Sleeping On Unit

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My manager gave me a paper to sign saying 2 nurses said I was sleeping at the nursing station and ignoring my patient alarms. I told him I wasn’t even at the nursing station the entire shift and was sitting at the computer on wheels in front of my patients room. I was highly confused by this accusation and reached out to the nurses that were on shift and they admitted I wasn’t even at the nursing station and they never seen me sleeping.

I was still asked to sign a first warning. I am highly emotional over this accusation that is a lie and don’t think it’s fair. I can’t stop crying. 

13 hours ago, Aloe_sky said:

Thank you, I was put on the spot and never had a write up before, I did sign it. I am wondering if I can go to HR and have them open an investigation. This has really hit me hard and I don’t see my manager or coworkers the same. I don’t know who to trust. 

Trust No one right now.  You signed it?  Ugggh.  Let this be a lesson to you.  If you are even the slightest bit unsure of a situation aka doubt, pause give yourself some time.  Don't ever let anyone pressure you into anything.

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13 hours ago, Aloe_sky said:

I have it in text that 2 nurses said I wasn’t at the nursing station at all. 1 nurse did remind me that my ventilator alarm kept going off….I made the P.A, other nurses and RT well aware of these alarms and the RT and PA said there was nothing they can do. 

This is good.  It def wouldn't hurt to go to HR (calmly) with this and state your claim.

 

13 hours ago, Aloe_sky said:

I was wondering if there a way for them to track the computer I was using that shift, I can use as proof. I really hate that I signed the paper.

"I really hate that I signed the paper."... who you telling, smh

13 hours ago, hppygr8ful said:

Many times I have seen two-faced co-workers throw shade then deny to the person being reprimanded.

As a charge nurse I supervise ancillary staff on my shift. After weeks of complaints from both patients and staff about a particular staff's negative behavior. I knew I had to do something. The policy at our facility is to counsel staff at the unit level first. So taking the staff memeber aside. I quietly and privately informed the staff memebr about the negative behavior. Sh asked why I had a problem with her . I informed them that other staff had brought this to my attention. She wanted their names which I did not give but stated that a meeting could be arranged with house supervisors to discuss further. 

The next day when I was off the staff confronted several workers on the unit who all denied they had any problem with that staff. Several of these staff had complained directly to me. I escalated the complaint up to the next level. Long story short nothing was done. 

OF course they all did the "it wasn't me".. Cowards

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11 hours ago, Aloe_sky said:

It is very 2 faced and I asked one of the managers on another unit regarding this matter. He said he will look into talking to my manager or HR regarding an investigation. 
I don’t like that they lied that I was in an area I wasn’t.
I will admit, I am not the most talkative person on the unit which is why I use the computer on wheels and sit in front of my patients room rather than sit at the nursing station. I don’t care for work gossip so I stay to myself. I am very respectful to my coworkers tho!
we only have 1 big monitor on the whole unit, so I like to sit by my sickest patients room and put the room monitor on to both my patients.

its really hurtful that some nurse/s would smile in my face and go behind my back to get me in trouble. It’s so childish and I just don’tsee myself wanting to converse with them at all anymore. I have precepted majority of these nurses, I have more experience so they come to me for help. I just don’t care at all to even acknowledge them now. 

aaah this! I'm kind of the same.  I do take my WOW and sit near rooms as well especially my confused/dementia or fall risk patients.  I hear the occasional, "you must like sitting by yourself."  I just smile, that's all they're getting.

Now I do round and engage with my coworkers because you do have to be kind of cohesive on the unit but it ends there (unless I happen to be working with a friend or two or three LOL).

12 hours ago, Davey Do said:

My mantra at times like these: "My happiness does not depend upon what others do or say or what happens around me. My happiness is the result of being at peace with myself."

I have been written up, suspended, and terminated over bogus charges.

I am at peace with who I am and what I've done, therefore I am a relatively happy person.

Love this ?

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On 8/26/2022 at 9:13 PM, JKL33 said:

Forewarning: I have very little tolerance for bad coworker behavior like what yours did to you, but I think it's good to be no-nonsense in our own responses, too, so I hope my comments don't seem harsh. They are passionate, but not mean-spirited or critical. Okay? ?

This is not worth crying about, and entertaining thoughts of being "scarred" by this is not good. Not okay. You gotta get out of that mode, pronto.

These are silly insecure fools doing this kind of stuff. And mean-spirited, too. How ridiculous would it be if you were scarred, wounded and all out of sorts because of that kind of foolishness? Get into a mindset where you feel sorry for them--because I assure you they have way bigger problems than you do; both nursing and life are gonna be rough for them if they don't shape up.

As for you, you sound like a conscientious person. You're going to be fine if you learn to stand up for yourself. Doing so doesn't have to be confrontational, but you can see what happens when you do the opposite and immediately go into emotional melt-down mode--you end up losing the opportunity to state your case/defend yourself, etc., etc., and are prone to people basically bullying you and/or treating you poorly.

We do usually have some element of control over how we let others "make" us feel.

I hope you will take some time to process your emotions; rethink how you are feeling right now. Then go on about your business, take good care of your patients, continue being kind and professional. Going forward, it probably won't hurt to be just a little more interactive with your coworkers; rapports with coworkers can go a long way even when minimal and strictly work-related.

I hope this makes sense.

Take care ~

I loved your disclaimer ha ha ha ?

This was such a touching message to Aloe Sky, and for many others who may be facing the same, well written.

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I wouldn’t have signed. They would have just had to write in that I refused to sign. I’m not acknowledging anything I did not do (yes, I have been accused of doing something I did not do and was prepared for whatever came).

Are there not cameras on the unit? I would request that they be viewed and want to see where I was doing what I was accused of doing.

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Specializes in Psych, Addictions, SOL (Student of Life).
8 minutes ago, SizeInCare said:

I wouldn’t have signed. They would have just had to write in that I refused to sign. I’m not acknowledging anything I did not do (yes, I have been accused of doing something I did not do and was prepared for whatever came).

Are there not cameras on the unit? I would request that they be viewed and want to see where I was doing what I was accused of doing.

If you absolutely feel pressured to sign you can add this line to your signature "Signed under duress!"

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"I acknowledge review of this false report."

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On 8/26/2022 at 1:07 PM, Davey Do said:

When complaints are made, it is the higher ups responsibility to have paperwork to prove the complaint was investigated and something was done about it.

We don't have to like it, we merely have to accept it.

Low self-esteemed individuals will bring others down in order to feel less pain about themselves. This is a truism. We may feel personally attacked, but as they say, the best revenge is living well.

My mantra at times like these: "My happiness does not depend upon what others do or say or what happens around me. My happiness is the result of being at peace with myself."

I have been written up, suspended, and terminated over bogus charges.

I am at peace with who I am and what I've done, therefore I am a relatively happy person.

Days later, I’m still Crying. I think whoever lied on me must be so happy seeing me emotional. I need to follow this mantra.

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15 hours ago, JKL33 said:

"I acknowledge review of this false report."

I like this. 

Signing is not an admission of guilt but an acknowledgement that you are being written up.  If you refuse to sign, they just put "refused to sign" and send it on to HR anyway.

 

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Specializes in Psych (25 years), Medical (15 years).
8 hours ago, Aloe_sky said:

Days later, I’m still Crying. I think whoever lied on me must be so happy seeing me emotional. I need to follow this mantra.

I reiterate:

On 8/26/2022 at 12:44 PM, Davey Do said:

Aloe_sky, these are lessons I learned having lived 65 years and working as a professional caregiver for 47 of those years. course, I experienced every emotion imaginable and did my fair share of crying.

These trials and tribulations that I experienced, and you are now experiencing, were and will become bumps in the road that we can use for our growth and development.

Of course this situation hurts and is scary, but to transcend the pain will serve us well in experiencing illuminating revelations that will lead to understanding and a higher consciousness.

"The journey of a thousand miles starts with the first step."

The pain that you are now feeling, Aloe_sky, I felt 30 years ago, probably with similar thoughts and fears. I pride myself in expressing my feelings, pulling myself up by my bootstraps, and persevering.

"This too shall pass" and this ordeal will be nothing more than a memory that you will share in your retirement with another young nurse in pain.

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19 hours ago, SizeInCare said:

I wouldn’t have signed. They would have just had to write in that I refused to sign. I’m not acknowledging anything I did not do (yes, I have been accused of doing something I did not do and was prepared for whatever came).

Are there not cameras on the unit? I would request that they be viewed and want to see where I was doing what I was accused of doing.

We wear this hand wash sensor, I told my manager I wore that, he said it’s not reliable. I was however reminded that the very same manager said, we need to wear it so it can tell us how long we been in rooms and will follow us through out the entire hospital.

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16 hours ago, JKL33 said:

"I acknowledge review of this false report."

I will use this!

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