Devastated and Disappointed

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Please remember your experience on the floor as you go to a different possible management position. I feel many nurses in management forget the stress and strain of patient care. Increasing acquity and increasing patient load is leading to ever increasing disillusionment of nurses. Many times we hardly have the time to adequately address the needs of all our patients. By needs, I mean not just medication adminstration and ADL's, but reviewing their charts in depth, looking for trends in their behavior, labs, vital signs, and educational needs let alone their need to express their feelings and keep them safe. I often leave work worrying about my patient's mental,physical, and spiritual health. It's easy to feel like your inadequate and not good enough.

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Try an advice nurse position.

In your situation, I would consider taking the NICU post. It's a specialty of its own, and skills learned there will be somewhat of an asset in a future L&D job. Of course, I say this as someone who never worked in women's health or maternal-fetal health. I understand your disappointment, though. My first new grad job interview was for a CVICU job at a community hospital. I was the only one out of all my classmates who had applied who didn't get a job offer. The other 4 students got the job. Years later, I am an ICU nurse, with cardio/pulmonary and neuro experience. I consider it that hospital's loss.

In your situation, I would consider taking the NICU post. It's a specialty of its own, and skills learned there will be somewhat of an asset in a future L&D job. Of course, I say this as someone who never worked in women's health or maternal-fetal health. I understand your disappointment, though. My first new grad job interview was for a CVICU job at a community hospital. I was the only one out of all my classmates who had applied who didn't get a job offer. The other 4 students got the job. Years later, I am an ICU nurse, with cardio/pulmonary and neuro experience. I consider it that hospital's loss.

This is exactly what I was thinking! All the NICUs I've worked at have been very well staffed, the doctors are nicer (not perfect but no one is) and I've gotten lunch and bathroom breaks! There can be some nurse-to-nurse snarkiness in big city NICUs, but that can happen in any unit.

Another tragic epitaph due to the failure of the system to address the causes of nurses burn out and. the high washout rate. Studies have identified a rate from 30-50 percent by the 5th year. New nurse's exit their first job 60 percent in first year. Often identified as the chief cause is the direct manager. To date you cannot get this discussed at professional conferences. Just in the last few weeks I have attempted to contact speakers who have abuses of power in the description of their seminar. At first I was so excited that it might actually happen. I even posted it on blogs. Looks like I will have to pull the reigns on my excitement as my inquiry to get clarification has gone unanswered. When the topic of managerial abuses of power has been raised by me and others we are ignored or misled. Our new nurses deserve a better chance at succeeding. There is no accountability for abusers. Not even at a so called Magnet hospital in this case. I have experienced that, too. Perhaps it awaits them when they become aged and are patients staffed by what is left of the workforce depleted by their abuses.

Going to a casual on call position was all I could find to cure my burnout. It worked wonders. I still could work full time hours if I chose, but initially it helped to cut back.

Also working in a specialty like Labor and Delivery or ICU where the staffing ratios are better helps a lot if the fast pace of the floor is overwhelming. The extra training required is well worth the effort and expense. And as an added bonus the doctors treat you with more respect.

Another story of ABUSE in the nursing field and another response that brushes it aside. "Those who stick it out reconcile their values with the reality of the working world. They recognize the good they are doing by applying their assessment skills, and how you can comfort a patient with a quick word or touch or even eye contact. They see the bad, but also the good that is there, every day, every shift."

First, while it may be a reality (and getting exponentially worse every year), abusive, disrespectful behavior, as well as dangerous working conditions (yes, these conditions hamper nurses' abilities to perform patient care) should NEVER be accepted as being okay or normal in any way. NO ONE should tolerate such treatment! It always amazes me that (usually other nurses) give the advice that it is somehow "a part of the job" to suck it up and accept this kind of abhorrent behavior.

Second, it is almost impossible to do your best (apply excellent assessment skills, for example), and provide any kind of comfort for patients when you are not able to take care of your own needs given such a toxic environment.

Third, coming from someone who is keenly aware of the difference between nursing and other kinds of positions, everytime I step back into nursing from spending time in my other jobs (writing/editing, teaching), it's like having a cold bucket of water violently thrown in my face. I never cease to be utterly stunned with the difference of how I am treated: As a writer/editor, I am respected and appreciated by both supervisors, colleagues and clients. I am given the opportunity, trust and freedom to be creative. My ideas are taken seriously. No one treats me with disrespect, let alone abuse! I am not bullied. The work environment is pleasant. I can take care of my physical needs like sleep and nutrition.

As a nurse, rarely does anyone listen to my ideas. I am not only disrespected by some supervisors, but other nurses are often like packs of hyenas - hostile, petty, gossipy, bullying and unbelievably insecure. I have witnessed countless hostile/abusive interactions between other nurses. I am the same person - whether writing or nursing; yet, the way I am treated is like night and day. As a writer, I am not expected to stand on my feet for 12 hours having only gotten 3 hours of sleep the night before...and STILL be able to write my best pieces. I can even take care of my bodily functions when necessary; e.g., going to the bathroom. I can eat (without having to gobble it down in 2 minutes) when I am hungry.

Nursing (specifically, bedside nursing) is one of the only - if not THE only - profession where its employees are treated like paid slaves. AND, most nurses (mostly women) think it is NORMAL to be treated so horribly. Talk about denial! DO NOT let ANYONE convince you that you should put up with ANY kind of incivility, hostility, bullying, disrespect, unreasonable expectations that will inevitable affect your physical and/or emotional well-being. It is NEVER worth the tiny bit of "comfort" you give patients. Take care of yourself first!