First off, there’s nothing wrong with being detail oriented, quick, and picky. Just like there’s nothing wrong with being slower paced and rather flexible and lax. I see a lot of similarities in myself that you mentioned above and I believe those are incredible qualities!
Working in healthcare with nurses and doctors, it is inevitable that you will end up working along side of or underneath a provider or higher-up that comes down hard on you, says something to you insensitively, or criticizes how you’re doing something. I think a part of growing and maturing is being self aware and secure in who you are. Just because somebody says something to you about what you’re doing, or even about something you’ve done, doesn’t mean you need to receive it and own it as the truth. It’s okay to say ‘thank you for sharing that with me’ and moving right along if someone says something to you that you don’t like or agree with. If someone is disrespectful, it’s okay to ask them to please not address you that way.. my suggestion though would be if you say something or address someone, that there’s a follow up solution that you can offer them to make the situation productive. (such as, when you address me this way, it makes me feel ___. I really want to understand what your needs are while also feeling respected. Let’s talk about this.) or something like that.
I thought I had thick skin until I got into the hospital and boy I was NOT prepared for the type of situations I was faced with. My patience was thin as paper. When I was in my early twenties, I was so focused on making sure ‘nobody disrespected me’ and ‘standing my ground’. But over time I realized it’s not about me.. it’s about what’s best for the patient. It’s not about being right, it’s about doing right and being safe. I don’t need everyone on my team to be my best friend, but we do all need to work as a team to deliver the highest and safest quality of care to the patients and the biggest part of that is communication. And if something is being done in a way that doesn’t encourage a safe environment where everyone is free to express themselves and address things, then follow protocol and take more serious action. Speak to the necessary people and do things the right way.
Although I’m like speedy Gonzales myself and I too get frustrated at slower paced situations because my brain is always 10 steps ahead of me, I find it so much easier to go about my day when I refocus on what is actually important and accepting that not everyone else is like me and that’s okay! That doesn’t make me right and them wrong or vice versa.. we are all unique and bring something special to the table as individuals! Enjoy the ride... be you... be amazing just as you are and you’ll do great.