Should boyfriend help me out?

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I am attending a community college for an accelerated nursing program. I currently work at a small local restaurant and get paid only minimum wage. My school schedule only allows me to work 3 days a week including weekends; therefore, I am making no money. I'm not qualified for student aid and the school I attend does not participate in any student loan programs. I've tried applying at other restaurants such as Chili's and Olive Garden but I don't get hired because they do training in mornings which I cannot attend because of school hours. My parents are putting gas in my car, but they can only help out so much. I still have a car note to pay and credit card bill. My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over 3 years. I have several girls in my class and their boyfriend is helping them out. Many girls were even able to quit their jobs because their boyfriend will give them money. I hate to work more hours and start failing school because of it. Do you think my boyfriend should be helping me out? Should he offer to put gas in my car, give me $50 or so? I don't think it is his obligation to help me out, but I feel he should.

It's logic like this that will keep me far from the altar :chuckle

yep x2!

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Good point. I wish my family would have helped me...at all....but after highschool that was it! Not even health insurance. I'm glad there are parents like you out there.

I didn't have health insurance until my first full-time job at 24. Unless you have some chronic health problem, statistically there is no real need for it when you are young and unmarried.

My family couldn't afford to help me. That shouldn't stop anyone. Actually I don't think any family is obligated to help with college.

steph

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I didn't have health insurance until my first full-time job at 24. Unless you have some chronic health problem, statistically there is no real need for it when you are young and unmarried.

My family couldn't afford to help me. That shouldn't stop anyone. Actually I don't think any family is obligated to help with college.

steph

Yeah, unfortunately I have a pretty bad thyroid problem (started when I was 15) I also had to have a surgery 2.5 yrs ago when I tore my ACL. Now that was not a cheap medical bill. Health insurance is very important :crying2:

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Yeah, unfortunately I have a pretty bad thyroid problem (started when I was 15) I also had to have a surgery 2.5 yrs ago when I tore my ACL. Now that was not a cheap medical bill. Health insurance is very important :crying2:

Sorry about your experiences . . .

steph

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Wow. I am so glad I was raised by a supportive family. I was lucky to get lots of financial aid for college for my first degree, but my mom would always send me money if I needed to buy food or something, and she is paying the loans for my first degree because she feels a college education is necessary in this day and age (which it is).

When I have kids, I will pay for their BAs too. I can't imagine not doing it. YOU brought them into this world, YOU best support them! I am 22 and going to be 23 in August and I am living at home for my second degree, on my mom's car insurance, health insurance, and don't pay rent (but I also take care of my grandfather)...and some of you would say that's wrong. That just shocks me. Some of you must have had really unsupportive parents and that sucks.

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Some of you must have had really unsupportive parents and that sucks.

My parents are extremely supportive. We're a very close family, they have supported and encouraged me throughout my entire life.

Did they pay for my college though? No. They helped out as much as they could, but they couldn't afford to put me through school.

Just because some parents don't pay full tuition for their children doesn't mean they love them any less or are "unsupportive". People do what they can.

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Specializes in ER, PACU, Med-Surg, Hospice, LTC.

I say yes.

Allow him to help you out if he wants to, but ONLY if there is a legal and binding contract in place.

No contract-No money. Period. End of story.

The cost for the paperwork isn't much. A couple hundred dollars is nothing compared to what hassles may be encountered later without the agreement.

now, the contract can state anything. For example, it can state how much he will be giving you, whether you have to pay him back and if you do plan on returning his money, when you will be paying him back once you start working. It can state how much you will pay him a month, whether interest is a factor, etc., etc.....

Almost anything that the TWO of you agree on can be in the contract.

That way, there isn't any arguing, animosity or bickering over the loaned/borrowed/given money.

Unfortunately, some individuals will use the fact that money is owed to them as a tool to control a relationship. They will never, ever let you live it down. I personally, could not stand listening to someone that had given/loaned me money, continually harass me about it and bring it up non-stop. This does happen, unfortunately.

Money can bring out the best and the worst in people.

(TO ADD: In the above post, I am talking about hundreds and thousands of dollars being "given" out....not the BF paying for the occ. dinner, movie, drinks..........)

GOOD LUCK!! :heartbeat

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Wow. I am so glad I was raised by a supportive family. I was lucky to get lots of financial aid for college for my first degree, but my mom would always send me money if I needed to buy food or something, and she is paying the loans for my first degree because she feels a college education is necessary in this day and age (which it is).

When I have kids, I will pay for their BAs too. I can't imagine not doing it. YOU brought them into this world, YOU best support them! I am 22 and going to be 23 in August and I am living at home for my second degree, on my mom's car insurance, health insurance, and don't pay rent (but I also take care of my grandfather)...and some of you would say that's wrong. That just shocks me. Some of you must have had really unsupportive parents and that sucks.

You said you were lucky to get lots of financial aid and that's awesome that you were, but some parents can't afford to give that extra bit of help to their children, it doesn't suck or mean their parents are unsupportive of their childrens' educational goals.

Also some parents choose to teach their children the meaning of hard work so that they their children will appreciate their own end result and can say that it was all their doing that they earned their degree.

That's just my opinion. I'm very happy that financial assistance was cut off in terms of buying my high school lunches, subway fares, school books and clothing since I was 15. If I didn't have subway tokens for school, I couldn't go; that taught me perseverance to work extra hours and make sure I had money for school items.:chuckle

Also I am glad that my college tuition was earned by proudly serving my country for 5 years, so much so that I am cannot wait to earn my BSN so that I can reenlist asap and once again help our countrymen/women provide the freedom many come to take for granted like free tuition from their fortunate and/or socialogically-obligated parents etc.

No one can ever say they gave me a free ride and helped me achieve my educational goals and for that I am extremely proud.

Oh well that's just my opinion and I know my opinion doesn't matter :twocents::twocents:, so to each his/her own.:usarfrc:

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You said you were lucky to get lots of financial aid and that's awesome that you were, but some parents can't afford to give that extra bit of help to their children, it doesn't suck or mean their parents are unsupportive of their childrens' educational goals.

Also some parents choose to teach their children the meaning of hard work so that they their children will appreciate their own end result and can say that it was all their doing that they earned their degree.

That's just my opinion. I'm very happy that financial assistance was cut off in terms of buying my high school lunches, subway fares, school books and clothing since I was 15. If I didn't have subway tokens for school, I couldn't go; that taught me perseverance to work extra hours and make sure I had money for school items.:chuckle

Also I am glad that my college tuition was earned by proudly serving my country for 5 years, so much so that I am cannot wait to earn my BSN so that I can reenlist asap and once again help our countrymen/women provide the freedom many come to take for granted like free tuition from their fortunate and/or socialogically-obligated parents etc.

No one can ever say they gave me a free ride and helped me achieve my educational goals and for that I am extremely proud.

Oh well that's just my opinion and I know my opinion doesn't matter :twocents::twocents:, so to each his/her own.:usarfrc:

:yeah: :yeah:

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my mom would always send me money if I needed to buy food or something, and she is paying the loans for my first degree because she feels a college education is necessary in this day and age (which it is).

YOU brought them into this world, YOU best support them! I am 22 and going to be 23 in August and I am living at home for my second degree, on my mom's car insurance, health insurance, and don't pay rent (but I also take care of my grandfather)...and some of you would say that's wrong

I realize I had said I am not bashing anyone, but I had to reread your comment because it struck a chord in me.

If I were almost 23 years of age, I personally would be embarassed to take money from my Mom for food, have her pay my loans for my degree just because she felt that a college education was a right not a privilege to have these days.

That just wouldn't sit right with me.

Having my own car insurance paid and not helping out with household bills while I was getting a free ride on my SECOND degree would not make me feel well either.

I'm sorry but a free ride on ONE degree is enough! :chuckle:chuckle TWO is plain taking advantage of a kindhearted soul otherwise known as an unconditionally-loving mother who obviously wants the best for her "spoiled rotten" son.

Again, I am not trying to intentionally come across as judgemental, but I have to admit that it's hard to not mention how I felt after you had said "YOU brought them into this world, YOU best support them!"

I realize that "we" all had no choice in being born, but we, the responsible few, can at least try to make our parents jobs a little easier for them by helping them out with OUR education.;)

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When I have kids, I will pay for their BAs too. I can't imagine not doing it. YOU brought them into this world, YOU best support them! I am 22 and going to be 23 in August and I am living at home for my second degree, on my mom's car insurance, health insurance, and don't pay rent (but I also take care of my grandfather)...and some of you would say that's wrong. That just shocks me. Some of you must have had really unsupportive parents and that sucks.

When I have kids I will also pay for their college but believe me I will put them to work. I have friends in their 20's going to college and in their free time playing video games. That's not going to fly with me.

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I realize I had said I am not bashing anyone, but I had to reread your comment because it struck a chord in me.

If I were almost 23 years of age, I personally would be embarassed to take money from my Mom for food, have her pay my loans for my degree just because she felt that a college education was a right not a privilege to have these days.

That just wouldn't sit right with me.

Having my own car insurance paid and not helping out with household bills while I was getting a free ride on my SECOND degree would not make me feel well either.

I'm sorry but a free ride on ONE degree is enough! :chuckle:chuckle TWO is plain taking advantage of a kindhearted soul otherwise known as an unconditionally-loving mother who obviously wants the best for her "spoiled rotten" son.

Again, I am not trying to intentionally come across as judgemental, but I have to admit that it's hard to not mention how I felt after you had said "YOU brought them into this world, YOU best support them!"

I realize that "we" all had no choice in being born, but we, the responsible few, can at least try to make our parents jobs a little easier for them by helping them out with OUR education.;)

And the other side of that is, some people have parents who have alot of money and want to give to their children bc they can, nothing wrong with that

Most people I know that worked throughout highschool and college, ended up not finishing college, or did poorly bc they were working so much.... IMO

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