closer to where you will live and work. Happens every day. Maybe not what you want but them's the breaks. School is almost out so you won't have to pull the kids out of the middle of the school year. I am not saying it's easy but it's also not impossible.

Again, best wishes to you and your family.

On 3/8/2020 at 5:24 PM, HeartbrokenBabyNurse said:

I never expected to go through more emotional turmoil asking for advice from my more seasoned peers. I apologize for how anyone took anything I said. I really just want to put this behind me now.

You apologize for others took what you said? How about thinking about what you have said and how you have said it? You are blaming others but seem not to be considering what you have said and how.

Specializes in Urgent Care.

I feel that this should be a lesson for you as you move forward and look for a new job.

For me, when people are late, it comes off as disrespect. I was always taught by my parents that if you're not 30 minutes early, you're late. I've never had once incident of being late for work except when the huge fires in CA shut down our freeways because the fires jumped.

This is something you just have to own and move forward with a more reliable plan so that you aren't late or inconsistent in the eyes of your employers.

I hope you find a new job soon ❤️

ICUity

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Thread re-opened. Thanks to all for thoughtful responses, according to the Terms of Service.

The offense wasn’t something horrible but employers seriously have a hard time finding people that will show up. I guess this one is less tolerant of this behavior. It’s not the end of the world and I would just move on. Definitely don’t list them on your resume.

guest966516

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Meh. Don't worry about it. Too many nursing jobs that need nurses.

I was fired from my first 2 nursing jobs. My first 2! I had no experience, and NO ONE was willing to help me.

But time passes. Someone will hire you. You will go on to gain great experience.

Dont sweat it. It happens more than you know. People are hired and fired almost everyday.

We need to come away from this stigma. You were fired? Meh. Apply to another hospital, and forget that hospital existed.

You will be just fine. You are a nurse. You will ALWAYS have work.

Now, I will leave a job and QUIT for the pettiest of things IF I want to. Now the ball is in my court, and "I" have the advantage.

I have experience. You will get some as well, as time goes on.

Dont even bat an eye if you are terminated. For WHATEVER reason, it just didn't work out. I read earlier in the thread that OP was spoken to unfairly?

OP, I say to you, forget all the negative words. Leaving a nursing job is like finding another grocery store or supermarket.

There's always another one around the corner. Literally.

guest966516

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Also, you gotta remember, some people only come online to spew hatred and "tell-off" others.

Who cares what some person seeking to "admonish" you has to say? Its the internet. Dont take ANYONE'S words to heart. Yes, not even my own. I wish that you do listen to my advice, but that's the beauty of it, you dont have to.

People are a funny thing. As long as you keep coming here and asking people to "stop" tearing you down, you are in fact, begging for more punishment.

NEVER give people this power over you. NEVER.

Be strong. Dont be afraid to TELL PEOPLE OFF YOURSELF.

I used to be this way. I haven't changed my nice nature, but now, I realize, it is all psychological.

Tell people to stop, and they will lay on more.

Stand up for yourself and fight. PEOPLE will back down.

Dont say "When it will stop" babe. YOU stop this negative feedback.

Fight back babe. You can do it. If you KNOW yourself, then dont let anyone tell you anything different.

As I said above, dont sweat it, I was fired twice from my jobs when I first started out. Even if you HAVE experience, bad things can still happen too.

You dont have to learn from a damn thing. You posted your experience, and you see just how "helpful" people really can be.

I personally dont let ANYONE come at me. I fight. Tooth and nail. You can fight too.

You are fine. You had a small bad experience. You will be fine babe.

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