Dating As A (School) Nurse

  1. I was reading the All Nurses magazine, and was excited to see the "dating as a nurse" headline. It touched base on dating former patients, but I wanted to share my "dating as a school nurse" experience.

    I live within a 30min radius of where I work. My district is massive (I graduated with 1000 students nearby. Yes THOUSAND). Dating in the area is fun and dandy, but I started using some "meet people" apps, so local well-populated restaurants were a go-to. After my first 2 dates I decided that staying away from these areas, especially for first and second dates, was very important. I sounded super sketchy and overly private when discussing my job. "I love what I do. I'm a school nurse nearby. I won't tell you about my day because if I sound anything but cheery and a family is sitting near us overhears I will be ripped apart on social media."
    I'm not scared of privacy violations - I won't talk to that extent even with my family, but it's just the persona of sharing a frustrated/bad day emotion regarding a job that is tied to children makes me hyper aware of family in surroundings.


    Anyway, I'm currently not in 1st/2nd date mode and happily with someone, but it's just funny how my choices are influenced when out and about in the area I work/live. Ironically, the places I've run into students have all been an hour + away while on vacation!
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  3. by   Farawyn
    My kids have seen me on dates. Their general reaction is, "Nurse, F!!!" My BF is a giant, and that's what gets the most comments, because I'm 5'2'.
    That being said, I'm very quiet about my relationship on FB and stuff, where the parents can see.
  4. by   OldDude
    I date my wife, Sweet Petunia, on a fairly regular basis, and we are often seen and recognized by students and parents in the course of my courting her. Same verbal precautions as you mention but it doesn't stop our fun, and 4 or 5 Bud Lights (for me...Sweet Petunia is a margarita girl).

    Anything posted on Facebook is done by SP, sometimes on my phone by her when I won't do it.
  5. by   Farawyn
    Quote from OldDude
    I date my wife, Sweet Petunia, on a fairly regular basis, and we are often seen and recognized by students and parents in the course of my courting her. Same verbal precautions as you mention but it doesn't stop our fun, and 4 or 5 Bud Lights (for me...Sweet Petunia is a margarita girl).

    Anything posted on Facebook is done by SP, sometimes on my phone by her when I won't do it.
    Poor SP probably always wonders who the heck kidzcare and I are.
  6. by   BiscuitRN
    Last year I brought my husband with to the middle school play. One of the middle schoolers asked me the next day if that was MY KID I brought with me. Little twerp.
  7. by   imaneedmycoffeefirst89
    I am currently in dating mode and any time some one asks I just say school nurse.
    I do avoid any talk about my job but just because it's mostly spent talking about other things.
    I also go out but when I do, it's mostly outside my side of town.
    The town I live in is small, so most of the night life or bars or scenes are NOT there lol
    However, my facebook is almost non-existent.
    I rarely post on it. I do have an Insta and Snap but again, very limiting postings.
  8. by   OldDude
    Quote from Farawyn
    Poor SP probably always wonders who the heck kidzcare and I are.
    She knows you as my New York girl and Kidz as my Chicago girl. I remind her I have girls all over the country but, for some reason, she doesn't believe me!
  9. by   Farawyn
    Quote from imaneedmycoffeefirst89
    I am currently in dating mode and any time some one asks I just say school nurse.
    I do avoid any talk about my job but just because it's mostly spent talking about other things.
    I also go out but when I do, it's mostly outside my side of town.
    The town I live in is small, so most of the night life or bars or scenes are NOT there lol
    However, my facebook is almost non-existent.
    I rarely post on it. I do have an Insta and Snap but again, very limiting postings.
    Oh, I POST, right??? back me, guys and gals. I post on FB, but not about my relationship.
  10. by   Farawyn
    Quote from OldDude
    She knows you as my New York girl and Kidz as my Chicago girl. I remind her I have girls all over the country but, for some reason, she doesn't believe me!
  11. by   kidzcare
    Quote from OldDude
    She knows you as my New York girl and Kidz as my Chicago girl. I remind her I have girls all over the country but, for some reason, she doesn't believe me!
    <3 <3 <3
  12. by   Cattz
    Quote from OldDude
    She knows you as my New York girl and Kidz as my Chicago girl. I remind her I have girls all over the country but, for some reason, she doesn't believe me!
    When I bring my Mr. down so we can ride on your golf cart with you and SP on the beach. We can all get acquainted then.
  13. by   kidzcare
    I live in the district I work in and I don't think I have ever thought about this when going on dates. I don't even think I run into parents all that often when I am out and about running errands with my kids or grocery shopping.

    I did see some kids I knew from the jr high at the movie theatre once when I was on a date but I never talked to them and if they noticed me, they didn't say hi.

    Maybe I haven't been paying attention and now I will notice them all the time. Though boyfriend and I are kind of homebodies and half the time when we actually go out for dinner or drinks it's by his place which is 40 minutes away.
  14. by   Farawyn
    Quote from kidzcare
    I live in the district I work in and I don't think I have ever thought about this when going on dates. I don't even think I run into parents all that often when I am out and about running errands with my kids or grocery shopping.

    I did see some kids I knew from the jr high at the movie theatre once when I was on a date but I never talked to them and if they noticed me, they didn't say hi.

    Maybe I haven't been paying attention and now I will notice them all the time. Though boyfriend and I are kind of homebodies and half the time when we actually go out for dinner or drinks it's by his place which is 40 minutes away.
    They like...attack me. It's like they've never seen me before.

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