Seeking real assistance here

[EstrellaAzul]

I'll try to make this short as possible: I graduated from LPN school back in 2012. I worked night shift a year and a half. I can't work night shift; it's bad for my health. I have Bipolar disorder type II (fall into depressions) for which I'm stable on my meds. I was going through an emotional difficulty right after that job until I got another job about 3 months later at a top research university. Unfortunately for 3 months, I had to put up with a preceptor who hated me, tried to turn everyone against me, and made me look like I wasn't doing my job.Trust me I was really good at my job.I was originally going to give 2 weeks' notice, but after I saw my supervisor blindly side with her without investigating facts, I arrived at an unhealthy level of emotional distress and had to leave the job right there and then.I could have reported her earlier but I had asked my father for advice and he said not to say anything.I now listen to myself more.After that, I went through more problems (relationships and deaths in the family) and couldn't look for work until almost a year later. I started to work at an outpatient surgery center.I was great at this job, too, with the exception of one problem: they were having me work 14 hours a day without 30 minutes of lunch to sit and eat. My body broke down from exhaustion and I left this one too without two weeks notice after 3 weeks. There was no physical way I could continue.I want to do nursing PT, but I have very large gaps that are difficult to explain and hide. 1)The general assumption is that I should never mention to a future employer that I left a job without two weeks notice.But what if the job I am applying to deals with the same I had dealt and done well with? 2)f I lie and deny having worked since then, can't they just refer to a background check and see that I *have* worked? Someone please help. None of this has been my fault. Life circumstances.

[EstrellaAzul]

Please I'd be so spiritually thankful if someone could help, I really need it :/

[bugya90, ASN, BSN, LVN, RN]

Leaving a job without notice is never a good thing. You are now likely "non rehirable" at those places and have burnt that bridge. They are also not likely to give you a good reference when potential future employers call them. At my employer if they call your previous employers they ask only two questions: are you rehirable and if so would you hire this person again? Since both of those answers would be no for you, they would not even call you for an interview. If you lie and say you've never worked anywhere and they later find out they could rescind the job offer and/or terminate you if you are already working for them.

All you can do is apply. However don't be surprised if you don't get any calls or only get calls from LTC centers as they tend to be a bit more forgiving.

[EstrellaAzul]

So basically, being a good worker but having falling victim to life's circumstances makes me "non rehirable" for positions I would be 100X better at than most people that apply to them.

I was expecting a more positive reply from a nursing forum. SMH. Everything I have seen. All the laziness, all the underqualification that is hired, yet I am "non rehirable" because I fall into the wrong hands.

[RainMom]

So basically, being a good worker but having falling victim to life's circumstances makes me "non rehirable" for positions I would be 100X better at than most people that apply to them.

I was expecting a more positive reply from a nursing forum. SMH. Everything I have seen. All the laziness, all the underqualification that is hired, yet I am "non rehirable" because I fall into the wrong hands.

Employers typically don't care about life circumstances of their employees. They care about having employees that show up & do the work. Unfortunately, no matter how justified it may be to leave a job with no notice, it pretty much guarantees being placed on the "do not hire" list &, when it happens more than once, having a questionable employment record.

Leaving with no notice, unless you already have another job secured, is like shooting yourself in the foot. The difficulties getting hired after that have nothing to do with how you compare to other applicants. It's simply that to a potential employer, you do not appear to be a dependable employee.

That's not to say you will never find another job. You just probably won't be able to be too picky & may have to take a less desirable position for a while until you can move into an area you really want. Best wishes.

[springchick1, ADN, RN]

So basically, being a good worker but having falling victim to life's circumstances makes me "non rehirable" for positions I would be 100X better at than most people that apply to them.

I was expecting a more positive reply from a nursing forum. SMH. Everything I have seen. All the laziness, all the underqualification that is hired, yet I am "non rehirable" because I fall into the wrong hands.

Everyone out there has personal stuff going on or has "fallen victim to life's circumstances". If everyone just up and quit, ere would be no one left working. You have burned bridges not only with those hospitals, but quite possibly the health system they hospital is part of.

The replies you are getting are honest. You aren't eligible for rehire because you fell into the wrong hands, you are ineligible for rehire because of your actions. Own it and move on.

[JustBeachyNurse, LPN]

I know people who lost their homes to a natural disaster and their car and still made it into work. Albeit a bit stinky from lack of sufficient showers/hot water. The office found her a ride to work. Coworker's brought gently used scrubs until she could get a voucher for work clothing.

You made a choice to leave without notice not once but at least twice. No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. Unless she actually was witnessed to have said "I hate you and I'm going to make your life miserable" it's possible with your personal circumstances you misinterpreted the scenario and made yourself feel persecuted (not hard to do when you have difficulties outside work). You assumed she sided with her but may have very well been investigating behind the scene (and I've seen coworker's play the victim and assume everyone is against them) if you were "really good at your job" then you should have been respectful and professional to give notice. It was your choice to leave without notice. One time a future employer may be able to overlook. Twice, that's difficult to overlook when you have dozens of other applicants "really good at their job" that never abandoned employment without proper notice.

You have a large hill to climb to be considered for employment. Some employers may not consider you for 1-2 years after you last abandoned a job.

Consider counseling if two jobs caused such extremes of emotional distress that you essentially walked off the job. Perhaps a professional counselor or job coach can help you develop a plan of action for future success as well as increased coping skills when faced with adversity.

Accept your choices in this dilemma. You were not faced with such adversity that you had to walk out and file a complaint with authorities.

This is not mean this is the reality of your employment decisions that now adversely affect your future options. The first step is to stop blaming your former coworkers and supervisors and accept your choices. So yes some of this WAS your fault. You did not have the resources to cope with external adversity. Others do it every day and find support groups or professionals or peers to help them stay afloat.

If you lie on an application, it will likely get caught

[EstrellaAzul]

Quite frankly, I don't know how any of you, except for Rainmom are nurses and can probably see how you've maintained stability at your jobs precisely because of the cut-throat aspect of your nature. I replied "victim to life's circumstances" because the advice of the post didn't include any hope for the future as Rainmom addressed and I quote "That's not to say you will never find another job. You just probably won't be able to be too picky & may have to take a less desirable position for a while until you can move into an area you really want. Best wishes."

That is called providing a stern outlook, but giving HOPE. JustBeachyNurse, you judged me and automatically assumed I was at fault. You assumed I "misinterpreted" a situation (to which I did have a witness but they were in a position which could not be compromised by meddling into our conflicts) and you compared me to another person who was struggling, AS I DID MYSELF. One of the very PILLARS of nursing is to do no harm and to essentially put yourself in your patients' shoes. I did so when I made a decision to not compromise my own health and my PATIENTS' health which could have been affected by the amount of distress I was going through in addition to the one they could feel from my preceptor, and that is more than I can say for you and others.

This is a conflict on an online forum. It could happen. Most of you will probably be upset or angry or worse, deny your own humanity, but I really do hope you take some reflection because this is not the way to treat a fellow nurse who was seeking help.

[rpsychnurse]

Regardless of why you left your previous jobs I wouldn't lie about them to future employers. You could omit them from your resume- but if a future employer asks about where you have worked previously I would tell and and just explain that you left as it wasn't a good fit, or something vague like that.

It sounds like you have insight into your illness- it mat be a good idea to talk with your therapist (or find a therapist) about the stresses you've experienced at work so they can help you cope and advocate for yourself if needed.

All you can do is keep applying for jobs and show them your best at interviews. Be honest but don't share all- employers don't care to hear about past drama (in my experience).

I think you've gotten some good responses here- there's not a lot we can do to help you other than to encourage you to keep on trying. Good luck!

[Caring201]

If you don't agree with the comments here, apply for jobs and see how it goes. I left the military 4 years ago and started working in a civilian hospital. within my first 6 months, I saw three nurses leave and heard them get put on the "no rehire" list. They all left and put on the "no rehire" list for different reasons. One was rehired too many times and left due to new marriage and husband got a job out of state, started school, etc. Another one left for medical reasons, gave her 2 weeks notice but only worked half. Because she didn't work it all, HR added her to the list. Another one left because she was pregnant with her third child, and was added to the list because even though she worked out her 2 weeks notice, this was her third time quitting. Some of the rules in the workplace are stern and employers don't care what personal things we have going on unless you find an exception to the rule. You never know- APPLY and see where it takes you. I sincerely wish you much luck

[Sun0408, ASN, RN]

I don't see anyone judging you. Employers do not care why you left. Most don't really care about you at all. Their only concern is are you dependable and can you do the job. In two cases you didn't and left without notice. Doesn't matter why to them. The fact that you left without notice may hurt you and you need to be prepared for that. No one said you can't get a job. Good luck to you!!

[RunnerRN2015, ASN, RN]

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None of this has been my fault. Life circumstances.

Ummmm, yea it IS your fault. You need to own it. You chose to not give 2 weeks notice not once but twice. Employers don't care about what's going on with your "life circumstances" -- they want employees they can trust to show up and do their job. Your track record shows otherwise. Life circumstances happen to all of us -- deaths, births, relationship issues, car trouble, etc etc etc -- but we still show up to work every day.

Not being mean, just being honest.