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I really feel badly for you that you are having such a terrible experience. I am still a student, so I don't know the ins and outs of your situation.

My suggestions would be though that you do need to talk with someone. Even though they seem unapproachable, can you advise your manager and/or clinical coordinator that you need assistance and that if they can't help you,please direct you to someone who can.

Also, are there other nurses or employees in the hospital (or other hospitals in the area) from your country that can understand what you are going through and be of assistance?

In most hospitals, there is a CHAIN of COMMAND....First talk to your charge nurse on duty and seek some help..if no luck..then talk to your unit administrator....just follow the chain until you get the help you need...You can't just let this pass...YOU DEFINITELY NEED TO TALK TO SOMEONE!!! You have to protect yourself and your license..I work here in CA, and I'm almost done with my orientation ( 12 shifts) and I've also had different preceptors...Next week will be my last week of orientation then I'm on my own and believe me I'm scared to death! I don't know how it's gonna be like once I'm on my own but if I feel I'm not ready I will voice out my concern. Nurse-patient ratio here (where I work ) is 8-10 depending on the floor you work ( I'll be on float pool for a while....the unit where I'm assigend to is not finished yet but almost done)...I know how it feels when you have LVN's and CNA's who just don't want to listen or be a part of the team....frustrating! I too have yet to learn how to be assertive...I'll worry about that later, for now my focus is getting competent with my skills and making sure I give my patients the utmost care they need (easy to say, huh???)..Good luck to you! Keep us posted!

I am sure u can make it. Realising the problem makes it half solved... If u can write about it means u r not really "scared to dealth". U CAN DO IT. Try to be confident and think how hard u have worked to let some CNA's or LVN's laugh at u. I use to cry over the patients of one very difficult doctor and listening to the nasty comments of the senior nurses. That nurses dont know how much they have lelped me.Thay made me stronger and motivated...

Now I am good, coz I paid good price for it.

Get the courage and go to ur direct supervisor, talk to him/her. Follow the "chain" and cover ur back too.

Keep us posted and Good Luck

Sorry I'm going to vent so be aware. Also, I want to get your feedback and suggestions. I am a foreign new grad RN working in nyc. My hospital sponsored me for green card back in august 2005. I received my ead and ssn in october and started work in december. I've had a crazy orientation, no permanent perceptor for 1 month and finally a month of orientation. Ive been officially off orientation for a week now and am so misreable. Not because I'm working on my own, but I'm finally feeling the pressure and the heavy workload. My unit is a spine/ortho floor. I get on average 6 pts on days, but I just couldnt cope with the demanding pts, the bs that goes on mostly w/ the PA's, and the personalities on the floor. I dont get much help/support from colleagues. My manager and clinical coordinator are both bungholes for lack of a better word. NA's are laughing at my mistakes, some even yelling at me. I am often called slow and laughed at. I've already had one error and not sure yet of the consequences. I cant see myself working there for another 6 months. I feel like I want to transfer to nights or to another floor but I dont know how to approach my manager who is barely approachable. My other option is just to leave the entire place. But I probably cant do that because I will mess up my petition. I feel corned with no way out and nobody to talk to. Any suggestions or comments?

Hi; And nice to meet you. Even tough in such a bad situation. I'm really sorry about what you're experiencing. And, unfortunatelly, you could be sure that if I were you I wouldn't be under that pressure for one more minute more. I would certainly talk to someone, even though he or she is unapproachable, like you've said. I think the hospital should fix things up. They hired you, so they need you. But they didn't buy you. so , if the working conditions offered differ from those you found, it's your choice. And , as I heard here in this site, your immigration situation shouldn't be affected.

Most of us RN , after graduation, even in our countries, have found bad working environments. The most of us have survived, with patience and being smarter than the others. But if you don't feel you're respected, that's really bad and nobody should make you accept that situation.

In short I would talk to someone in charge, and make them know how I feel. After that, regarding their answer I'd decide wether staying or quitting. I hope this helps.

Faby

Sorry I'm going to vent so be aware. Also, I want to get your feedback and suggestions. I am a foreign new grad RN working in nyc. My hospital sponsored me for green card back in august 2005. I received my ead and ssn in october and started work in december. I've had a crazy orientation, no permanent perceptor for 1 month and finally a month of orientation. Ive been officially off orientation for a week now and am so misreable. Not because I'm working on my own, but I'm finally feeling the pressure and the heavy workload. My unit is a spine/ortho floor. I get on average 6 pts on days, but I just couldnt cope with the demanding pts, the bs that goes on mostly w/ the PA's, and the personalities on the floor. I dont get much help/support from colleagues. My manager and clinical coordinator are both bungholes for lack of a better word. NA's are laughing at my mistakes, some even yelling at me. I am often called slow and laughed at. I've already had one error and not sure yet of the consequences. I cant see myself working there for another 6 months. I feel like I want to transfer to nights or to another floor but I dont know how to approach my manager who is barely approachable. My other option is just to leave the entire place. But I probably cant do that because I will mess up my petition. I feel corned with no way out and nobody to talk to. Any suggestions or comments?

Benette,

I can relate to your problem - and there are so many of us out here. Please have a look at the general nursing polls on this site; go and read "do nurses eat their young". What you are going through; there is no excuse, and your manager ought to be ashamed of her/himself. Geena

I was in the exact same feeling with you before... I went home and feel depressed Fortunately, I work nights though... so I can avoid craziness during the day shifts... but anyway..you will have more patient at night and less nursing assistants to help you...

I can't quit...I just have to be practical... just like you.. but I worked through it until I got my greencard..and I am still working at this place... though.. I feel much better now though... I look at the job with another perspectives like "I am here for the patients, not to please anyone", "I'm here to get experience so that I can move on to different help care setting and units in the future" now I have confidence to be assertive for myself...

It's just your decision....

I recommended you continue to work there and try to look for other jobs at the same time if you don't really like your job...

I think for employment based visa, you can change jobs after 6 months...

Don't just quit unless you think the working environment is really unsafe for the patient and/or your license is really at risk due to high workload.

Thank you for all the replies. Its a good feeling when you know someone understands. I havnt spoken to my manager yet. Shes on vacation and will be back on monday. I was gonna try toughen it up, work on my weaknesses and try to be the kind of nurse they want. But the comments and snickering behind my back always get to me. I cant seem to ignore it. And I'm back to wanting to quit again. I'm definitely talking to my supervisor and then manager to transfering to nights. I feel more confident now that I know I dont have to take what my manager tells me, now I know I can talk to somebody else higher.

Thank you for all the replies. Its a good feeling when you know someone understands. I havnt spoken to my manager yet. Shes on vacation and will be back on monday. I was gonna try toughen it up, work on my weaknesses and try to be the kind of nurse they want. But the comments and snickering behind my back always get to me. I cant seem to ignore it. And I'm back to wanting to quit again. I'm definitely talking to my supervisor and then manager to transfering to nights. I feel more confident now that I know I dont have to take what my manager tells me, now I know I can talk to somebody else higher.

Why don't you first talk to the people that make fun of you?

Take them one by one to the side and ask them what exactly is their problem.

Your job, green card ,and your future is on the line here, so who cares about some ignorant people. They'll have their laugh and forget about you, but you will pay the price. Stay cool and don't let anyone take you away from your dreams.

Don't quit, you will always meet people like this and running away from them is not a solution. Learn how to deal with them and put them back in their spot.

why don't you first talk to the people that make fun of you?

take them one by one to the side and ask them what exactly is their problem.

your job, green card ,and your future is on the line here, so who cares about some ignorant people. they'll have their laugh and forget about you, but you will pay the price. stay cool and don't let anyone take you away from your dreams.

don't quit, you will always meet people like this and running away from them is not a solution. learn how to deal with them and put them back in their spot.

if somebody laughs at you give them a damn. make yourself strong and be polite but assertive. talk to your superviser if somebody tries to give you hard time unnecessarily. if that doesn't work go to higher authority but do not let anybody take over your future.

i strongly agree with you, margo.

if somebody laughs at you give them a damn. make yourself strong and be polite but assertive. talk to your superviser if somebody tries to give you hard time unnecessarily. if that doesn't work go to higher authority but do not let anybody take over your future.

hi, starbin:clown:

hope you resolved that issue with the medical!

hi, starbin:clown:

hope you resolved that issue with the medical!

not yet my friend. i am travelling outside.. so... planned to do medicals after coming back. i will not be available for work before that......

i just think that my focus right now should be to do my job right, being that this is my first nursing job. i know i will have to work on being assertive one day. but being new to a job and having to deal with these people can be too much to handle, especially to a new grad. its not easy to be assertive when ur new to a place and a new rn.